We all need to be heard for a little while.

idea

Very well done Whitewing and Littlewing. I admire you being so brave.

And the dedication is great too. I don't post often, but you don't all realise how much your words support me

Idea xx

Georgiegirl256

AntoMac wrote: »

Good people of this thread,


I hope you don't mind me asking for your thoughts/advice. I have a cousin who is crippled with depression/indecision. He is trying to sort out some considerable financial mess he's in and from time to time I have a chat with him or meet up to see if I can help or to let him sound off.
His daughter is mentally ill and won't see anyone so he has the added pressure of that. His worry is that if he contacts his creditors to get a final settlement figure for his outstanding debts they could dig into his personal situation to the point his house could be repossessed to clear what he owes, although he has enough to clear his debts. His situation is very complicated and there is a lot more to it than I've mentioned here but he just seems to talk himself round in circles without tackling anything.
He now worries what will happen to his daughter if he dies. It's really sad and I really want to help him as I know he is a very good and decent man. Much as I want to help him it can be very frustrating and it brings me down too. He is very intelligent and very good at going off topic so often we end up way off the subject of tackling his debts/paperwork etc.
Any thoughts as to what I can do other than say I am here if he needs anything? I'm the only family member he feels able to confide in.
Thanks in advance for reading. Just needed to get some of my jumbled thoughts out of my head.

I won't even try and pretend that I know much about mental health issues at all tbh, so hopefully some of the good people of this thread who have suffered/are suffering from such issues will be able to offer some invaluable advice.

It does sound like your cousin needs to start with getting some debt advice before anything else though. Although are you saying it's the depression that is stopping him from doing so?

I hope you manage to get advice to be able to try and help your cousin.

Georgiegirl256

Yay whitewing and littlewing! :T.

Hi idea!

idea

Evening all. Hope you all had a good day. Inspirational people. All of you xxx

purpleshoes_2

tea_lover wrote: »

Have just had to spell things out to FOH. Have been trying to get him to sort furniture and joint account but he refuses to have a conversation. Told him he had to get out of denial and get his act together, that we're not together anymore.

He asked if I didn't want to try to sort things, as he's made a massive mistake! :eek::mad:

Told him that six months ago that was all I wanted to hear, that I've spent two years waiting for him to come to his senses. But it's too late. Said that he's spent two years pushing me away and it's worked, that I just can't forgive him for going on holiday while I lost our baby, that I've had enough of being ignored in my own home and I'm looking forward to starting again - and he needs to accept that and leave.

Told him it was like a switch - after spending years trying to make him notice me, thinking if I just tried harder he'd want to spend time with me, I had a lightbulb moment and realised it isn't me with the problem, it's him. I'm not perfect and obviously I've done things wrong, but I've always tried to put him first, I've always been willing to work on things. But it was always thrown back in my face. He always had so many more important things to spend his time and attention on.

I did say that I wasn't trying to be mean, I wasn't trying to hurt him. But I can't live like that anymore.

He didn't say anything, just went out. No idea if he's planning on coming back this evening or not.

I'm just off out so will see when I get back in a couple of hours.

Sorry for the huge post. Just needed somewhere to share.

Good for you.

You said all the things I should have said to more than one ex bf.

Like shove off I deserve better

I don't mean the shove off in a good way. But as I've said on here before in my younger years I was madly in love with someone. Who left me and kept yo yo ing back and forward.

And after a break of a few years after that I met him in the pub one night and he said we'll keep in touch and see what happens.

Cue red mist even if it was just inwards to me. I thought you've broken my heart twice now and we will keep in touch and see what happens?

Shove off. For all the ups and downs I'll always have feelings to some degree, but boy. I'm so glad we did not end up together.

And I totally understood when you said about someone else not loving the person as much as you did. I felt that way too.

But it was his decision to let me go, so that's the way it is/was.

purpleshoes_2

I meant I don't mean the shove off in a bad way.

Long day, spent 5 hours at my local polling station with a rosette on.

Over 1000 members and 6 helping out it was good in the end (don't ask)

5 years ago I wouldn't have had the confidence to do any of that. So it's all good

purpleshoes_2

Some really awful things happening in my area voting wise. The party around here who have had a big majority and rested on it.

They ain't happy at change. So many irregularities at the polling stations today. People being bullied into saying who they were voting for on the way in

And a lovely msp who helped me last year got her tyres slashed.

All due to the fact that in a lot of areas people have decided to vote for another party

I've been voting since 1987 and I was shocked today and I bet what happened to the party I voted for won't be reported in the mainstream media.

But I hope tomorrow morning it's going to be worth the sore legs from all the flyer delivery

Stoodles

Morning!

Hope most of you got satisfactory election results. I did the all-nighter. Very much like watching those slow motion building demolitions, as seats steadily fell.

Pyxis

Yes! There were a couple of big surprises!

Stoodles

I'm still waiting for my constituency to be declared, and willing Nigel Farage to have lost his seat.