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Pyxis

Here is the latest repost of the thread etiquette.

Pyxis wrote: »

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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"I would like to discuss something to do with [insert subject here], but I am concerned that this might be a trigger for some people. Is everyone OK if I post about that?"

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

...............Thread Motto...............
Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper

jobbingmusician

How long have we had a thread motto? And Googling it just loops back to this thread - is that the thread title in Latin?

mellymoo74

ok

All my MILs clothes are in bin bags in the kitchen, there isnt even a death certificate as yet.

Angry:mad:

tea_lover

Oh melly. Wish I could say something useful. When my grandad died (Jan this year) it took a while to get a death certificate as there was an inquest. We only got the paperwork the day before the funeral - talk about cutting it fine! I hope that you, your OH and the cat have a peaceful evening.

Pyxis - amazing what a bit of time pressure can do isn't it!

If my hazy memory of GCSE Latin serves me correctly, that is indeed the thread title

mellymoo74

in a position to clear out what will be Mr T Cats room now as lovely boss has let me have some space in the newly purchased building.
OH is happier about that bless him, so grateful that people have helped because he isnt used to anything other than the way his lot behave.

want to get him in this weekend so im there

Georgiegirl256

Hehe Code! :rotfl: I'd totally forgot about that song (Georgy Girl) until someone on these forums mentioned it once, thinking I was much older than I am! I'm sure my parents like the Seekers too, but my Mam's all time favourite is Johnny Mathis!

Am I right in thinking you're Scottish? Just that I recognise the word Baw....I think (if I remember correctly) that it was in the Oor Wullie and The Broons annuals I used to get every Christmas! :rotfl:

Pyxis, I think sometimes we build things into bigger jobs than they really are, either that or some people just work better under pressure!

Melly, they don't hang around do they? My thoughts are with you all at this hard time.

codemonkey

Georgie, I am Scottish, and sometimes lapse into Scots without realising it - Scottish insults are a bit more fun I think. Baw=ball.

Pyxis - As the Queen of Procratination, I welcome you into my court, after you know, I've sorted my socks and played a game of candy crush..

Dancing at my desk again.

Georgiegirl256

I thought you were. Scottish insults sound a lot more fun and "nicer" than Cumbrian ones do! The Cumbrian accent/sayings are so awful sometimes!

Indie_Kid

I think I've forgotten to take my medication. Except, I can't remember whether I took it or not. oops.

Can't really take it at night because it'll have me awake all night.

Pyxis

jobbingmusician wrote: »

How long have we had a thread motto? And Googling it just loops back to this thread - is that the thread title in Latin?

Yes, it is! :T
Did it a while back!
I designed a coat of arms for WaS and this was the motto to go underneath it.
Being hopeless at drawing, I could only post the motto on here!