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tea_lover

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

The alarm fitters are singing Michael Jackson songs, one line each in high pitched voices. They are so cheerful and funny. They can stay, I like them.

They sound brilliant! :rotfl:

tea_lover

Right - if anyone sees me on here before 11am, tell me off! I have got to get my @rse in gear. Have one of those annoying tasks where everything is dependent on something/someone else and there doesn't seem to be a clear starting point. So.... will make it up.

whitewing

I would be really interested to hear about the paranoia.

I have lots of things that I'd like to discuss from real life situations but am worried that it would make me recognisible.

I am doing brilliantly at some things and not so well at others.

Today's big dilemma is do I eat my Easter Egg today or wait until Sunday, lol.

I was in M&S the other day and was really impressed with the Easter chocolate display. Some are works of art, and reasonably priced as a little present. So, anyone who won't be given an Easter Egg this year has my permission (no, make that an order) to buy themselves one.

Georgiegirl256

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Welcome, Georgie! So sorry to hear about the loss of your dear dad, you can always talk here and I for one would love to hear some of your happy memories of him if you would ever like to share.
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Aww that's lovely WaS, brought a tear to my eyes! In a good heartwarming way though.

Here goes: Everyone used to say we were like two peas in a pod. I definetly took after my Dad more than my Mam, in looks and personality. I understood him, and he understood me. I could talk to him about anything and everything (that's something I wish I'd done more, it's a regret that I didn't. ), I just can't talk to my Mam in the same way.

Like I mentioned previously, he was the most kindest, gentlest and funniest man you could ever wish to meet, and he had the greatest sense of adventure and lust for life! He was more up to date with things than I was! He was always up for trying new things and always showed an interest in things too, and even though he was only 4 days off being 91 (he was older when he had me) when he died, he could have easily passed for someone 10-15 years younger, I kid you not! He had the most smoothest youthful looking skin and just didn't look or act old at all, whilst that's awesome, it gets me a little bit, as I feel he had so much more to give. I guess all those years in the army, all the running, hiking and cycling (still cycling at 87/88!) stood him in good stead!

When I say he was my partner in crime, I mean that we were always rushing off and having adventures! Whether that be cycling down to the coast and looking for cool things on the beach (heart shaped pebbles being the last thing!) or going up in helicopters (we did that quite a few times!) we always had something fun planned! His sense of humour was well known amongst all his family and friends! He always made me laugh like no one else could, and ever will be able to ever again. When he was planning on doing something silly or funny, I could always tell! He had this cheeky little glint in his eyes and a smirk on his face! Most of them were aimed at my Mam if I'm honest! A fellow hiker asked him where his old bag was once (he used to carry an old duffle bag when hiking sometimes), he told him "he'd left her at home today!"

He was the only person who could truely make me feel good about myself (he told me I looked nice in a track suit once!) and the only person who made me feel like anything was possible. Who gave me a sense of adventure and, well now he's gone, and I feel like I've lost a limb. I'm finding it hard to go out with my Mam on a trip anywhere at the moment, because there's a great big gaping Dad shaped hole....a part of our team is missing. Hopefully it'll get better in time because I think she's starting to sense that I don't want to do as much stuff as I used to.

He was a photographer too, and passed the bug on to me. It was another one of our shared hobbies, but now I'm even finding it hard to find joy in that, as any new photos I took or any new camera/equipment I got, I'd always show my Dad first, and value his opinion over all others. I inherited his cameras of course, but I look at them and mine and just remember when we used to go out with them and take photos and then compare photos, and ATM it just makes me sad that I'll never get that again.

Sorry to go, I didn't mean for it to be as long. I'm now in floods of tears, which is good I guess, as it's been cathartic. It feels good to be able to get out all my thoughts into words and out them down. Thank you WaS for creating this thread. By doing so you've helped so many people. Like I said yesterday, I should have joined ages ago but didn't.

I hope I didn't bring anyone down with all of the above, and if you read through all of that then thank you!

Georgiegirl256

Pyxis wrote: »

I can eat today! May I have my piece of Mars Bar cake now, please? pretty please?
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You sure can! WaS, I saved you a piece too!

mellymoo74

work day elsien, me gonna clamber under silos in two

Georgiegirl256

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

I do have a healthy part of me that tells me to keep thoughts to myself because they are ridiculous and for the most part manage it, it just means that I still get to feel all the negative emotions before I can reason with myself. It will pass when the builders go which has to be soon, they have practically rebuilt the block!

Besides, I have a very happy thing that I am thoroughly looking forward to which I will tell people about nearer the time. That is keeping me grinning through everything!

You have done so well regarding the builders WaS! I can't believe how long you've had to put up with it for! I hate having workmen in the house, makes me feel uneasy, and I just can't relax at all.

Oooo the very happy thing sounds exciting! Something to look forward to!

Hugs, and to everyone else who needs one too.

whitewing

georgie, he sounds wonderful...wish my dad had been more like that.

It wasn't the same but I felt a bit like that when my Nan died - a nan-shaped hole in the family. But it really does get easier in time to rediscover the things you enjoyed together but with someone else perhaps. Littlewing never met Nan, but she knows that 'Nan would have so loved her'. You'll be able to share dad's memory and inspiration with other people and everything he ever taught you will carry on making the world a happier place. Even your simple 'looking for heart-shaped pebbles' has reminded me how much I love the seaside and got me planning some warme weather excursions.

PS Plenty of photography competitions around (especially small local ones). Why not enter one in your dad's memory?

Waves_and_Smiles

Hello, whitewing! I do hope those bad real life things get better soon, even if you can't talk about them I am thinking of you. I have 4 easter eggs, I got a little carried away...

Aw, gentle hugs, Georgie. What an amazing man your dad was! I loved hearing about his sense of humour! You shared so much together and both sound so alike, you must have so many happy memories! Of course you will be sad after losing him, you had such a beautiful relationship together. Do give yourself time, it takes a while to put yourself back together after a loss like that. You will never forget and you will always have a little hole in your heart for him but eventually the good memories will become stronger than the pain and you will feel a little more able to cope.

We are always here to listen, I would love to hear more wonderful stories about your time together and we are here for the sad times, too. I am so glad that you joined us.

whitewing

They weren't that bad (logically). I may pm you over Easter actually. That would be good to share with someone who will understand the embarrassment! If I don't pm, it will only be because of friends or family meet ups.