We all need to be heard for a little while.

elsien

I have funeralled. Everyone managed to put issues aside for the day and remember why they were there which was a relief. So all over now, back to everyday stuff.

Just wondering if JM has to wear a fetching hat while matched betting for Cheltenham, or do you save it for Ascot? I had a colleague who took Cheltenham off from work every year, and was extremely traumatised when someone got in first.

Hello to all the missing persons, it does seem to have been quieter on here of late without you guys.

Birdie85

Very exciting stuff MU. Enjoy the dating and excitement!

Who hammers on someone's door for 10 minutes Tea?! What a weirdo. I don't like having people turn up at mine unannounced, we live in a block of flats and quite often people ring our intercom to be let in for other people and I hate it. I peer at them through the spyhole and put the chain on!

As for dreams of the future vs reality- I thought I'd be rich and successful living in a massive house then I'd give up work to bring up my brood of children whilst my gorgeous husband kept us all dripping in diamonds! As it is, I fell into an OK job that none of my family or friends understand, we live in a little 2-bed flat, can't afford to move and I had to come back to work full time after having DS as my DH earns less than I do so we're lucky if his wage would keep us fed, never mind buying diamonds! I'm very happy with my lot though. My friends with big houses also have huge mortgages and loads of housework to do!

lostinrates

elsien wrote: »

I have funeralled. Everyone managed to put issues aside for the day and remember why they were there which was a relief. So all over now, back to everyday stuff.

Just wondering if JM has to wear a fetching hat while matched betting for Cheltenham, or do you save it for Ascot? I had a colleague who took Cheltenham off from work every year, and was extremely traumatised when someone got in first.

Hello to all the missing persons, it does seem to have been quieter on here of late without you guys.

One wears different gear to Cheltenham. Very warm stuff, but still smartish, but not like ascott at all. Very, very warm.

tea_lover

Glad it went ok elsien.

tea_lover

Am feeling mean today. My sister just text me to say she got promoted (was in the bag, she covered the job during mat. leave last year and was great). She loves her work, is good at it, has lots of friends there, etc. and I genuinely am pleased for her.

But (there had to be one)... I am so jealous it actually hurts. I adore my sister, she really is my best friend. We're in contact most days, always see each other at weekends, go on holiday together. So it's not like there's any bad feeling between us.

I think it's that I feel so unsettled. I hate my job. I've never had anything even remotely like a career - just a succession of slightly cr.appy office jobs. She's got a successful career and is moving through the ranks of it. I can't even look for anything else until the mortgage stuff is all sorted. When I do look, it depresses me to realise that I'm not actually qualified to do anything. I have a degree, and years of boring admin experience - but I would so love a job I could enjoy, and where I could develop and progress in some way.

This makes me sound like a v bad person, but I think it's worse now because I'm single again. For years, that was the one thing I had that she didn't. She's been v happily single since her daughter was a couple of months old, so it's certainly not like she was jealous! But she's always had a better job, more friends, a child, more money - being in a relationship was the one thing I had. Even though it was rubbish!

Ah... this is rambling nonsense even by my standards lol. Guess am just feeling like a v big failure today.

codemonkey

That's totally natural tea. I think there's always an element of 'why not me?' when someone gets good news, especially when you're in a transition period. I have been so jealous of friends sometimes that I probably should have turned a bit green. One of my friends seems to have it so easy - nice life, went to a good school, met her now husband in uni, got her dream job, got married, bought a great house, had 2 perfect kids, went back to the dream job and seems to live a life of domestic bliss. Whereas I've always struggled. Sigh. It only hurts to compare. That's her path and mine is different for some reason. Maybe she's jealous of my life. Doubt it. I have another really good friend and we confess when we're jealous of each other's lives. That makes for odd conversations sometimes. I haven't confessed to being jealous that she has a baby, but she knows. Crap, that is no help whatsoever, is it? You're not a bad person, just a person.

Ok, here's a weird thing I'd like to discuss. Before I begin, I'd like to mention that despite him being the most frustrating human being in the world, I love DH and I'd never cheat on him. Lately I've been having dreams where I've been getting close to other guys, e.g. that work colleague, an old boyfriend I had great chemistry with and Roman Reigns. In the dreams I've had the opportunity to cheat with them, I've been tempted but never done it - something always happens to stop it. Last night I dreamed that I was in a hotel room with Roman Reigns and we were about to get it on, when someone showed up and wouldn't go away. Its pretty annoying - I want dream sexytimes with Roman Reigns dammit! :rotfl:

tea_lover

Ovulation? Makes anyone and everyone look attractive lol.

Pyxis

Code! dreams are harmless! There's no harm in a dream, be it a sleep one or a daydream......it's just fantasy. Enjoy it!

The problems only arise if you want to make them reality, which you obviously don't!
(I'll have to google Roman Reigns.....never heard of him!)



Tea.....you've got a lot of change coming up, so it's probably just as well that your job is the one big constant at the moment.

Once you've got the house to yourself, done some redecorating or whatever, had a holiday, etc. etc., then's the time to think about the next phase........and see what jobs are out there, maybe do a course in something that takes your fancy, maybe even give knitting classes to people!
A lot of careers happen by accident, so when you're settled, go with the flow, look for opportunities, even if they are just hobby things or leisure interests, and then one day you might get a light-bulb moment!

Birdie85

Code is right, Tea. You're not a bad person, just human and these are natural things to feel, especially when you're going through a big transition! I get jealous of other people too but there's always something that you have that people wished they had. I wish I was a super kitter... like a certain lady on here!

Code- I went through a period a couple of years ago of having several naughty dreams about a co-worker. It had never happened before and it really threw me, I couldn't look him in the eye and got really flustered if I had to speak to him. I'm glad that a) the dreams went away and b) the guy changed jobs so I wouldn't be tempted to flirt with him! I don't really get the Roman Reigns thing either, I'd have to give him a wash (to get rid of all the body oil!) and shave his head then maybe I'd go there! On a slightly related, but fairly unrelated note, my DH is dressing up as Y2J for my birthday party in May! He's currently fashioning a light-up leather jacket!

tea_lover

Ah pyxis, if only time were on my side. The company is being bought out and I'm likely to be out on my ear in the next few months. In some ways though this could be a good thing - as then I'll have the fear to inspire me (yes, I still watch too much Friends )

Thanks peeps. Isn't it odd how often we're envious of other people but then how much we beat ourselves up about it... what's that all about??