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Waves_and_Smiles

Oooh, forgot about Spybot and And CC cleaner, I have those, too. I also use Revo Uninstaller which is really clever at getting remains of viruses/adware/unwanted programmes.

Gingernutty

I've had a good day and a bad day today.

Yesterday, I ripped up all the Japanese Knotweed stalks and burnt them. The smoke was awful.

Today, after the chiropodist, I went for my first singing lesson.

It went well. I'm going back. :j I've booked for the month. :T

I spent the rest of the day browsing the shops, buying only essential bits and returned home after five.

To find the feral children out in force.

The cover to the escutcheon on the front door mortice lock was missing after someone had blatantly pulled at it causing the thing to be pulled away from the door.

I got in, put the shopping away, put some of the rubbish generated yesterday in bin bags and promptly lost the keys to the back door.

It took about 15 minutes to work out where the keys were (under a piece of paper on the table).

This was after I retraced my steps out to where the bin bags were filled, rummaging through the rubbish and recycling bins and opening all the bags I had just filled.

I then set out to Homebase to get another Escutcheon and cover.

I stopped at the door of the house where the Knotweed is coming from and spoke to the tenant who lives there - she was on the doorstep talking to her immediate neighbour.

I told her about the Knotweed and how she's got to talk to the landlady about it.

I told her where I was off to and why and both women told me that their children would never do anything like that.

But of course.

So I went to Homebase, spent £4.99, took off the old damaged escutcheon, filled the holes so the screws would bite, painted the area and fitted the new escutcheon.

Good day. Corn and hard skin treatment so I can walk with less pain, singing lessons, a meal at Costa and the fact I have the ability and wherewithal to make minor repairs to my house.

Bad day. The fact I had to make repairs. The ferals have started.

I'm dreading the Summer.

Pyxis

Gingernutty, you had a singing lesson! Yeeeeee-haaaaaaaaaa! :T

Well done that Gingernutty! :T

And all that other stuff too! A very productive day!

Gingernutty

Pyxis wrote: »

Gingernutty, you had a singing lesson! Yeeeeee-haaaaaaaaaa! :T

Well done that Gingernutty! :T

And all that other stuff too! A very productive day!

Aw shucks, tweren't nothing.

What I'm dreading though is the return of the antics of last year.

I know, the damage is petty and it's how I react to it, but how do I stop reacting so negatively to it?

How do I react to it in such a way that it becomes "water off a duck's back" and not give me an ulcer?

Less :mad: and more

System

Oh my god i should not be trusted to go to gigs alone

I got there, only to find i'd gone to the wrong venue! Thankfully the actual venue was only 10 minutes away. I then got there only to be told i actually had a ticket for LAST NIGHT'S gig :eek: How i didn;t notice that i don;t know thankfully the very nice lady in the box office swapped my ticket for tonights so i still go in. The gig was great, they have a thing where they keep the sides clear so i was able to get to the front down the side. Didn't get many pictures though as my phone was dying. Overall its been a pretty good if not tiring day

Pyxis

Gingernutty, this is a difficult one, if you're talking about wanton damage and trespass.

Several years ago I had a problem with people parking on my property 'just for a minute'. It was clearly private property, with a sign to say so, and they stopped legitimate visitors/clients parking. It used to drive me demented. I would confront people if I got the chance, not furiously, but sternly. Some people were very sheepish but others got angry with me! for asking them to remove their car from my property! Derr? I even went to an anger management class to try to deal with it, but the therapist took the view that I was justified to be angry!
So I don't know what the answer is. The only thing I can suggest is that you try to ascertain who the culprits are and then have a very restrained and quiet word with the parents.
Is there a school nearby? Is so, maybe a word with the head -teacher? Maybe he/she could give some general teaching on respecting people's property and how it really upsets people, and how would they like it if someone damaged their, say, play-station or whatever?
I think if you can take some proactive steps, it might help to make you feel less helpless, which in turn, might help stop the anger festering. A lot of the anger is actually worry, I would say, worry about your property, what you'll find next, etc.
:A

I'm soooo glad you made that singing lesson appointment!
I'm doing quite a bit as part of the AmDram, and it's great fun!


MessedUp! what are you like! Mind you, I can see me doing something like that! I can get something fixed in my head, a date, a place, that's completely wrong! Usually I find out in time, by last-minute checking, but there was one time I drove 10miles early on a Sunday morning to an AmDram workshop, only to find it locked and empty, and then realised it was on the following Sunday! And I really needed a lie-in that morning, too!

elsien

I nearly missed a holiday due to not noticing the flight times had been brought forward. Now I spend the day driving travel companions mad by making them repeatedly check the paperwork for everything. I know it's ok but can't help myself I have to keep looking. A very small taste of what OCD (which I don't have) might be like and it's not pleasant.

Gingernutty

Pyxis wrote: »

Gingernutty, this is a difficult one, if you're talking about wanton damage and trespass.

Several years ago I had a problem with people parking on my property 'just for a minute'. It was clearly private property, with a sign to say so, and they stopped legitimate visitors/clients parking. It used to drive me demented. I would confront people if I got the chance, not furiously, but sternly. Some people were very sheepish but others got angry with me! for asking them to remove their car from my property! Derr? I even went to an anger management class to try to deal with it, but the therapist took the view that I was justified to be angry!
So I don't know what the answer is. The only thing I can suggest is that you try to ascertain who the culprits are and then have a very restrained and quiet word with the parents.
Is there a school nearby? Is so, maybe a word with the head -teacher? Maybe he/she could give some general teaching on respecting people's property and how it really upsets people, and how would they like it if someone damaged their, say, play-station or whatever?
I think if you can take some proactive steps, it might help to make you feel less helpless, which in turn, might help stop the anger festering. A lot of the anger is actually worry, I would say, worry about your property, what you'll find next, etc.
:A

I'm soooo glad you made that singing lesson appointment!
I'm doing quite a bit as part of the AmDram, and it's great fun!

Nail. On. Head.

Unlike the neighbours who are in and out of each others houses and know each others' kids, I'm in during the day, not out and about the area and it's this sense of being besieged that I can't shake off.

I do have a paranoid streak in my nature which went mental yesterday, when I couldn't find my keys.

I never lose my keys. I always know where they are.

With the damage to the door as well, my stress levels went through the roof.

I really don't want to, but I might need to have some sort of surveillance 'thing' set up.

I really don't want to give my paranoid and obsessive side free reign, though.

elsien

I think the feeling that things are happening that you can't control make it worse. So is there anything else you can do that make you feel more in control, and try not to stress so much over the rest? Not sure of the details of the problems you've had, but is there a PCSO who can swing past once in a while? Not that they'd do much, but seeing them around might nudge people into being a bit less of a PITA.
Ditto the knotweed. You're doing everything you can. At the moment there is nothing you can do to force the landlord to act. But reminders via tenant that he's devaluing his property eventually sink in, the law may change, a control may be found. As someone also affected with a neighbour who doesn't care about knotweed, I know how it feels. Tackle what you can do, and try to park the rest at the back of your mind.

And speaking of things I can't control, I am wanting a relaxed Sunday with the paper and Gitdog is bored and whinging. Sigh.

Gingernutty

elsien wrote: »

I think the feeling that things are happening that you can't control make it worse. So is there anything else you can do that make you feel more in control, and try not to stress so much over the rest? Not sure of the details of the problems you've had, but is there a PCSO who can swing past once in a while? Not that they'd do much, but seeing them around might nudge people into being a bit less of a PITA.
Ditto the knotweed. You're doing everything you can. At the moment there is nothing you can do to force the landlord to act. But reminders via tenant that he's devaluing his property eventually sink in, the law may change, a control may be found. As someone also affected with a neighbour who doesn't care about knotweed, I know how it feels. Tackle what you can do, and try to park the rest at the back of your mind.

And speaking of things I can't control, I am wanting a relaxed Sunday with the paper and Gitdog is bored and whinging. Sigh.

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