We all need to be heard for a little while.

Pyxis

sevenDay, I appreciate you're committed for today, but tell yourself this........what's the worst that can happen? Think about what could be the worst thing that could happen? Then say, is it likely to happen? Probably not.

Then tell yourself that yes, you will do it this time, but you will straight away tell the organisers that you won't be a Job Coach again. You'll be an administrator. You're a volunteer, for goodness' sake! If you really hate the way it goes today, put your foot down and say you won't do it again. :A

heartbreak_star

Hi all,

Sorry I didn't update yesterday. I will penguin the appointment details below!

The doc was absolutely brilliant. The second I went in I burst into tears, shaking, and apologised for wasting her time when there were really ill people in the waiting room.

She asked why I thought I was wasting her time, and I said "Because I feel so low and worthless when on paper my life is great". Then she said that means there is something wrong in my brain.

We talked out a few things - not least that I don't think I ever grieved properly for my Dad or got over his loss (NOT your fault, WaS!) - and I have some fluxotine and a referral for counselling. The doc is going to call me in a fortnight and see how I'm getting on.

I still feel guilty because I think there are people that need the counselling more than me but I will do it because I want to get better

Hope that ramble made sense. Thank you for the support everyone

HBS x

seven-day-weekend

Thanks all. I'm off to Job Club shortly (normally there for 8 am, but texted to say I would be there by nine - the participants don't arrive until 9.30).

One of my coachees I do not have a clue what direction to encourage him in now, for various reasons. I'll have to try to think outside the box.

Maybe a miracle will happen and he will suddenly get out of his 1970s thinking and not be scared of companies where he has to apply online, or a part-time or temporary contract.

Rambling again, have a good day everyone, will update later.x

seven-day-weekend

Pyxis wrote: »

sevenDay, I appreciate you're committed for today, but tell yourself this........what's the worst that can happen? Think about what could be the worst thing that could happen? Then say, is it likely to happen? Probably not.

Then tell yourself that yes, you will do it this time, but you will straight away tell the organisers that you won't be a Job Coach again. You'll be an administrator. You're a volunteer, for goodness' sake! If you really hate the way it goes today, put your foot down and say you won't do it again. :A

The thing is, I really feel I should be a Job Coach (we are all volunteers). It's run by our church in connection with Christians against Poverty, and I feel it is something I can do to help alleviate poverty in our city.

There are only four trained coaches and I don't want to leave them one short. We also have various helpers.

Thanks for your concern, I'll battle it through though. xxx

codemonkey

Hope everything is ok melly x

elsien

Melly. don't apologise for feeling angry. Anything you can think of to let it out without killing someone?

heartbreak_star

Good luck SDW! You can do this

Melly, hugs to you. Go punch the living daylights out of a pillow if you can!

HBS x

jobbingmusician

Morning all. I haven't been awake long - in theory, today is a day off work

7DW - I'm not quite sure what the role of a job coach is, but it occurs to me that admin is a completely core skill, and one which loads of unemployed people (and me!) sadly lack. Could you work with people on their admin skills - both in organising these and reflecting them on CVs, and in actually administering their jobsearch so that they approach jobsearch in a very organised way which demonstrates strong admin skills to the employer (and protects them against any unjust accusations by JCP!)

I will return...

(Later)

I posted that lot cos it suddenly occurred to me I wasn’t in Word, where I should be composing my posts so MSE can’t eat them. (Yes, Pyxis, it does seem to be an MSE thing.)

Melly – does it help at all if you reframe your situation? Your relatives do seem to be behaving appallingly, but it sounds as if you are punishing YOURSELF (by not eating) rather than them. Do they know about your food problems? At the moment you are getting angry with them (so would I) but you are then hurting yourself as a result of this anger, which makes me wonder if they even realise how angry you are. A pillow or something does sound like a good idea, because as I say you are punching YOURSELF at the moment….

WaS – brilliantly done with the workmen! Enjoy your new windows – I appreciate this will be from a distance but as you get better and better you’ll start to use them (for looking out of!) more and more ha ha ha!

HBS – you do come across as a lovely person. Hope your counselling comes through soon and that you really benefit from some ‘me space’ to talk things through. In the mean time, WELL DONE for making that appointment. And for telling us all about it – I wonder how many lurkers have been inspired by you to make GP appts?????

CM – how lovely to be sought after! Always worth exploring options

MU – your employer sounds great and they obviously really value you. And it is helpful of the OH woman to mention that there are other bipolar people in the company (and of course there will be loads as mental health problems are so common. It’s just great that your employer is so good that people can actually talk about it and so work more effectively and be supported to do so.)

Tea – good luck with H & S – it’s sooo difficult in a small firm but really essential.

mellymoo74

At work and their nice here so had loves and people chilling me out.

Errata

Pyxis wrote: »

sevenDay, I appreciate you're committed for today, but tell yourself this........what's the worst that can happen? Think about what could be the worst thing that could happen? Then say, is it likely to happen? Probably not.

Then tell yourself that yes, you will do it this time, but you will straight away tell the organisers that you won't be a Job Coach again. You'll be an administrator. You're a volunteer, for goodness' sake! If you really hate the way it goes today, put your foot down and say you won't do it again. :A

I agree with this. Sometimes a job - paid or voluntary - seems like the ideal one. Interview panel, management, trainers, co-workers all agree you're doing a fantastic job. But you know in your heart that for you the job is pants and you're pants at it.
It's vital to be honest with yourself about your own limitations and the constraints you have to work under when you're paddling around in other people's lives. Don't be a tick in an organisation's box, do something worthwhile for it and most importantly for yourself.