Nst; fearless february

Bobarella

Horray Synonymous I'm pleased for you! The open road beckons

Mothernerd -yes you clearly understand exactly the soaked to the bone and then one feeling. Sorry your energy company are putting the standing charge up seems to be penalising you for being good with your energy consumption.

Well although this is not strictly on topic for our challenge I had a sad experience yesterday and wondered if you wise Turtles had any words of wisdom?
I collected my son from school (he's only just 6) & if looks could kill. I tried to ask him what was wrong. I've had a bad day he says. Ok. I gave him something to eat and tried gently to get him to reveal the issue for a while. I thought he'd been told off the way he was behaving. He really wouldn't open up and I don't want to be a Columbo mum with just one more question so I spent the remainder of the journey cycling through puddles to amuse him and pretending his skeleton bike bell wouldn't stop ringing, so I had to tell it off. Naughty bell. All to much giggling from him.
At bedtime his dad did stories etc but it all ended in a row as son was messing about and being rude. Not like him.
In the end I went back up and tried again to find out what had happened that day. To which in a nutshell he told me. I don't feel like anyone thinks I'm special. Well I could have cried of course as all us mums think our kids are the best. We talked it through and it turns out that one boy who he is close to in his class has a 'girlfriend' in another little girl who my son also is friendly with. And thus all the others think this boy is special as the girl is very pretty and friendly. I've had her to play and she is actually the most delightful child who definately has an extra sparkle about her. So I can see why my son may feel a bit pushed out. He genuinely is friends with both of 'the couple' & I from the outside in I can see why he may feel a bit rubbish.
Thing is I have a tendency to feel all life's woes like knives in my heart and it is a curse I never hoped he would inherit. His dad is much more level and emotionally one size fits all. Up to now I haven't seen any evidence of my son being super sensitive.
Ignoring the fact that clearly relationships at 6 are utterly ridiculous and if I were either parent I'd be inclined to try and stop the children using those terms about one another or minimise any aspect of an out of school relationship developing. Hello teenage years are for that? I'm a bit thrown at having this sort of thing to deal with in Year 1.
First and foremost I want to build my son up so he realises that he is special no matter what other children think or are doing. Any ideas?
Sorry for long Off topic post but it's upset me to see him upset and feeling helpless.

thriftylass

Just thought I repost the March challenge link again. Will catch up, read and post later. Got a charity cake sale to help with at work just now. Later

Dizzy_Imp

Thanks for the link Thriftylass - I struggled to locate the new challenge...feel like my mum with technology at the moment :rotfl:

thriftylass

Woohoo, Friday and payday :dance:. Going to go to the butcher at lunch and see what I get for my money there for basics like mince, sausages and chicken. Will also pop into the greengrocer and the bakers. Sounds like in the olden days, love it but will need to check the prices first before I make that a habit. It seems we'll get a fishmonger back on the high street soon too.

Payday and paid towards our debt and into our savings. OH might pop out for a couple of beers tonight so I might grab the cider he bought me yesterday and start the first March mini challenge of decluttering the kitchen.

That's it for now

EDIT: Done the butcher, grocer, baker experiment and it was definitely more expensive. Even just looking at the price per kilo of the meat, some were nearly double. But heho, they're prob better quality and I will stretch them out but next time back to Aldee.

Calling14

I survived the dentist, no biting for the rest of the day, you turtles are safe. No pain like last time except for the cost. So 167.90 spent and then went mad and got tickets for ABC in November, got to one of my favourite albums from the 80s. Naughty step been pretty empty on there all month.
I can't eat much today, puddings no problem, so cheap night out in Wethers with my ex work mates.
Tomorrow will be a SFD.!
Thanks Mothernerd for an awesome challenge x

Calling14

Aww Bob kids just break your heart. Hasn't he any other girl mates could have round to play. My nearly 4 yr old grandson is in love, had the little girl round to play over the weekend however she has told her mum she's going to marry all the boys in the class. Good luck with your little one.

Bobarella

Calling -not really. I don't think it's about their relationship. Just that he feels stung by the amount of attention it's getting the other boy. My concern was more that a 6 year old boy doesn't feel special. I know you have to be careful reading to much into everything but if there's anything I can do to address a potential low self esteem issue now I'd love to. He's my first so it's hard as I have nothing to compare it to.

liltdiddylilt

Hi guys,

Sorry for silence yesterday. I had a bad day and sat in a grump on the sofa on my phone and then went to bed early again. Think I need to see the doctor. On days I am at work I keep sleeping the clock around. Exhausted.

Bobarella That broke my heart a little bit. Your poor son. From a fellow supersensitive type I feel your pain. I sincerely hoped that Jellytot would not inherit my temper, stubbornness and sensitivity but she has it all in spades. It isn't fun for anyone.

I have no practical advice. In a weeks time this 'couple' will have forgotten all about it. It does seem to be something that kids start earlier and earlier but my 8 year old nephew had 6 girlfriends at one point at the same time, so it was not taken too seriously and is basically a name tag, with lots of giggling from other students.. followed by possibly hand holding and more giggles. It should all wear off very soon... Hugs to him now though..! Shame it isn't just before valentines.. you could have got him a card

I think I am on 17 SFD's. Not sure. Need to check where I got to. If it was 16 then today makes 17.

Hugs to all.. yesterday was wet but today is glorious sunshine and blue skies with a bitterly cold wind. Spring is coming..! xx

Calling14

Bob it is very difficult when you see them feeling down, sure as lilt says things will blow over. Give my extra hugs and a wee treat. I collected grandson yesterday from school and a boy was kissing him!!!!!!!!!

sazzlebgood

bobOnly advice i can give you is to just keep an eye on the situation, it more than likely will blow over. It must of been very difficult for your son to deal with the situation he found himself in and then struggled to express how he felt.At least you know now what the problem was and your supporting him to understand his feelings and how to deal with them.Big hug to you both.:grouphug: