Two people didn't turn up to stag do and I'm out £100

vegasvisitor

roses wrote: »

This is like that article in the newspaper two weeks ago where the boy didn't go to a birthday party.

It's akin to wedding guests who don't show / cancel at the last minute.

Very annoying and very rude!

It's unlikely you'll get the money back but make sure you find a way to mention it if you see them again.

Also for future, never book anything on behalf of anyone else unless you have the cash. If you're organising a group do, set deadlines, if people don't pay by the deadline then book without them and let them sort themselves out.

It also reminded me of that recent story about the kids birthday party but it's quite different because at a kid's birthday party the host pays. So they weren't technically out of pocket as they would still have paid the same amount if all turned up. So I think they were a bit out of line there. However in this case if the 2 adults agreed to go (and pay) for the stag do, and if you have had to pay their costs, then they should owe you the money. I think the problem might lie with the fact that you should have asked everyone to pay upfront if you knew you'd still need to pay if they didn't go. Shame though as you wouldn't have expected that to be necessary.

OP, I'd let them know that you are out of pocket and leave it on their conscience. Maybe let the groom know if appropriate, after all it's his friends and not yours presumably and he might be able to help?

Pollycat

Snakey wrote: »

You didn't have to post at all. I've no idea what you were trying to achieve - you surely don't expect other people to treat your personal preferences as forum rules?

Me making "wild" (really?) assumptions doesn't impact on your freedom to base your own replies on whatever you like.

I asked you a question:

Pollycat wrote: »

Where does it say that these 2 'no-shows' are complete strangers?

As you've acknowledged, it didn't.

That's why I was 'trying to achieve', so thanks for that.

Snakey

You... wanted me to acknowledge that the OP didn't actually spell out, but only strongly implied, that these weren't people that he already knew?

I won't pretend to understand why that would be important to you, but it's nice that it made you happy, or whatever the positive emotion is that you experienced from this achievement of yours.

ToniLite

If all you've done is email the two culprits, try emailing again, explaining you're now out of pocket. If still no reply, text them, try calling them etc. Once you've tried everything, then by all means contact the guy getting married, and explain what's happened. If he then gets on to them, I'm sure you'll get at least something back, or at the very least an apology! But at the end of the day if they don't pay up just accept it as a lesson learned - and blacklist them to everyone. Definitely not worth pursuing this through the courts - can't believe some on this forum are advocating that! Rise above it.

I organised my brother's stag do, and it is a bit of a nightmare booking stuff for a large group, esp as it's sometimes just not feasible to get all the money from people upfront before booking an activity etc. What worked for me was charging everyone slightly more than what they would actually cost - if everyone pays, say, £10 more, then you're probably covered in case a couple don't show. If you've more cash left over then that can obviously go on beer money...

themull1

When my husband and i got married, we had a sit down meal, canapes, buffet etc. Each guest couple cost us just over £100. Two of my husbands closest friends and their partners just didn't turn up, one couple told him at ten that night that they weren't coming!! We could have had four extra people. And we didnt even get a card or present off either of them so they had no intention of coming.

I wouldn't dream of doing that to someone. Either tell them well before hand or show up!!

lil_homer

I went to book a large table at a restaurant for my birthday and they asked me to pay a deposit. I contacted all the people who had confirmed attendance to request their share of the deposit and a few then said they couldn't make it. Lesson: beware 'yes' people that probably didn't have any intention of showing up.
If you have no luck with the non attenders directly I think I would mention it to the groom (maybe after the wedding when he's got less on his mind) but refuse any offer of him to pay up. My guess is he would speak to the non attenders and encourage them to pay.