Two people didn't turn up to stag do and I'm out £100

gaving7095

Boy - they suck!

It's tricky but I think DO mention it to the friend who's getting married - I say this because I know I would.

And, if it was me who was getting married, I would want to know about such things & help get your money back as best I could.

Wedding guests these days easily run over £50 a head so my thinking would be, sack those 2 wasters off the invite list and reimburse you from monies saved :-D

Talent

Email everyone involved in the wedding that you have addresses for. Explain that 2 of the stag party didn't show and you are out of pocket to the tune of £100 because of it. Don't name them at this stage. Others will know who they are and may nudge. If that doesn't work repeat the email before the wedding with names. If you accept the loss you're a mug to let yourself be mugged.
And.... next time, don't volunteer!

moneyistooshorttomention

paul2louise wrote: »

If u email them again make sure u copy the wedding couple and the other guests in the email.

and/or just put a "gentle reminder" to those non-payers up on Facebook;)

JayD

I think you should explain the situation to all of the guys who DID go to the event and explain that this shortfall means you must all put in the extra to cover the shortfall. After all, the individual contributions were based on dividing the overall cost by the number of those attending.

Hopefully the rest of the grooms friends are decent enough guys to agree to do that. But even if only some do, it would help you out a bit. It's the only way I can see that you will get any of the money back that you are out of pocket because I really can't see the absentees paying towards something they didn't get any benefit from.

Yes they were wrong to say 'yes' and then not show but you too were wrong by not making it clear to everyone that the money needed to be paid up front (with no refunds) before you booked it.

Amara

DUTR wrote: »

Can you sue a fiance if they back out of a wedding?
Events like that, get the money up front.

I my native Poland, yes, you can sue ex-fianc! for losses you suffered , while preparing to the wedding.
Agreed, take money up front on events like that. Other thing is, you rather invite friends and you expect they'll treat you right, won't put in such situation.

sabretoothtigger

They owe you a pint and a steak dinner. This has turned into your free gift to the groom on top of whatever you actually gave, basically you're screwed

The RSVP should have said, money please its not a free holiday or whatever or just pretend like you in the red and they have to pay up front or its not going to be booked Then roll up in your jaaag
People are always crap with money and this is a normal scenario unfortunately

meknowalot-51

All of this is based on what was in the rsvp you sent out,was it made clear you were paying up front and they pay you on the day?In answer to the question you ask i would say don't bother the groom unless he helped plan the stag do.If you organized it then you have to sort it.More importantly you say your friend got married,so were the two guys at the wedding?and if so why didn't you ask them?You got rsvp's from all so i assume you know where they live,forget email and phone,go knock on their doors.They could have a very valid reason for all this,so listen first to what they have to say.Personally i think you've missed the boat as your best chance was at the wedding,or perhaps you did and people told you what they were like?

ajr77

NobodysChild wrote: »

Each person coming would have to give me the money first. Otherwise, how can I book their place? The company who are taking the money for the meals or event, cannot book a place until money is received for it, so as I need the money first, I would take it from each individual person. Anyone who doesn't pay, doesn't get to come. Simples.

If for instance, I was booking the Christmas meal at work (10 of us) it is £15.50 each, and I would ask for the £15.50 from each person involved.

I have booked Christmas meals for my works team. Generally, I have only been asked for a deposit, not the full £15.50. Even so I am going to be a bit more wary now!

Snakey

Pollycat wrote: »

It's OK, you could have just stopped at this point.

You may be happy making wild assumptions about posts but I like to base my replies on facts, not assumptions.

You didn't have to post at all. I've no idea what you were trying to achieve - you surely don't expect other people to treat your personal preferences as forum rules?

Me making "wild" (really?) assumptions doesn't impact on your freedom to base your own replies on whatever you like.

woodville_2

This one is really simple. You organised the stag night on behalf of the groom - that was your role.
Get the groom to send a note out to everyone who was invited explaining what happened and saying you are out of pocket - asking that either the no-shows pay up or everyone chips in and that anything else simply is not an option. Social pressure should produce the desire result.
Everyone will know who ducked out so whether or not he names them is probably immaterial.