Fake job for 5 years from son's GF - what do I do

PennyForThem_2

How would you deal with this?


I and son were totally convinced she had a job paying 18K. To be fair she managed the money so that it was not apparent and yes, son admits he did not look at bank account and totally trusted her - there were no problems so typically he did not question.


He has learnt better.


However I helped out with money and gifts - I did wonder but did not question. There were other indicators which now make sense.


I am left not trusting her. I want to talk to her but this has not happened (250 mile distance and this is not a phone call type solution IMO). I want to talk face to face - how much do I push this?


What do I do?

Tigsteroonie

Surely this is your son's problem and not yours?

Annisele

What are you trying to achieve?

I don't think I'd do anything; I'd leave son to sort things out (or not).

BitterAndTwisted

Stay out of it! Support your son 100% if he wants to leave her, but otherwise have nothing to do with their troubles.

victory

PennyForThem wrote: »

How would you deal with this?


I and son were totally convinced she had a job paying 18K. To be fair she managed the money so that it was not apparent and yes, son admits he did not look at bank account and totally trusted her - there were no problems so typically he did not question.


He has learnt better.


However I helped out with money and gifts - I did wonder but did not question. There were other indicators which now make sense.


I am left not trusting her. I want to talk to her but this has not happened (250 mile distance and this is not a phone call type solution IMO). I want to talk face to face - how much do I push this?


What do I do?

What do you do? Did your son ask you to do anything? Is it not down to your son and his gf to sort out or do you mean what do you do about getting the money back that you lent them?

What do you do? Nothing? Not your situation...

*max*

What?

She faked going to work for 5 years? What did she do all day? And where did she get her money from, that she was supposedly earning (and spending, I imagine, like someone on 18K a year would...). Are they living together?

Edit: of course you don't "do" anything, this isn't your problem, it's your son's. Support him when needed, but stay out of it!

j.e.j.

*max* wrote: »

What?

She faked going to work for 5 years? What did she do all day? And where did she get her money from, that she was supposedly earning (and spending, I imagine, like someone on 18K a year would...). Are they living together?

I was wondering that :rotfl:

Did she have a job, but one that paid less, perhaps, and she pretended she was getting £18k ?

Pollycat

I agree with the other replies.
Not your problem to sort out.

Has your son asked you to get involved?
If he has, what does HE expect you to do?

Nice to see you posting, Victory.

Marisco

How did you/son find out?

Buzzybee90

How does someone cover this up for 5 years? Also, I'd be telling your son to be a little more assertive...

duchy

If you want to "talk to her face to face" and you are 250 miles away- you'd obviously need to visit- however this isn't your problem and unless your son has specifically asked you to discuss it with her - then butt out.

The fact that in 5 years your son had no idea she wasn't working says he's either not very bright- or there is a lot more to this than you are saying ( and indeed more than you may know)