Wedding guest outfit - Help

Tiptoppex

Not totally sure if this is the right place to be posting or not, the wedding forum didn't seem quite right.

I'm going to a wedding in early March - big event, no expense spared kind of event, So I have to venture away from my usual wardrobe :eek:

My boyfriend is also the best man, so I have a horrible feeling I may get dragged in to more photos than I'd like (ie none!)

Basically I have no idea if the dress I've found is a) Suitable for a wedding and b) what on earth to do accessories wise. Any help and opinions would be greatly appreciated if possible

The dress is black and red which in some cases people seem to say both colours are a big no no for weddings. The link below is the same pattern but slightly different style (mine is a strapless)

http://www.popscreen.com/p/MTM0NTU1MzMy/NEW-LIVING-DEAD-SOULS-BLACK-RED-FLOWERY-50s-ROCKABILLY-SWING-RETRO-

What are everyones opinions on that pattern/colourings for a wedding outfit? I have very little confidence so I don't want to stand out too much, but i must admit I really like this dress and it doesn't actually look to bad on either.

If I do go with the dress, then it comes to the dreaded accessories: is it best to go all matchy matchy? or use complimenting colours?

The accessories I need to decide on colours are shoes, purse, Shawl/bolero/shrug (not sure what yet, just need to hide my arms), and a fascinator.

The only thing I know so far is that I can't wear a dark fascinator as I have dark hair and it would just get hidden.

I'd give anything to just be able to go in my leggings and jumper!

Thanks in advance for you opinions

Fruittea

Hi Tiptopex
My first thoughts are it's a great dress but it looks more like an evening inside party dress and you might be quite cold in it.


It it will be difficult to accessorise with anything other than black. What about outside photos?


So you'll need a new coat as well and unless you can get the right tone red it will also need to be black - it will made you stand out in the crowd.


I would perhaps think again. If you feel more comfortable in leggings why not try something floaty over leggings and a top - then you might get the best out of both worlds.


When I've been stuck for stuff I've tried this site for ideas: http://www.notonthehighstreet.com/fashion/womens-fashion/dresses


Also it might be a good idea (as your chaps the best man) to check if there's a bit of a theme going on and you could then try to blend in.


Good luck,

belfastgirl23

Well first of all having been the best man's GF/wife more than once, in fact you probably won't be in that many photos and you might well feel like a bit of a spare part! If I were you I'd ask where I"m to be seated presuming the best man will be sitting at the top table, squiring the bridesmaids about and being general gofer for the groom. Therefore he will spend very little time with you, so ideally you'll be sitting with people you feel comfortable with or even a couple of other 'single for the day' people.

That is a really lovely dress but tbh it doesn't look that weddingy to me, especially for a wedding in March. But then again I'm not that great at this sort of thing! If you're quite young (early 20s) or very slim you might be able to get away with it though. Will be interested to see what the fashionistas thing though

Scrapaholic

Hi, I like the dress and you like it and say it looks nice . Don't think there's a problem with the colours . You could have a red fascinator . Silver bag and silver fascinator or hair slide / comb , silver jewellery , black shoes ? It'll still be cool in March so will you wear tights ? I think if you're comfortable in an outfit you feel more confident and you did say it looks ok . I think as long as you've made an effort to dress for the occasion it'll be fine . If you did go in your leggings and jumper you would stand out but not in a good way ! Remember to try and enjoy the day .

swingaloo

I like it and I don't see a problem with the colour at all. I would accessorise with black though because if you try to get red shoes etc they wont look right if the shade is slightly different.
I would go with a black shawl and not worry about a coat. I don't think you are outside too much at most weddings but perhaps pop a black brolly in the car just in case.


I would stick to black with the fascinator but there are loads of choices so keeping in mind what you say about your hair I would try to get a black one with a touch of red.

tea_lover

Its not a very weddingy dress, especially strapless. Do you have any other options?

Lunar_Eclipse

Personally I think it's far too informal for a wedding, and since you say it's a no expenses spared event, I would say it's inappropriate.

Although your partner is part of the bridal party, most men wear suits to weddings, so women should wear something that matches in formality. So a tailored dress (especially since it's not Summer where you can get away with something less formal), jacket and skirt/dress, or trousers if you prefer. I would always wear a jacket to a wedding, as opposed to a cardigan. Some outfits are fine with a cardigan, but from weddings I've been to, jackets would be the norm for men and women. So basically something as smart as going to work, but obviously you can venture away from a navy suit (though that would also be fine.)

millysg1

I'm 27 and at that age where I go to a lot of weddings (about 5 a year for last 6 years). Personally, as much as I like the dress that would be huge no no for me. If it was evening only invite then definitely but it I wouldn't for a day wedding.

But in then end, up to you, you have to feel comfortable.

thorsoak

Wouldn't have thought that design was formal enough for a wedding ....how about something like this:- http://www.johnlewis.com/ariella-bow-belt-cami-dress-cherry/p1841082 - with this :- http://www.johnlewis.com/ariella-lori-bolero-cherry/p1841090?navAction=jump

Tiptoppex

Not totally sure how I do multiple quotes so I hope I remember every ones comments!

I was just planning on wearing a smart beige coat that I already own. I'm not one for spending out on something I'll only wear once..The dress itself was a charity shop find!

I've been told by the bride herself that I am not allowed to wear my leggings and that she want's to see me in a dress!

Thanks for that link, I will have a look at it

I've been included in quite a bit of the planning, she likes to have us over for tea quite a lot of my boyfriend lives close by, though from what I can tell there isn't much of a theme really. The bridesmaids are wearing a purpley silver colour.

I'm going to be with a group of people I know, so I'm not going to be left out at all and I'll be sat with them at all times. I know I'm going to get dragged into photos as my boyfriend has let it slip that after 4 years together there are no photos of us and he would like some.....

I'm 30, though still quite young looking. I'm a 10/12.

I have lots of black shoes, so would try to wear a pair of them instead of buying yet another pair of shoes....unless I see any really nice ones of course!

If I had my way I wouldn't bother with a bag, but I know I'm going to get lumbered with his phone, wallet and keys (he's normally got more stuff in my bag than me!)

I think I'm going to avoid wearing jewellery apart from some earring, as I tend to play with it a lot when I'm in social situations.

I hadn't thought about wearing tights, but I think that's more because I never wear them. When wearing dresses I tend to go bare legged, I'm naturally pale so they can make me look slightly odd unless I can get a very close match.

Think I'm going to have a look through some of my friends wedding albums to see what people are wearing.

I think one of the problems with a March wedding is that you can't predict the weather, I was maid of honour a few years okay at the same time of year and it was a beautiful sunny day.

Maybe I should have a rethink, I love the style of the dress, so maybe see if I can find similar in a different colour. I have one in a pale yellow, but it's rather summery and it seems to drain the colour from me

Pollycat

You don't say what age you are or what size you are.

But - TBH, I think that dress screams 'look at me' and if you're not very confident I think it might be a big mistake.

But you know you and what you can carry off.

For somebody who says they'd rather go in leggings and a jumper, I wouldn't have chosen an outfit like that.