Probable Breakup

marisco_2

brokenheartedman wrote: »

As it stands I am giving her a few days space (no texting/ calling etc) and waiting for her to contact me when she feels ready, although I'm fearing the worst. This is as of last night.

If deciding on having some space was something she requested then sending the letter wasn't the best idea. She comes across as being in need of focussing on her own thoughts and feelings. You know her best of course but few young women want to ask their parents opinion, before making the very personal decision of whether to continue in a long standing relationship.

DKLS

Reading between the lines, she wants out and is trying to do it the nice way, There isn't one, ask her straight out if she wants out, if she does walk away with dignity, don't plead, cut the ties and move on.

tea_lover

Have a read of the resurrected thread "help me win back the love of my life".... some good tips on how not to go about things, and evidence that time and a bit of distance can give you a whole new perspective on things.

onomatopoeia99

Mazzarati2000 wrote: »

Is there a chance that she's trying to prompt you to propose?

Since this is 2015, not 1815, if she wants to be married to the OP, she can just propose herself rather than trying to prompt him into it (not that I think that is what is going on here).

Pollycat

I think she's given you the equivalent of a 'Dear John' letter.

thorsoak

“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.”

Worth remembering

Ozzuk

I think you're both pretty immature and I say that because I'd probably have done exactly the same as you (and probably did) when I was younger. You already live on your own, you already have time to see friends, time to do what you want so build on that, get in shape (if you aren't), do some more of the stuff you enjoy to take your mind off her. Give her space, let her know you are there if she wants to talk but also try and figure out what you actually want - are you happy with the current situation? Its okay for you to stick up for your needs as well. Do you want to be with someone that can't see past living at home? Are you scared of losing her or being single?

Being single is nothing to be scared about, if it comes to that.

Figure out what you want, work on your life and stick up for yourself - good luck!

VestanPance

Dump her. She's trying to end things but in a pathetic manner, so she just ends up toying with your emotions.

Face facts that she doesn't love you. She's probably already got a crush on someone else that sparked this thought process. Walk away with your head held high.

brokenheartedman

Don't worry, I won't be proposing.

This whole living at home thing won't last forever and I think she knows that. She's just got it into her head that I want marriage/ babies/ living together in the very near future (not true). I'm hoping the space will make her see that what we have is good and worth saving.

I trust her more than I trust anyone else in the world, I know that there is nobody else, she hasn't got it in her. I'll probably get labelled niave for that comment but I know her inside and out and I know she would/ could never do that, she's the nicest, most honest girl you could ever meet. Having said that, I did ask the question, and she said there is nobody else and I trust her 100%.

heartbreak_star

If you were my partner/ex-partner I'd be a little bit nervy - you sound kinda clingy and suffocating...

I hope I'm interpreting you wrongly, but really, telling her to speak to her parents??

HBS x