suspicions confirmed

m1kjm

He kept his jumper on? Cringe.

Good luck OP, you know you're doing the right thing.

Pollycat

happytravells wrote: »

Thanks for the replies!
Thought I'd clear a couple of things up- it's an iPhone and it shows the date time and place and he was wearing a distinctive jumper! Yes that's right only his bottom half was on show!! He took the video as he was (sorry if a bit graphic) doggy style, he kept a steady hand! I have sent myself a copy but wouldn't dream of sending it viral, not my style, I'm trying to be calm and rational. Today I spoke to a trusted friend and together we worded a text to my tenant. Tenant is a friend of a friend so it's a pretty informal arrangement I let her have pets when no one else would so it's been a pretty good set up for her. She replied and told me that she's put an offer in on a house to buy and was hoping to be out by end of Feb as its a new build. I'm feeling relieved to have got the ball rolling but am a little apprehensive about starting again mid 40s thanks again everyone, just wanted to confirm I wasn't over reacting!

I think you've been treated a bit shabbily by some of the posters on here.

I wish you well for the future, I think he'll regret losing you more than you losing him.

Mid-40s is not old, you sound a nice lady and I'm sure you'll find someone who treats you better than the lowlife you've been with.

DUTR

Pollycat wrote: »

I think you've been treated a bit shabbily by some of the posters on here.

I wish you well for the future, I think he'll regret losing you more than you losing him.

Mid-40s is not old, you sound a nice lady and I'm sure you'll find someone who treats you better than the lowlife you've been with.

I hope the OP finds someone suitable too, I remember asking my daughter's mum (she is not my ex as she was never my GF) how come she always seems to date 'no good guys' the only good guy I have known her to have been with (apart from me) was the father of her older child, she replied that she felt that was all she could get , sometimes it's the demons within that hold us back feeling we are not good enough.

Seanymph

Well done OP - I know why you sent it, I would have done too. If nothing else it will help you keep strong.

How lucky your tenants were looking to move - sometimes things come together just as they were supposed to.

And you were supposed to be in your mid forties - I am, and I think it's the best my life has ever been. I am confident now, assertive (well, more so ) I work in a field I enjoy - today I laid down my terms for a two month contract and I wouldn't have done that when I was younger, I'd have been too busy being grateful for the work! Funnily enough, once you start laying down your terms people start saying ok.

You have a fantastic opportunity now to really think about what you want to do for you. Not anyone else.

It's a great chance to really make sure you are pleasing yourself with your choices now.

happytravells

Thanks again..... I haven't given up on meeting a good guy and I'm definitely not going to tar all men with the Same brush!! I'm not a jealous or possessive person by any means, he went out with his friends 2/3 nights a week I didn't mind at all! Though how often he was out with his "friends" I'll never know! I don't know if I'm going to be able to keep my mouth shut for another 6 weeks or so!

Pollycat

happytravells wrote: »

Thanks again..... I haven't given up on meeting a good guy and I'm definitely not going to tar all men with the Same brush!! I'm not a jealous or possessive person by any means, he went out with his friends 2/3 nights a week I didn't mind at all! Though how often he was out with his "friends" I'll never know! I don't know if I'm going to be able to keep my mouth shut for another 6 weeks or so!

Hug your secret to yourself as you make your plans.
You know what's going to happen but he's clueless.

Just curious - what opinion did your 3 daughters have about this bloke (generally, I mean)? Did they like him? Did they think he treated you well?

tesuhoha

happytravells wrote: »

Thanks again..... I haven't given up on meeting a good guy and I'm definitely not going to tar all men with the Same brush!! I'm not a jealous or possessive person by any means, he went out with his friends 2/3 nights a week I didn't mind at all! Though how often he was out with his "friends" I'll never know! I don't know if I'm going to be able to keep my mouth shut for another 6 weeks or so!

You may not be able to keep your mouth shut but make sure you keep your legs crossed.

candygirl

I can't stop laughing about the distinctive jumper, whilst doggying:eek::rotfl:Was it one of those lovely Xmas jumpers,n did he leave his socks on too?:eek:
Seriously though, you deserve a happy life, good luck hun :A

Dr._Shoe

Mine was a photographer who told me that he was photographing the olympics (equestrian events). During the time he was away I was asked to pop in to town (4 or 5 miles away) to pick something up for my boss. I was just getting back into the company landrover when I was shocked to see him coming out of a neighbouring supermarket with his ex and they looked exactly like a couple! He was obviously staying with her.

Needless to say he never got paid for the Olympics job but kept telling me that a lot of people had not been paid when I know that the books were closed and all invoices paid. I checked just in case he had come over to see her on a day off and the company he worked for had not hired him.

He was still at it. He would work weekends at various venues but few of them had ever heard of him vehemently denied that any photographer at all had worked there. Every time he acted as if he was going to work I'd just laugh. It became a game after a while whether I could get him to confess but I got bored with that after while and eventually kicked him out just before christmas.

System

heuchera wrote: »

The other woman is NOT an ex. He's either still having sex with her, or he's got a video of them both for some other reason. The last thing I would ever want to keep on my phone would be a raunchy video of an ex, and I expect most people who had moved on from a relationship would think the same.

I had some *ahem* pictures of my ex, but when we split up i deleted them. I saw no point in keeping them, nor did i really want to be reminded of certain things :eek:

The fact he still has the video would raise some serious questions IMO