Brother in Law is Upset with Us

notanewuser

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Just wondered, but to the people who think that the BIL had a 'right' to be offended at being given a regifted chocolate orange, what do you suggest that the OP and her hubby should have got instead?

Hmmmmm. The OP has a blog about making bread aaaaaaaand.........

Cake!

Or even a restaurant voucher, bottle of whatever he drinks, tickets to something he'd enjoy, a track day...... Or even just a promise of a meal at their new house once they're settled in.

raven83

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Haha, awww bless you.

I guess I'm not ugly, but fat? Yes! (And a bit old. 51... :rotfl: )

I am on a healthy eating kick though. Started it 2 weeks ago. Lost half a stone! Got 4 and a half stone to go though.

You did well (according to your sig. ) What did you do Raven? Just general eating better and exercising more? At what point did you get to your target weight? And have you kept the weight off since?

Sorry for asking. Hope you don't mind.

No it's fine, I was really big (19st!) and just had had enough so I went on a high protein diet, well healthy eating plan, ate no bread, lots of meat and fish and cut down my chocolate and crisp habit right down from about 6 packets of crisps a day to a packet of french fries and 4/5 bar of chocolate a day to one fun size bar! Did more exercise and it just came off. I am back on it though again now as in the run up to Christmas my diet fell by the wayside, though I didn't binge like I used to, I put on about 7lbs but I am hoping they will be off again soon ! :)

fizz

OP-when you have moved into your house, invite him round for a nice meal and spoil him rotten...assuming he is still speaking to you lol.
It was a bit tight to give him a 'secondhand' TCO, but even so, he should've taken it up with you and your OH, and not your MIL-what a child!
BTW, when I was 14, I got a 'football' sized TCO and it was the best gift ever-still talked about 20+ years later but they don't do them anymore....BOOOOOO!

fizz.x

Lily-Rose_3

raven83 wrote: »

No it's fine, I was really big (19st!) and just had had enough so I went on a high protein diet, well healthy eating plan, ate no bread, lots of meat and fish and cut down my chocolate and crisp habit right down from about 6 packets of crisps a day to a packet of french fries and 4/5 bar of chocolate a day to one fun size bar! Did more exercise and it just came off. I am back on it though again now as in the run up to Christmas my diet fell by the wayside, though I didn't binge like I used to, I put on about 7lbs but I am hoping they will be off again soon ! :)

Well done! :T

Sounds like a great plan.

That half a stone will soon come off though.

Lily-Rose_3

fizz wrote: »

OP-when you have moved into your house, invite him round for a nice meal and spoil him rotten...assuming he is still speaking to you lol.
It was a bit tight to give him a 'secondhand' TCO, but even so, he should've taken it up with you and your OH, and not your MIL-what a child!
BTW, when I was 14, I got a 'football' sized TCO and it was the best gift ever-still talked about 20+ years later but they don't do them anymore....BOOOOOO!

fizz.x

I think EVERYthing was football sized years ago, compared to what it is now. :rotfl:

I just had a mars bar as a treat as I have lost half a stone in 2 weeks, and I SWEAR it has shrunk since I last had one, (6 months ago,) by a LEAST a quarter! Same goes with the WISPA and the CRUNCHIE, amongst other chocolate bars!

fizz

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I think EVERYthing was football sized years ago, compared to what it is now. :rotfl:

I just had a mars bar as a treat as I have lost half a stone in 2 weeks, and I SWEAR it has shrunk since I last had one, (6 months ago,) by a LEAST a quarter! Same goes with the WISPA and the CRUNCHIE, amongst other chocolate bars!

:rotfl::rotfl: It's true! Find myself saying to DD 'It was bigger and cheaper when I was your age'....Turning into my mom:D

fizz

However, it REALLY was football sized!!!

But that doesn't help the OP lol

fizz.x

Lily-Rose_3

fizz wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl: It's true! Find myself saying to DD 'It was bigger and cheaper when I was your age'....Turning into my mom:D

I know right!!! :eek:

And also Cadbury's creme eggs are smaller I am sure. :mad:

And Cadbury's dairy milk, the small bar (50 pence or so) AND the big one. (The one that used to be the half pound bar!) have both shrunk by about a third!

They say it's to help us lose weight as a nation, and to encourage us to eat less chocolate and so on. But if THAT is the only reason behind it, then when they make it 20-30% smaller, why don't they reduce the PRICE by 20-30%?! :mad:

purpleshoes_2

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Just wondered, but to the people who think that the BIL had a 'right' to be offended at being given a regifted chocolate orange, what do you suggest that the OP and her hubby should have got instead?

Because in my experience, some people will just whinge and moan at whatever someone buys them, and the chances are high that even if they had bought the choc orange (new, not regifted,) and something else smallish with it, the BIL would still have moaned.

Like I said, earlier in the thread, not many people buy me gifts anyway, so I would have been grateful for anything given to me. I certainly would not have gone crying off to mommy about how upset I was. (When I was THIRTY years old!) It's incredibly petty. The BIL sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do.

Also, like I said earlier, some people just expect more off people than others.

Yes, a regifted choc orange IS a bit tight, but for the brother to make an issue of it is just childish and petty IMO. He obviously has nothing else to worry about in his life!

People moan about things all the time, small things, even if they have bigger things going on, it's human nature.

A bit tight? Its jaw droppingly tight

A couple of ways they could have handled this

1 Given nothing because they don't really do presents
2 Explained they were skint due to the work needing done on the house and taken him for a drink, meal when they did
3 Buy a cheap poundland/home bargains present and a card
4 Given just a card
5 What they did

Regifting a choc orange isn't just tight, it smacks of, couldn't really be bothered so we just gave you this and that is what the BIL might be upset about, not the choc orange, but the clear message behind the gift they gave.

fizz

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I know right!!! :eek:

And also Cadbury's creme eggs are smaller I am sure. :mad:

And Cadbury's dairy milk, the small bar (50 pence or so) AND the big one. (The one that used to be the half pound bar!) have both shrunk by about a third!

They say it's to help us lose weight as a nation, and to encourage us to eat less chocolate and so on. But if THAT is the only reason behind it, then when they make it 20-30% smaller, why don't they reduce the PRICE by 20-30%?! :mad:

:T It doesn't work. I am a chocoholic and will spend whatever it takes to get my fix:D
But I won't end up in prison as I don't deal....it's mine all mine:rotfl::eek::rotfl::rotfl:

fizz.x