Brother in Law is Upset with Us

Poppie68

Absolutely hilarious thread, op honestly the re-gifting of a chocolate orange was so blumin tight, do you squeak when you walk....I'm also dumbfounded you bought your hubby a......griddle pan for his birthday!!!!!:rotfl:

Person_one

Fredula wrote: »

It was hubby who decided to wrap it up for him and give it to him. I wouldn't have given it to him to be honest.

I will remember that though about the reason behind gift giving. Sometimes it can just feel like there's so much pressure and commercialism.

It wouldn't have been very nice to get him nothing at all. If you get on and care about each other, it would probably have been very upsetting.

What were your parents like at gift giving? Have you not been set a good example in this area?

Poppie68

Fredula wrote: »

Ah, yes, maybe a bit too late. I've messaged him on facebook apologising and explained the reasoning behind it (and admitted it was regifted, but was hubby's idea to regift it).

It is difficult though, I don't really know BIL too well. If we ever go over their house, he'll come and sit at the table for dinner, then disappear up into his bedroom to play computer games. I don't really know much he's into. Perhaps I'll make it a new years resolution to try and be more thoughtful and get to know peoples likes / dislikes for instances like this!

You don't have to spend a fortune on people, just put some thought into the gift. Every time yuou go shopping keep yuour eyes open for a bargain and store away for a future birthday or Christmas.

Lily-Rose_3

Poppie68 wrote: »

Absolutely hilarious thread, op honestly the re-gifting of a chocolate orange was so blumin tight, do you squeak when you walk....I'm also dumbfounded you bought your hubby a......griddle pan for his birthday!!!!!:rotfl:

I don't get that ^^^

Fredula

I know, I do look back to the griddle pan and think that's the male equivalent of receiving an ironing board or cleaning products as a present.

Person_one, my parents don't really buy for that many people. They told everyone when they bought their house that they would only buy gifts for children in the family, so everyone adopted that way of giving. However, they do still give me, hubby and my brother money and a bag of chocolate for Christmas (this year we had toffee, chocolate orange, maltesers, after eights and toblerone from them). For birthdays they just give the money.

gettingtheresometime

Fredula wrote: »

Ah, yes, maybe a bit too late. I've messaged him on facebook apologising and explained the reasoning behind it (and admitted it was regifted, but was hubby's idea to regift it).

You did what????

I was thinking well done when I read you'd apologised but then cringed when you said you'd admitted it was an unwanted gift.

Expect some serious family arguments!

Lily-Rose_3

Fredula wrote: »

Ah, yes, maybe a bit too late. I've messaged him on facebook apologising and explained the reasoning behind it (and admitted it was regifted, but was hubby's idea to regift it).

It is difficult though, I don't really know BIL too well. If we ever go over their house, he'll come and sit at the table for dinner, then disappear up into his bedroom to play computer games. I don't really know much he's into. Perhaps I'll make it a new years resolution to try and be more thoughtful and get to know peoples likes / dislikes for instances like this!

Hopefully he will be OK, though I don't see why you had to message to apologise... And I don't think you needed to tell him it was re-gifted did you? I still stick by what I said originally though, that I think he is a bit of a childish brat running to mommy like a 9 year old. JMO.

A choc orange was a bit tight though! But at least on your FB message, you made sure your hubby got the blame.

Fredula

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

You did what????

I was thinking well done when I read you'd apologised but then cringed when you said you'd admitted it was an unwanted gift.

Expect some serious family arguments!

Oh god, I hope not. I've already annoyed his aunt by not inviting her to the wedding a couple of years ago (very small affair - jeans and teeshirt type event with a meal in the pub for just the parents and siblings). Apparently they've never recovered from that falling out and there's still some tension between his mum and her sister.

Lily-Rose_3

Fredula wrote: »

Oh god, I hope not. I've already annoyed his aunt by not inviting her to the wedding a couple of years ago (very small affair - jeans and teeshirt type event with a meal in the pub for just the parents and siblings). Apparently they've never recovered from that falling out and there's still some tension between his mum and her sister.

There's always SOMEONE who is offended at not being invited to a wedding. It's impossible to invite everyone. Especially if it's a wedding on a budget.

Fredula

Yeah. Inviting MIL's one sister means having to invite FIL's five siblings, and you can't not invite their partners, so it just wasn't fair to invite MIL's one sibling without inviting FIL's siblings