New Alcohol self help

suki1964

jo1972 wrote: »

Thanks FG

re. the fanta, have you tried Lidl or Aldi?

I think thats pretty common, I know i felt like that at first and I know a lot of people found those feelings so hard to deal with - they went and found another meeting to go to.

I found that for me I just needed to be gentle with myself. Not expect too much and to take things slow and just go along with the feelings. They will pass

jo1972

It's my DD1's 16th birthday today, I'm extremely blessed, she was 2 months premature and we nearly lost her numerous times. My other two, 5yrs and 2yrs are relying on me to look after them, I must perservere to become sober and happy.

Bogof_Babe

jo1972 wrote: »

It's my DD1's 16th birthday today, I'm extremely blessed, she was 2 months premature and we nearly lost her numerous times. My other two, 5yrs and 2yrs are relying on me to look after them, I must perservere to become sober and happy.

And that, in a nutshell, is why we have all made the decision to get our lives back. Thank you Jo and everyone, for reinforcing our resolve.:T

brodev

Here I am in Lisbon celibrating my grandson´s first birthday today. Just an ordinary thing for a grandfather to do, but an extraordinary thing in reality. If I had carried on drinking I, my daughter and my grandson just would not be here at all. I would be dead(probably) and I would never have had children. The principal benefit of sobriety to me is an ordinary life. When I was drinking I lived in a fantasy world of my own making but I was completely unaware that I was doing it.
I´ll be making my way back to Scotland on Thus and should be there on Sun just in time for the petrol strike. I do hope that it has stopped freezing. I hope that everybody is at least as well as I am.

feelinggood_2

I'm in Poland, and enjoying the different feelings of meetings here. Its always good to hear different peoples stories.

Taffyscot

Brod will you be going to the meeting in Largs? Hope to see you there. Jim's scones are wonderful still. Hurry back. Taffy

aah

I went to one meeting and the people were nice they were just completely hung up on the aa process

like you have to go to loads of meetings every week, and manage to find the time
i'd like to stop drinking but....oh yes I know its so easy to say but, but here are my buts:

my gp kept referring to my driving licence; went back to see another gp, he was worse

can't get to counselling sessions cos of work, can't spare the time: also I am loads older than the counsellor:o

work is so so so horrendously stressful: I am expected to work 60h weeks (contracted for 37) and manage staff who feel in the same position because of the way our senior managers behave - I stand up for them (my staff ) in the face of their overwork and worry about it myself

my work is 200 miles away from home - it is reasonably well paid, I need this to pay off my debts - but it is a struggle to keep up a family life as a result, tonight my daughter as good as said i dont know her and i love her to bits - i'm her mum after all.

Sorry for the rant....

andiescottie

Hi all!
Im andie...im not an alcoholic, but my mum is.

I only want to say 2 things:
1. well done to all of you who have made those steps to recovery!

2. to aah... i just hope that you keep fighting to get your life back... i know all those meetings and counselling sessions must feel like a pain, but they will help you to help yourself. It sounds like things between you and your daughter are a bit strained at the moment, but give it time. You know as well as I do that alcoholism puts terrific pressure on any relationship. From my own experience, it hurts to see my mum care more about a bottle of vodka than she does about her children.
All I'm trying to say is that when you keep on that path of sobriety, all the other pieces of your life will tend to fall back into place.
Give it a little time, and then Im sure your daughter will see that she can trust you again. You need her and love her, just as much as she needs you.

Please forgive me if I have spoken out of turn.
Much love, Andie.

Bogof_Babe

Welcome Andie, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

And to Aah - you rant away, we will always support you and listen, so please use us to let it all out of your system when you need to. It sounds like there is far too much pressure on you at work though - you should no way be doing so many hours over and above your contractual time. Is there no-one you can take this up with, especially as it is starting to affect your family life?

cally1978

Just wanted to say good luck to you all!!

Unfortunately my mum passed away in August 07 at the age of 49, she fell ill and was unable to get to shop for alcohol so went through withdrawl without any medical help, she had 2 cardiac arrests, got her back from one but not the other, please don't let your families go through this, I wish you all luck xx take care xx