New Alcohol self help

brodev

2 weeks and no posts. I hope that this means that everybody is doing well and is busy getting on with the business of living. I am settling in back home in Scotland and I have been busy catching up with family and friends. I have been to a couple of meetings and it was good to get back to what I am used to. I have found that AA meetings are always run slightly differently in different places and I prefer the ones I was brought up with. I am getting better, I used to think that the others were not run properly.

shazrobo

hi brodev., good to hear from you, had a couple of falls of wagon in last couple of weeks, but nothing major, just one or two glasses of cider, finding i can take it or leave it now, and 2 glasses is my limit, hate the headaches.

Bogof_Babe

It was the headaches that finally did it for me Shaz. Bliss now to wake up every day fresh as a daisy (well perhaps not quite, but certainly no throbbing bonce!).

I've been busy spending all the cash I've saved (and then some :rolleyes: ) in the process of buying and equipping our holiday flat - woohoo life is good!

Welcome home Brodev - hope things are good with you.

feelinggood_2

I'm going through a particularly bad time at the moment, and I'm struggling with a lot of emotions. I'm being reassured that some people have to go through a lot of pain in early recovery, but I keep panicking that it means I'm doing something wrong!

Have started going to a new meeting, with 80+ people there, which is incredibly scary, but good to get out of my comfort zone.

I also did my first Chair the other day!

Bogof_Babe

Sorry to hear you are struggling fg, but it sounds like you are doing the right things so I hope you are back to "feeling good" soon.

Taffyscot

hi all I am in Vancouver now visiting my daughter for her graduation from Vancouver uni. Brod sorry to miss you, you are back in Scotland now and going to meetings and I am away. I was in my local one last Monday I hope you weren't there and we didn't know. What do you look like? I am pretty easy to distinguish from the rest of the crowd Taffy that will give you a clue.
FG don't worry about how you are feeling it is only normal to feel a bit panicky when now you are not hiding all your fears and regrets with booze. Bogoff I am glad to hear that you are doing so well keep up the good work. Shaz you too are doing so well good on you kid. Shaz I get the feeling that you are still trying to do it on your own. Do try and get to a meeting it will make a hell of a difference to you.

I go to Calgary next week not looking forward to seeing the state my son and his place is going to be in. Looking forward to seeing all of my 4 kids tho. Won't be back until mid July going to my old alanon meetings in Calgary that I felt very comfortable with as they were for parents of alcoholic children for the most part. Couldn't find one anywhere close to that in Scotland, most that I went to were a bunch of older ladies with alcoholic husbands past and present.

Brod don't tell me you are going back to Portugal when I get back to Scotland (grrrrr) looking forward to meeting you. Take care all and remember if you don't take that first drink then you CANNOT get drunk. Taffy

brodev

feelinggood wrote: »

I'm going through a particularly bad time at the moment, and I'm struggling with a lot of emotions. I'm being reassured that some people have to go through a lot of pain in early recovery, but I keep panicking that it means I'm doing something wrong!

Have started going to a new meeting, with 80+ people there, which is incredibly scary, but good to get out of my comfort zone.

I also did my first Chair the other day!

I wish I had the ability to say "wise things".
Pain, unfortunately, happens. Especially to me in the early days. I, too, kept thinking I was doing it all wrong and that perhaps I wasn't an alkie but just insane. All around me were people who were "wonderful" and there was me sober, hurt, unloved and wanting my mummy or a dummy. I did what I had been told and I hung in there and I got better. I stopped being super sensitive. My emotional(spiritual) illness took longer to recover from than the physical and mental aspects. I say to you what was said to me. "Hang in there and let time take care of things. Do what you can and let God do the rest. Remember that stopping drinking is just the start of your recovery"
I found these words to be wise for me

lewt

Hi all i aint even remembered to look here in a while sorry boutt hat. been mad busy. i'm now a team leader at that job i got last july.....

i have found that i'm definitly the sort of alky that needs the spritual awakening taked about in step 12. i maintain that by working with other and getting out of self. i got it by doing a very througher 1-9 and do a 10 ona daily basis.
i can easylt dtart thinking poort me i have all this going on in my head- answer is i have to get out of my head by helping others.

I'm so glad i got a sponser that gudied me though the book in a timely fashion, i used to ask why he suggested certain things and every time he said "don't take my word for it, look in the book"

I don't get asked to do many shares in my home town AA cause i'm seen as "controversual" introdusing myself as recovered and sharing about doing the 1-9 ina weekend. how messed up is it that when someone talks about stuff in the big book they are contrversual? some of the opinions i hear flying round the rooms are insane to me. a step a year... ? !!!!!!! i would not be writing this now if i had "took it easy" around the work. i take it weasy around beating myself but not around doing the work, i don't wanna go yellow and die thankyou very much.
i turely recover from the spritual malady on a dialy basis when i help other and i now have a choice of being restless irritable and discontent or being happy joyess and free and that choice depends on what i do when i wake up and when i go to bed. P86....

Well thats everyone in my local meetings 10 done for them

Bro nice to see you back in the uk. i'm 28 in 2 weeks and i still sometimes pinch myself i have done nigh on two years with no substance whatsoever. great stuff

feelinggood_2

Hi All.

Been on a bit of a dry bender recently, and actually serious thought about picking up, which isn't good.

Sponsor things I need some more identification, so I'm going to a few other fellowships (OA, NA, MAA, SLA and CODA are all on my list) to try and get some acceptance about my other problems. They are basically all the same disease, but I need to talk to people who have experience with other things, otherwise 'the head' comes up with lots of good reasons to drink/use.

Went to two meetings today, really helped. One had 5 minutes meditation, and the whole meeting was focused on steps 2, 3 and 11. Was really magical, very relaxed, really was the right place to be.

Its like it always is, once it gets painful enough, I start doing the right things.

Taffyscot

feelinggood wrote: »

Hi All.

Been on a bit of a dry bender recently, and actually serious thought about picking up, which isn't good.

Sponsor things I need some more identification, so I'm going to a few other fellowships (OA, NA, MAA, SLA and CODA are all on my list) to try and get

hey there feeling good, enlighten me. OA ? OPium addiction? NA I know is narcotics, MAA ? no idea honestly. SLA? I am stumped. CODA? Is that co-dependency?
Keep away from the crap you don't want to go back down that road. I saw a video about addicts/ alcoholics and it showed them at their lowest and after rehab. Good god you would never know they were the same person. Their testimonials were incredible. After rehab they had their teeth done, looked after their hygeine, washed their hair and were clean in more ways than one. The video was teen challenge for individuals up to 32. Buses where they can go and talk to someone even if they are not on a programme or still using. They gave then some food, a warm bus and someone to talk to. If they wanted help they took them to rehab. The only trouble with the programme is that it is very christian orientated.
Remember what it was like on that stuff? Doesn't it feel better now?
The change in the people was awesome hang in there and whatever you do don't use. You will get through it one day at a time. Take care. There is a reason you call yourself feeling good, take a minute and remember the times that you felt like !!!!!.
Taffy