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worriedsik

far2812 wrote: »

I know we are so proud of him!

Another problem is that he has got the car with him!!!!!!!!!

He was in court yesterday answering a charge for driving without a licence!

Oh - why?

The local Travelodge is full so I just ringing around trying to find somewhere that will take the dog!

will he drive it ?

hope you get somewhere to stay this evening good luck x

JBD

OP, just get yourself and your little dog to safety as soon as possible. If you do not have finances to do this then go to shelter. Remember, you are not responsible for your partners problems, he has made this choice, not you. Best of luck to you.

WASHER

Nottingham Riverside Travelodge appears to have rooms available for tonight.

http://www.travelodge.co.uk/search_and_book/index.php?action=search&check_from=&locationCode=h161&quickform=Y&location=Nottingham+Riverside+Travelodge&checkInDate=13%2F11%2F2009&checkOutDate=14%2F11%2F2009&no_of_rooms=1&adults_1=1&children_1=0&adults_2=1&children_2=0&adults_3=1&children_3=0&adults_4=1&children_4=0

BitterAndTwisted

Nice work WASHER! Kudos

DVardysShadow

far2812 wrote: »

I know we are so proud of him!

Good

Another problem is that he has got the car with him!!!!!!!!!

Before you do anything else, get the car away from the pub!

He was in court yesterday answering a charge for driving without a licence!

Oh - why?

I think a relapse at this point would probably be the norm.

Does he normally call from the pub at this stage in a session? If he doesn't, then perhaps he realises he has messed up.

mumslave

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Good


Before you do anything else, get the car away from the pub!


I think a relapse at this point would probably be the norm.

Does he normally call from the pub at this stage in a session? If he doesn't, then perhaps he realises he has messed up.

I disagree. Seven months is amazing for an alcoholic, however if he is abusive, I would not be going anywhere near him, not even risking moving a car nearby. He has doen this to himself, its not up to you to get him out of trouble. You should just think of yourself in this case for tonight...after all, that is all he will be doing.

anguk

far2812 wrote: »

I know we are so proud of him!

Another problem is that he has got the car with him!!!!!!!!!

He was in court yesterday answering a charge for driving without a licence!

Oh - why?

The local Travelodge is full so I just ringing around trying to find somewhere that will take the dog!

Do you know which pub he is in? If so I'd ring the police.

In fact I'd ring the police anyway and tell them he's got the car, is drinking and doesn't have a licence.

westcountrymaid_2

When you've got yourself to safety, give Al-anon a call -
Tel: 020 7403 0888 (Helpline 10am - 10pm, 365 days a year)

If you don't have family to talk to it would be worth giving them a ring, you need support.

Good luck

Fuzzybear1976

Poor you and well done for your 7 months of support! It's so hard when we love someone and know that they are on a road to self destruction. He know's you've been there for him but unfortunately if he doesn't want to get well you just can't do it for him. Maybe when you see the light of day you'll know what the right thing to do is. I hope you have some real support just for you. x

DVardysShadow

mumslave wrote: »

I disagree. Seven months is amazing for an alcoholic, however if he is abusive, I would not be going anywhere near him, not even risking moving a car nearby.

Fair point, but it depends how far gone he is. OP [on this thread] has only said abusive, not violent.

He has doen this to himself, its not up to you to get him out of trouble.

It is a dilemma. But so far he has not got himself into [more] trouble - this is not about getting him out of trouble it is about denying him the opportunity to get himself into trouble. We know already that he has been in court, if this develops further it may have economic consequences for the OP

You should just think of yourself in this case for tonight...after all, that is all he will be doing.

That may be true of how he got to the pub, it may not be true of how he is now. I think the question is open