New Alcohol self help

belfastgirl23

This is awful.

Can you get yourself out of there for now? Check in to a cheap b&b or whatever. Either way you shouldn't sit there and wait for him to come back.

If money is a big issue you could also try looking at the thread on domestic violence here and see if one of those organisations could put you up for the night.

Did your husband do AA? If so could you contact his sponsor to help deal with him?

Sorry these are just random thoughts and might not be helpful. But wanted to try.

Lots of luck

mumslave

okay he is abusive, time for you to clear out whereever you can go for the night. Do not stay there and wait for him to come home. Tomorrow morning, you can attempt to talk or whatever it is you would like to do. But tonight, take yourself somewhere safe.

far2812

Hi thanks Belfastgirl.

When he has done this before, he has stayed in a hotel on the first night! He has been going to AA but I don't have his sponsor's number...........!!!!!!!!

I have got our puppy with me so cant get into a B&B with him and I can't leave him all night..........I know I should put myself first but.........

bungrefurb

oh dear i don't know what to say. i just read your thread and didn't want to leave without a little message.

I am sure will come along with some good advice. would it be possible to not let him in and ask him to come home once he has sobered up.

Sending you a big hug x

thorsoak

Get yourself and puppy to the nearest Travelodge - they allow you to have a dog with you!

Just don't be there for your OH when he comes home ... and leave a note (for him to read when he has sobered up) that he has to come to some decisions ...

far2812

Oh thanks - I didn't know Travelodge allow pets - I'll book online now thank you.

Do you know - I just haven't got anything to say to him - I am gutted! I am not going through all of this again - it has been hell!

I'll just see if I can book a travelodge!

onetomany

can you ring his family hun? maybe they can preswade him to stay with them? have you got vitim support number you could give them a ring and they will tell you where you can stay in a safe place for the night some take pets

far2812

I was thinking of calling his mum but to be honest, they have had enough of him drinking too and knowing him, he wont answer their calls anyway! I hate alcohol!

BitterAndTwisted

Seven months completely drink-free as a recovering alcoholic is a massive achievement. Massive. One relapse might not be reason enough to end the relationship forever but I would take the advice given and get the heck out of the house to your nearest Travelodge before he comes home. Deal with the regret, guilt and recriminations tomorrow once he's sobered up.

far2812

I know we are so proud of him!

Another problem is that he has got the car with him!!!!!!!!!

He was in court yesterday answering a charge for driving without a licence!

Oh - why?

The local Travelodge is full so I just ringing around trying to find somewhere that will take the dog!