MIL funeral, but FIL won't allow my children to attend
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Your IL's sound very controlling. I am not sure of etiquette of wreaths and who gets them and when.
I'm sure your friends will be understanding, about the time of your return.
I do think she needs to find out the info before then as I suspect nobody will know the postcode of the place (why would they).
This is not that unusual in some of our family funerals this is what has happened.
I have said we would travel separately so he can stay as long as he likes, he could even the day before if so wished. But he wants us to go together.
Believe it or not, I don't want to add to his grief (and please remember I too am grieving, I have lost someone I consider as close as my own mother). I believe that his siblings have always been controlling, and haven't liked that we have put our children first on occasion.
I did not mean that to come across that way, I meant in flippant way.
There are two that it could be. And I am afraid my anxiety would not allow me to be that unprepared, DH knows this.
It is going to be very difficult for you OP and I hope you can manage the day OK. From personal experience, you will have to accept that you will need to cope on your own on that day, that your husband cannot look out for you as I suspect he usually does. Understand that the people close to your MIL will be focused on getting through the day themselves, the day will be over with in no time and you will be back home.
You need never see any of them again.
Just keep doing your best to think it's just one day and then you're back home. I wish you all the best, I know it's going to be stressful.
Thank you I hadn't thought of that.