Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

aileth

Welcome to all the new people!

Does anyone have any AF pain tips? It's been six years since I had one, so I literally feel like I'm 13 again dealing with it! Spending 24/7 on feminax. It's not incredible but it's enough to have thrown me off kilter. Took a couple of days off work, but I have to go back tomorrow and don't wanna spend all day curled in a quivering wreck!

Cuilean

Welcome, Flower10 and all the other newbies. There's loads of really great people here who will be able to give you helpful info on different ways to make the BFP happen

Aileth, have you tried mefenamic acid? I think it's known as "Ponstan" too. My doctor prescribed it for me during my teenage AF years, when I suffered so badly that even my own mother used to shut me in my room and despair. I was totally incapable of doing anything during AF back then - the cramps were awful, and wouldn't stop until I threw up and then fell asleep for hours. There's also Naproxen, but apparently that can make you nauseous.

I'm sure you're doing all this already, but a warm hot water bottle on the belly used to help me, too.

LittleMoog

Afternoon all

Welcome flower and LemonTree :hello:

Aileth, sorry you're suffering. When I came off pill after 10+ years to TTC first time around it was such a shock to have natural periods again. After the first few they settled down though. Ibuprofen and warmth help me, and after the first few days I feel normal. I also started using a mooncup instead of tampons, and it's so much nicer/cleaner feeling. The one time I've had to use tampons since I felt grotty and my cramps were really bad.

Lottielou, have you tested again? :cool:

As for me, negative test again this morning and temp dropping down. AF due today but no sign so far.

snow_ball

Cuilean wrote: »

There's also Naproxen, but apparently that can make you nauseous.

I'm sure you're doing all this already, but a warm hot water bottle on the belly used to help me, too.

Feminax Ultra does the trick for me (not sure if this is what you meant aileth?) It's the dark blue box and is behind the counter. It contains naproxen but I think they are coated to avoid stomach irritation? I also second the hot water bottle and I try to drink lots of water to avoid dehydration-symptoms making things worse.

Worry_Wart

Hello, sorry if this is not the best place to post, but I'd love to join this thread but I can't convince my OH. Did any of you have trouble persuading your partners to TTC your first? We've been together three years, are stable and happy together, own our own house and are in a good position financially. However I'm 35 and he's 30, and he doesn't feel ready but I'm running out of time (my mother went through early menopause at 40 too, so I don't think there's much time to mess around). Does anyone have any advice or reassurance that they've been through this and resolved it? I can see no way out, and we're going around in circles discussing it. Thank you!

AmyTurtle

Thanks EllesBelles - scan went well, saw the gestational sac and the yolk sac inside it. I'm a bit early to see a fetal pole/heartbeat but got another scan in 2 weeks when hopefully will be able to see both. Because I ovulate late I'm developmentally a week behind what I should be at 6+5 but I expected that so pleased with how it went x

I was on Ponstan as a teenager too, for period pain. I'm lucky - have had no period pain at all since coming off the pill, they are still quite heavy though.

lulu_92

Lottie do we have an update?

Aileth your AF pain sounds horrible! I'd second the strong Feminax. I've never had it but the normal one was pretty good for me. Hot water bottle is also a good idea. I take one to work when I have cramps (it's actually in my car boot now!)

Moog sorry to hear about BFN, fingers crossed you're not out.

Welcome to all of the newbies. If you want adding to the front page just let me know.

AFM went out for OH's birthday yesterday and had a great time, and I've got every evening with him this week except tomorrow night

Worry_Wart wrote: »

Hello, sorry if this is not the best place to post, but I'd love to join this thread but I can't convince my OH. Did any of you have trouble persuading your partners to TTC your first? We've been together three years, are stable and happy together, own our own house and are in a good position financially. However I'm 35 and he's 30, and he doesn't feel ready but I'm running out of time (my mother went through early menopause at 40 too, so I don't think there's much time to mess around). Does anyone have any advice or reassurance that they've been through this and resolved it? I can see no way out, and we're going around in circles discussing it. Thank you!

I feel like I am qualified to answer you, just read back my posts! :rotfl:

Yes, I did have trouble. I had about 7 pills left and said to OH half-joking "hey shall we try for a baby instead of going to get more pills" and he was really up for it. Turns out he was calling my bluff and thought we should wait. So we did for 4 months. I have the same concerns as you as my mum and grandma started menopause at around 36 so I want to get it out of the way (even though it's 14 years away).

I always said that if one of us didn't want to do it we wouldn't until they wanted to. But I think your concerns about age are valid as you don't know if you're going to fall pg in the first month or if it would take years.

OH hasn't been the best about it but he actually opened up about it yesterday and has agreed to DTD every day this week! :j:j (ETA: he's just text me to tell me he's been sick twice at work so this might be out of the window! :mad:)

My advice is to try as hard as you can not to pester him about it, that's what I did to OH and it really messed us up as we were going around in circles. Do you know anyone who has just had a baby, or is pregnant? Two of my best friends have had babies in the last month and I think that's helped bring him around to the idea.

How about a NTNP approach for a bit? It might be a good way to ease him into it.

snow_ball

I agree with lulu about friend's babies. My OH was less keen than me, until a wedding when one of his friends told him that being a dad was the best thing that had ever happened to him. Since then quite a few friends and family have had little ones and he gets as broody as me around them now!

Worry_Wart

Thanks for the tips. Unfortunately a lot of his friends started having babies years ago, and all of my friends have them now too, and he doesn't seem interested. I may just have to accept that he doesn't want any. I've asked him to say whether he doesn't want any, ever ever, but he wont say that, just "he doesn't want any now". Not very helpful. I've read some of your posts Lulu, and it seems you used to have another similar problem to me, in that your OH doesn't seem that bothered by sex a lot of the time too. Conception from NTNP would be very unlikely!!! If we were trying to conceive I'd have to force him to DTD once in a while. Sigh.

lulu_92

Worry_Wart wrote: »

Thanks for the tips. Unfortunately a lot of his friends started having babies years ago, and all of my friends have them now too, and he doesn't seem interested. I may just have to accept that he doesn't want any. I've asked him to say whether he doesn't want any, ever ever, but he wont say that, just "he doesn't want any now". Not very helpful. I've read some of your posts Lulu, and it seems you used to have another similar problem to me, in that your OH doesn't seem that bothered by sex a lot of the time too. Conception from NTNP would be very unlikely!!! If we were trying to conceive I'd have to force him to DTD once in a while. Sigh.

Unfortunately if he doesn't want any now he is unlikely to change his mind in the near future. I noticed that he is 5 years younger than you, which may be why he doesn't seem to be in a rush to TTC. My OH is 31 and I'm 22 and I'm more in a rush than him! :rotfl: It is different for women though. We notice things like our biological clocks ticking a lot more than men do.

Yeah I know what you mean about NTNP, but I should elaborate: OH thought we were NTNP but in fact we were lightly TTC. I would track my cycle and when it was my fertile window I wouldn't let on that it was and would make my move. So you might end up only DTD once in the fertile window but that's better than not doing it at all. If you catch first month, great it just means OH can think he has super swimmers, and if you take a while you can both say "well we're NTNP so we don't expect to fall"


Although for this to work you will probably need to make the move more as my OH noticed it was only for about 6 days of the month that I was interested in DTD! :rotfl: