Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

lulu_92

OH told me he felt better when I got in from work. He was great when he was watching the football, then the moment I mention BD he conveniently begins to feel unwell.

I text him this morning saying that Glow said yesterday was the best % chance (although tells me the best day to DTD is tomorrow) and that I've tested again and it's positive but the fertile window gets smaller with every hour.

I knew he wouldn't stick to his promise.

aileth

Lulu, how annoying for you. Is he perhaps getting performance anxiety about it and just making up excuses rather than being honest? I had to hide my fertile days from OH as if he knew he 'had' to BD and perform he would be unable to!

AmyTurtle

Congrats LottieLou - BabyCentre have a pregnancy app which is helpful but very addictive!

Blackribboner - I'm really sorry to hear that, and feel terrible if I've made anyone feel bad or upset them, so I'll probably depart to the under 12 weeks thread now and see if it livens up a bit. Hope to see you all there very soon! Good luck ladies!

Worry_Wart

Thanks for the tips, Claire and DevilDolly. Yes that is pretty much my plan. I came off the pill just over a month ago and I've been using Ovia to monitor my cycle. He knows about this as I (unintentionally) wake him up by checking my temperature every morning! Our sex life really took a nose dive a year or so ago (like, we had sex once!), but it is starting to pick up again, as I've finally realised I have to initiate it always, and he's a lot more receptive in the morning, which is okay by me. He is sticking to the good old catholic withdrawal method though. I'm pretty sure me and my four brothers and sisters were born with that method though

I feel for you all with babies cropping up everywhere. I'm not a particularly emotional person but felt sorry for myself earlier in the week when my ex boyfriend announced he and his partner were expecting. I'm friends with them and they live nearby but that's the second of my long term exes that have just announced babies, that I will see on a weekly basis. It makes you re-evaluate your life somewhat.

Rambosmum

My OH says he is very much up for it but the proof is in the pudding (or BDing, as it may be!) our sex life also took a nose dive for past year or so (mainly me), so I am hoping that my renewed interest is going to spur him on.

blueneleh

Cuilean wrote: »

OH has admitted he's not trying very hard this month because he doesn't really want a December baby. He's a December baby himself, and he says it's horrible having a birthday so close to xmas.

I feel the same.
DS was due on the 29th Dec and we spent the whole of Xmas that year praying he didn't come early! Luckily I was 9 days overdue and he arrived on 6th Jan but I don't want to go through that again so considering just NTNP this next cycle (once AF makes her mind up and gets here)

LottieLou

Oh Black Ribboner, please don't feel lonely about it. What you have been through, no matter how early, is one of the hardest things in the world and nothing that we can 'get over'. I miscarried at 7+4 in April last year, those feelings for me never go away. I still have some hysterical days, where all i do is cry. Like you say DevilDolly5, the due date was the hardest time for me too. But people are right, you will get there, it will happen and there is absolutely nothing to say you won't be able to carry the pregnancy to full term at all. I am sorry If i have made anyone feel bad too

Lulu 92 thats so annoying for you! could you not get him drunk and pounce?

Im keeping all my fingers crossed for everyone, and thank you everybody for the congrats. Still being cautious and waiting for this weekend to test again, just incase.

lulu_92

Oh Black Ribboner I think you're perfectly justified to feel that way and I have everything crossed for a rainbow baby.

Well, Glow decided to send me a notification that said *based on your information DTD TODAY* so I send a screenshot of it to him and my friend! Getting the man drunk makes him sleepy so that's out of the question!

Hope everyone is okay today, not long until the weekend!

chickp

Hi everyone, I think my first message got lost a few pages back.
Can I be added to the list please? I'm 29 and TTC #1 since 1.3.15 and on CD 24.

I have endometriosis which means we may find it difficult to conceive so I'm trying not to worry, but I'm basically terrified it won't happen for us.

I'm using Ovia to track my cycles but not planning on using OPKs for the moment. AF is due next Tuesday so I'm in my first 2ww :eek:

Black_Ribboner

AmyTurtle and LottieLou, please don't feel terrible! This is the classic "it's not you, it's me" situation - what I'm upset about is my own body's failure to ovulate/conceive/carry properly. I'm genuinely happy to hear of the bfps* and wish everyone a happy and healthy pregnancy - it's just sometimes the green mist comes down and my inner toddler goes down on the floor screaming "But why not MEEEEE??!!" My issue and most days I'm fine, I think it's mostly prompted by the lack of ovulation this month

Thanks Rambosmum, LottieLou and devildolly for sharing your stories. I know it will get better in time and there's every chance we'll have a healthy baby in time, but sometimes logic and rationality is very difficult to believe in!

I hope everyone's had a good day and is getting prepped for a lovely weekend - whether you're trying to be good, BDing like mad or in there with the Krispy Kremes and vodka

*My autocorrect changed that to bfns! Very glad I spotted it, what an awful message that would be :eek: