Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

*niptuckfan*

hi all,had period last week, should be ovulating next week, this mornign i am throwing up. my pal thinks i should test but i think surely not i did have a period ...very light lasted 3 days max but this is pretty normal for me, or as normal as i know being that i been on pill for 20 years...just dont want to get into a vicious circle of testing all the time...would u? i feel fine now.

Black_Ribboner

niptuckfan, personally I wouldn't unless the sickness continues for longer than a day or two or other symptoms appear. Ultimately though it's whatever works for you, if it's playing on your mind then a test might settle things.

Good luck either way

*niptuckfan*

Black_Ribboner wrote: »

niptuckfan, personally I wouldn't unless the sickness continues for longer than a day or two or other symptoms appear. Ultimately though it's whatever works for you, if it's playing on your mind then a test might settle things.

Good luck either way

thanks! ye i agree i feel totally fine now, unless i was to feel sick again for longer period i think its daft...i think my pal been watching too much of that programm...i didnt know i was pregnant lol!

ncsmummy

Congrats Maire - hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months.

niptuckfan, I would see how I felt in a couple of days and go from there. If you are pg then no doubt the sickness will return or some other symptoms and then I would test just in case.

Nothing new here, just waiting for ov whenever that decides to happen! I have signed and returned the clearblue paperwork so waiting to hear about that.

Hope all is well with everyone else!

chickp

So, this is not ttc related but I have no one else to talk to. Feel free to skip this post!

Yesterday I found photos from a girl on DH's phone. I know I shouldn't have looked but I was scrolling through the open apps to find candy crush (yep, I know) and I saw a message on whats app that said 'stag do'. I immediately thought 'not another one' and opened it to have a look. At the bottom of the list of messages was one that looked strange and when I opened it there were messages from a girl with 'sexy' photos.

I was so shocked I could barely read it and I handed him the phone. He was so upset, the messages where from last year and he promised he'd never done that before or since. Apparently she approached him through a hot or not thing attached to facebook and he allowed his ego to get the better of him.

I do believe him because he is a terrible liar, he has no time to cheat and we spend all our time planning our future together, but I feel so betrayed and stupid. We only got married 2 weeks ago and I honestly felt that everything was perfect between us but now I have a feeling of doubt.

Sorry for making you read that. I just have nobody to talk to. All of my friends know him and I'm too ashamed.

Has anyone got any advice? At the moment I feel humiliated, resentful and like I'm grieving for that newlywed happiness. I took down all the wedding cards today which seems so over-dramatic but they were annoying me.

BWZN93

Chickp - I'm really sorry to hear this. You are entitled to feel this way, and you should not feel like you are being over dramatic or guilty because you will naturally feel like the wedding gloss has been removed. I don't have any good advice other than trust your gut instincts with this. If you genuinely believe him then that's what matters and you will need to take the steps that are going to make you feel comfortable going forward. If it were me, I would insist on transparency going forward - no phone password locks and hiding phones in the home or anything like that.

If you think he is untrustworthy and you made a mistake then don't rush, take your time about how you want to move forward. There's lots of options if you feel like the trust has gone but I genuinely urge you to take your time coming to any serious decisions unless it's an absolute deal breaker for you and this is irreparable damage. That said - do not feel like this is minor because it's old etc; you are entitled to feel how you feel about this and if he has any sense then he is going to realise there is going to be some fall out from this and to take everything at your pace and he better not diminish your feelings about it or I'll swing for him too.

I think ultimately, his card is marked now and he's going to know it. If you feel that this is something you'll be hard pushed to forget about then definately seek the services of an organisation like Relate and fully talk about it, whether you do this alone, with him, or send him alone to explore his behaviours that led to this; or even a combination of all these things.

Either way, rant here if you need to, send me a PM if you want to just rant about it off public forum, I'm willing to listen if you need it; although I can't promise brilliant nuggets of wisdom. Honestly - anything your thinking and feeling right now is not wrong though. Follow your gut instincts, not th impulses; and you won't regret your actions. Xx

chickp

Thanks Jo, I was so unsure about writing anything on here. Everything you said is completely true. We have no secrets, no passwords so that is not an issue. I've never even checked his phone before although I do use it quite regularly.

He has said all the right things, he says he is devastated that he has hurt and humiliated me and will do everything he can to support me until we get past it. We've been together for 12 years and know each other about as well as you can. He really is not capable of lying about anything or hiding something major from me, he isn't organised enough! Basically I believe him but will the slight doubt ever go away?

One thing I am sure of is I still want a baby with him, so that must indicate that I trust him? But we are definitely not going to BD again this month :mad:

Another thing is that what he wrote to her was so stupid, goofy stuff he might say to me, not how I imagine a sleezy guy on the internet would talk. It was really pathetic really, like he was pretending badly. Although I didn't read the earlier messages and he deleted the thread ''in panic'' when I showed him.

:mad::mad::mad:

chickp

I suppose I'd better write something ttc related.

Accepted for the clearblue study although not looking forward to keeping urine in my fridge or handing it over to the nice lady at the post office :eek:

Probably 6dpo according to 2 out of my 3 apps.

ellesbellesxxx

Big hugs chickp - I would have felt exactly the same and you have every right to feel upset. It sounds like he feels awful too and I am really pleased he was open about his ego.
I agree with Jobatch though that you need total honesty going forward - deleting those messages for a start, and absolutely you need to work through these feelings.
Big hugs xxx anything we can do? Girly night with prosecco because we can?!xx

JellyBox

Hi, just wondered if I could come and join you here? I used to lurk a couple of years or so ago, when I thought I'd be joining soon, but due to various factors, we had to put TTC back and back and back again, however, it looks like now is our month! I feel like I should wait a couple of months before joining in here, but tbh, I am obsessed and have nobody else to talk about it with, none of my friends are at the same stage, my mum would disapprove (unmarried) and OH, supportive as he is, and jointly excited, just doesn't share my enthusiasm before anything is happening!

Anyway, this makes me JellyBox (27) TTC #1 starting 06/15 currently at CD6. Have never yet noticed ovulation, and have a short cycle, then a long one on alternating months, have OPKs but haven't been committed enough to actually see a positive result on one as we weren't properly TTC, would have ideally been doing so the last couple of months but our month to start trying suddenly came forward recently.