Any Abuse Survivors on Here? Help Required Please

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bluelass wrote: »

My mum passed away last Friday (the 8th) and my so called dad phoned me 2 hours after she died to tell me. I am utterly devastated, yesterday my mums oldest sister phoned me to say the cause of death was a DVT. Bearing in mind he is playing the bereft widower does anyone think I should contact the coroner or police to inform them of previous things he did to her. I do know she didn't go out very often and no doubt lack of activity caused the clot to happen. Im not looking for sympathy my only concern is for my mum who I dearly hope is now at peace with those she loved and who loved her. The last time I saw her in person was boxing day because of him.

TBH if the cause of death was DVT it could have happened no matter what did or didn't happen to your mum in the past. If you believe that your father's actions caused your mum's death, why not talk it through with your therapist first.

SallyUK

Bluelass

I've just read through your whole thread now and have to say, well done you!

I too was sexually abused for many of my teenage years and I live with the regret that I didn't report my abuser back then. The reason why I didn't was to save the rest of my family from finding out.

However, now I wish I had.

I guess you get wiser as you get older and realise this once it's too late. My abuser is now dead, but I so wish I had outed him.

Sal
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bluelass

Well my lovely mum was laid to rest almost 3 weeks ago now. He is feeling really sad and guilty and good im glad he feels like crap.I really hope mum is happy now and amongst loved ones and I will get to see her again when my dad comes whenever it may be. He is now acting all heart broken and is trying to act like nothing bad ever happened. Too late for me to act now mums gone and yes im done in over it but I will get on with it and wait for me day to come.

bluelass

bluelass wrote: »

Well my lovely mum was laid to rest almost 3 weeks ago now. He is feeling really sad and guilty and good im glad he feels like crap.I really hope mum is happy now and amongst loved ones and I will get to see her again when my dad comes whenever it may be. He is now acting all heart broken and is trying to act like nothing bad ever happened. Too late for me to act now mums gone and yes im done in over it but I will get on with it and wait for me day to come.

Sorry meant to say when my day not dad comes. Typo error lol.