What Do Women Gain From Marriage?

lika_86

Person_one wrote: »

Not everything else, there are still legal benefits and rights that only come with marriage. Have a look at the link I posted.

There are but my post referred to how *I* could get most of the benefits by putting in place appropriate legal measures. I have no children (and don't plan to have any), live in a rented fully furnished house and don't have any joint accounts or savings with my OH, everything is separate bar a 'house' account for bills in my name. I'm the higher earner and wouldn't need or want anything from him if we split up.

For me personally, marriage offers very few benefits (although it would obviously be easier than putting in place a myriad of legal documents).

NoGoodNamesLeft

Peter333 wrote: »

Exactly. Many women are happy to take on the traditional women's tasks and have the men take over the traditional men's tasks.

Many women like (and prefer) to stay at home and look after the home and kids while their husband goes out to work and brings the money in too. Some may want to work part time, but I have yet to meet a woman who wants to have the responsibility of being the breadwinner, while her husband stays home and looks after the home and kids.

Maybe there are some women like this, but I have never met any.

I don't think some women like to admit or acknowledge it, but many women do not want to take on the traditional man's role of being the main or sole breadwinner, and are happier to stick to traditional 'roles.'

And as you said Mojisola, as long as both parties are happy with it, who are we to judge?

Here I am! :j I am currently working while studying and our plan (after getting married in February) is for me to concentrate on my career, which I love and for him to take care of the domestic jobs, which he already does anyway.

We are not planning on having children, but if that were to change, I could not give up my job and stay at home, but he would be great at it. He is a much better cook than me and he takes care of 90% of the housework, although I handle car maintenance.

We might not be traditional, but I've never been happier. I love my work and he enjoys being a kept man!

AngelOfTheNorth

DFlights wrote: »

I still wouldn't want to be married - if we ever split up, divorce always seems to be fraught with nastiness.

It's a shame that there's little way of making the blood relatives exempt from any decisions without marrying, as neither of us are keen on being married. And yes, y family have been that nasty that I don't want them to have any say in my affairs - what would people's response be if I were single? Go and marry someone to get security from all this? No, there has to be another way.

There really isn't any 'has to be' about it. The legal position is that marriage is the best way to get the protections you want in the watertight way you want them. Far be it from me to tell you what to do, only you know whether your distaste for the idea of getting married bothers you more than distaste for the idea of your partner running into trouble proving he's your next of kin.

I will say, though, that if you're not going to get married you want to make sure you nominate someone else as your next of kin with your GP, and write a will leaving what little you have to him, explaining why you don't want your family to have anything to do with your estate or organising your funeral. The same would be true if you were single, actually- you'd still be well advised to try and get someone else other than blood relatives in place. You want as much of an official paper trail excluding them as possible.

System

Well its pretty sad if you think of marriage in loss and gains.:(

HPoirot

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

Putting love aside, what do you feel women gain from marriage? I was reading the blog a man that claims to "teach men how to get the woman they want". His list for what a good wife is:

1. beautiful
2. faithful
3. cleans
4. cooks
5. takes care of children
6. maintains weight
7. laundry
8. never let's herself go
9. sex at least a few nights a week



His list for what a good husband is:

1. works
2. faithful


These "definitions" haven't appeared to change much even though the "modern woman" also works outside of the home. It seems as if in most marriages, as long as the woman is awake she is working. She works in the office then works at home. But you still hear more men complain about marriage than women. Everything women do WITH marriage they'd still do WITHOUT marriage but it would only be for themselves (less work).

Why does the 2014 woman want to get married? What do you feel you have to gain from it?

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

Still nothing valuable that a woman gains from marriage in 2014........

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

In 2014 what do women gain from marriage ?

How old are you OP? I take it you are female? Why do you take this blogger's word as the gospel truth about the dynamics of men and women's expectations of marriage?


Feminism is truly dead and buried for some isn't it, if a random blogger's word carries this kind of weight in a female's mind?