12-24 weeks pregnant (part 4)

michbright

Hi all!

I've been a bit AWOL lately because I've just not been able to get excited about this pregnancy lately .

This is mainly because my childish BIL and SIL have put a huge dampener on the whole thing because they're jealous that I'm pregnant and SIL isn't. They already have 2 children but BIL wants another but SIL doesn't, so they've been taking it out on me!

Anyway, my wonderful DH took me window shopping yesterday for baby things and we've decided on the pushchair we'd like and I even bought some very cute booties, which is something I've never done as I usually make all booties and mittles for my babies.

I'm 18 weeks on Wednesday and still feeling slightly nauseous. I just wish it would end now! I also recently found out that I have 2 cousins due a couple of weeks after me as well, which is great news. My first 3 children are so much older than all of my cousins' children so far, that it's nice this baby will have some cousins around the same age as them. My siblings don't yet have children, and possibly won't for some time, so this is really great news :T.

Can't wait for my 20 week scan in just over 2 weeks. We're not going to find out what we're having as we'd like the last to be a surprise. MIL, however, wants to know so she can buy baby lots of things to bring out with her when she visits over Christmas. We've said she'll just have to get more things when she visits again in the summer (my in-laws live abroad).

laura_hoggle

Hi all

I also have to have the glucose test as my mother developed gestational diabetes when she was pregnant with my older brother, which turned into types 1 diabetes, and she still has it 36 years later. I can't remember when my midwife said I'll have to have it, I unfortunately have to have lots of other appointments as well and my brain has mushed them all!

Both my brother & I were born with heart conditions (his much more severe than mine, requiring open heart surgery as a baby, mine was monitored but no treatment needed) so I will need to see a foetal anomaly consultant and an obstetrician to see if baby will inherit this. I've also been having irregular heartbeats since being pregnant & have had 2 admissions to A&E with a crazy heartbeat & chest pain, so have been referred to a cardiologist for various tests-they aren't sure if it's purely pregnancy related or as a result of the heart condition I was born with, so I need a scan on my heart & a 3 day cardiac monitor fitted. I was bombarded with letters & phone calls last week about appointments, it's so hard to keep track!

Michbright that seems a bit selfish of BIL & SIL, but pregnancy does crazy things to people around you when they want it too. I have endometriosis & because of the hormone treatment & surgery I've had, I wasnt sure if having children was going to be an option. I remember when someone at work told me last year she was pregnant, although I was really happy for her as I know they had been trying, I did hide myself away for a little cry as I just didn't know if it was going to happen for us.

In the last 2 weeks I have found out that my 2 best friends are also expecting, both within 6 weeks after me. It's very exciting to share it with them although I just wish they lived closer as one loves abroad and the other over 100 miles away. We are all meeting up in a couple of weeks and I'm really excited about seeing them!

snow_ball

I'm having the glucose tolerance test in a couple of weeks, I have to have it cos my mum & brother both have type 2 diabetes?

Went shopping with my mum yesterday and she insisted on buying quite a few of the newborn essentials stuff I had on my list, which was lovely and a complete surprise. Thankfully it wasn't too expensive for her as I'd done my price-checking homework so knew where to get all the bargains!

Mich sorry your family aren't being supportive, glad your weekend got better.

And Laura, it must be lovely having friends at similar stages in pregnancy. I'd thought one of my friends might announce shortly after me, but unfortunately it hasn't happened yet and now she's kind of withdrawn from talking about her TTC journey with me. It's sad, but I understand as I'd have done the same if the situation were reversed.

Rambosmum

MichBright that's rubbish, pregnancy and TTC really does strange things to people. My 2 close friends are both trying - one already has a little girl and has had 2 miscarriages last year and one has been trying since we started. I'm really trying not to talk about my pregnancy too much but I'm starting to show now so I just feel like it's in their face all the time, even though both are happy for me.

We haven't put it on facebook or anything but have told almost everyone.

I've not been told I have to have the GTT, which is good- it's one of the few tests I don't need.

I also have a heart condition Laura- though mine is very very minor I've had some pretty bad palpitations and strange heart beats and had to go for a echo 2 weeks ago, get the results next week. I suspect its nothing and just pregnancy related but you never know.

I've got my anti d injection scheduled for November and my GP has contacted me re the whooping cough, though I can't actually book it yet!

20 week scan next week, the scanticipation has started - I just hope everything is ok.

Had a huge row with OH last night, due to his gran passing away earlier this year he wants us to host Christmas this year, and if I wasn't going to be 37 weeks pregnant I'd be very happy to. He doesn't seem to see this as an issue though. I tried explaining that I'll be knackered and likely grumpy and feeling like I must be sociable won't help and that I could go in to labour or be in hospital or have a new born but he is adamant and I just need to 'relax'. He says he'll do it but I know I'll end up sorting things out like clean bedding, dusting the bed heads, washing up and trying to keep things organised so I have less to do just before baby arrives. I like things clean and tidy and I'm worried that I won't be able to get things organised for when baby comes if we have to turn the house upside down hosting people - they live a long drive away so will stay with us for at least 2 nights if not three. I'd hoped to have it all organised pre Christmas and a freezer full of batch cooking too.

I have to say I understand why he feels this way and I *seem* to be coping ok so far - I say seem because yesterday I ripped kitchen cabinets off the wall and demolished the tiling, earlier in the week I built a door frame and replaced some of the subfloor. But boy do I know it know. I feel like death warmed up today and bump clearly felt I'd over done it - got a few brackson hicks last night and it seemed that baby was saying 'calm down mummy'. And I'm only 19 weeks, I doubt I'll be up for anything at 37 weeks. And to top it off OH is complaining about the lack of sex making me feel really rubbish. Sorry for the rant. Hormones are making me extra grumpy at the moment!

devildolly5

Rambosmum, I feel for you, I really do. I don't want to have any one over at all in December as this is when I want to start getting the house ready. My sisters family live far away and use our house as a base to visit my parents and other sister. They are lovely and dont need a lot, but it is still a ton of work before and after. They came over last weekend and as soon as they were off the driveway, I was in bed for a four hour nap! It infuriates me when OH says don't worry about... (insert dishes, clean bedding, hoovering, garden etc. etc) but I do worry and hate my house looking scruffy for people so I end up doing it all anyway.

Also finding the bump acts like a muscle. Push yourself to far, and little one makes it known. This includes DTD, as I found out at the weekend. Also, TMI but after DTD with OH the next day I got a snotty discharge. Apparently this is normal after sex when pregnant. Eww! Not keen on repeating that any time soon.

I have to have the GTT test (too fat means I am high risk) and the anti-D within 48 hours of this. I think both are in the week when I am 28 weeks.

With regards to others and pregnancy news, I think it is totally unfair for people to make you feel bad for being pregnant, even if they have/are struggling. I remember my sister announcing her second pregnancy when the whole family were there about 6 weeks after telling her we lost our second one. I was totally floored, and had to slope off for a cry. I had no idea I would have felt so gutted (my problem, not her fault), BUT, I sorted myself out and congratulated her and got on with it. Making her feel bad would not have made any blind bit of difference to what happened or got me pregnant again any faster than I did.

I think my bump popped in the last few days. Breathing in does not make the bump go away anymore and I am wearing a lab coat at work even when I don't need to to hide the bump a bit longer. Planning on telling all the rabble at work after the 20 week scan if I can hide it until then.

Also, anyone with a high BMI (mines 37) managed to wangle a water birth. I would love one, but I suspect that because I am high risk I wont be allowed to.

snow_ball

Rambosmum, I don't think you're being unreasonable at all, hosting xmas at 37 weeks even if your OH thinks he'll be doing all the work still seems unrealistic to me, who knows how you'll be feeling and how close to giving birth you'll be.

And I agree with devildolly, I'm using muscles I never knew existed and can really tell the following day if I've done too much, I doubt I'll be able to get myself off the sofa at 37 weeks :rotfl:

My mum started talking about xmas day at the weekend but I've just told her I'm not talking about it this early and not to make any plans around me. I'll be seeing how I feel much closer to the time (I am due on the boxing day bank holiday though :eek:)

Speaking of DTD, I feel really bad at the minute cos I'm just not up for it at all. I'm finding it really difficult to get in the mood, especially because *TMI ALERT* when I get very excited I tend to have a little bleed afterwards and it terrifies me. I was also a total grump at the weekend, but so far I've been v lucky and DH is being understanding on all of the above, thankfully!

Diamond_Orchid

I wouldn't be happy about hosting Christmas either. My due date is 21st December so it's unlikely I'll be volunteering or even if I am up to cooking a roast. DH may need to!

My GTT test is because DS1 was 11lbs, so they want to rule it out this time. I'm quite scared incase I am. I'm not looking forward to the test either, but would of course rather know either way.

I've had some people funny with me at work since becoming pregnant. They didn't 'like' my announcement on FB and haven't congratulated me like everyone else has done. One has clearly been trying a year since she got married, and the other is a gay male who obviously can't get pregnant himself, but wants a baby with is partner. The woman has definitely been odd with me and I don't understand why. Her friend who works with us is also pregnant but I haven't seen any funniness towards her, but maybe there has been.

I understand it must be awful for people to not be able to get pregnant as quickly as they want, but at the same time we cannot be expected to hide away like we are ashamed or to save others feelings.
I have had a miscarriage before and I have gone through a hell of a lot with my last pregnancy and birth, and this one will probably be the same, so I have every right to feel proud of my bump and my body. I don't rub it in people's faces as it must hurt, but I don't deserve coldness either.

Diamond_Orchid

Oh and we haven't DTD since we conceived :rotfl: Much to DS upset

japmis

Sorry I haven't been around, still trying to settle into this pregnancy and find my feet.

The whole Christmas thing is going to be stressful wherever you are if you're heavily pregnant; at least this way you don't have to do any long drives and be away from your local hospital and you get to sleep in your own bed every night. You could compromise and say you want a cleaner to come in before and after the family visit?

I'm 15 weeks and we've only just had our first proper DTD at the weekend.

japmis

My niece who is 10 years younger than me has 2 children, her boy is 2 in Oct and her daughter is 8 weeks old. Even though she lives 250 miles away I really hope our children can be close like we are.

Re: pelvic floor exercises, I can manage quite a lot of tense and releases but I cannot hold it for very long (e.g. 2 seconds!). I thought this was ok but I got the NHS Squeezy app and you're supposed to hold for 30 seconds?! I'm doomed!