Lodger wants to move there partner in?

asoe209

Morning all,

Hoping for your opinions for any one that has dealt withthis sort of thing before.

My lodger has been living with me for a number of monthsnow, and last night when I returned from work my lodger and partner where home.Nothing uncommon there, but I was a bit put on the spot when the question wasasked if they could move in.

I think they sort of wanted an answer there and then but I leftit with I will have to think about it and I will let you know.

I have not spoken to them both yet as I never had a chanceto last night since I had to go out. But plan to this evening if they are here.

From what I gather on the brief 2 min chat is that my lodgergets benefits(housing?), and she has just taken on a part time job I believe isaffecting the benefit. So they most of thought im round here a lot I may aswell more in and help you out sort of thing I understand.

My problem now is if I say no I don’t know where that’s goingto leave her, i.e. paying here rent or possibly have to move out or strugglingetc. on the other had if I say yes were does it leave me in terms with livingwith a permanent couple.

It feels hard as they are both really nice people but a talkhas been on the cards for some time now with a few thing that they have/ havenot done around the home.

So really just want to know how other people have gone aboutthis if they have been through it before.

Brock_and_Roll

I had a similar situation with my lodger. He was a great guy and I wanted to help him, but of course an extra person in the house does create extra stresses. Ultimately he moved out bought his own flat, married the girl and have a baby - we are still friends. Good lodgers are hard to come by!

If you do decide to do it, a modest rent rise would be appropriate - the extra person will use more utilities, bog paper etc etc

fairy_lights

Is your lodger expecting to move her partner in and continue paying the same account of rent, or would the partner also be paying rent?
I absolutely wouldn't allow the partner to move in without also charging them rent, they will be using water and electricity and causing wear and tear on the house, so your tenant shouldn't expect the partner to move in and live two for the price of one as it were.
Is your house big enough for a third person to be living there permanently? Living with a couple will be very different to living with a single person or even two lodgers in separate rooms - they will have sex, have rows etc and generally be a much bigger presence around the house.

jayss

Do you want to live with a couple?
If not tell her no.
If you're okay with it give them your terms, eg raise the rent and adjust house rules.


In turn they'll decide if it's okay or not.

RAS

Personally, no. Regardless.

The dynamic in a house shared by a couple and a single person is completely different to the same house shared by two single adults, regardless of the genders involved.

If you want to share with a couple, you would not doubt have sought one out in the first place.

The situation regarding your lodger and benefits is a bit difficult but you could suggest she checks www.turn2.us.org.uk. Be aware that under 25, these are reduced and the age limits for single people apply up to 35 but for housing do NOT apply to couples.

That may be the incentive to move in together.

asoe209

Well I live in a 2 bedroom flat.

And judging by the comments I can only assume that they arething that the rent would remain as what the single lodger is paying.

I was taking to a mate last night and they suggestincreasing to by half of what they pay now. Im not sure what would be a fair increasein rent something to consider.

Funny you mention wear and tear, one of the thing that needsto be addressed with them is the just how they conduct them self in the homewith cleaning, and care. I guess guests would be a factor as well. So far wehave had no peoples we both give each other notice so we know what we may walkinto.

katejo

The answer from me would be No. When I advertise, I make it clear that the room is for 1 person. It isn't big enough for 2. The rent including gas/electricity etc. is priced for one person. Also I would feel as though I were playing gooseberry in my own house. Imagine arriving back in the evening and seeing them having a kiss and cuddle (or more) on the sofa. My lodgers can have a friend/partner to stay over occasionally but not to move in.

LEJC

3 people in a 2 bed flat...and you being in the minority....


sorry for me that would be a no..


You need to consider your living space and whether you feel it will be compromised by another person living there full time...in essence the odd night now and again might be fine but with another person entering full time with their belongings,unless you have an unusually large flat would probably be a tight squeeze.


Basically I cant help but wonder if your flat can truly accomodate 3 people why you didnt move a couple in as lodgers in the first place.

lee111s

I have a lodger and while it wouldn't be an issue we'd come up against (he's a contractor working up here and has a wife down south) it's not something I'd allow if the situation did come up with another lodger.

It'll cause all sorts of problems..imagine how awkward it would be having them argue in your house!

getmore4less

How often are they staying now?

Do they ever go round his place?

Why your place and not his for the move in?

If there are issues already that need addressing, will likely increase.

two bed two bath to even think about permanent.

rent check the going rate in the area for double rooms for 2 people.

how are you doing bills and will any increase hit the rent a room limit.

asoe209

How oftenare they staying now?

Well thisstarted small ad got more frequent as time went on its safe to say on averagethe partner will be there form Friday to Sunday, and prob at least 1-2 eveninga week. as mentioned she the lodger started a 2nd part time jobwhich seems to be evenings.

I had oneday off work a week or so ago, I returned from the shops to find he was thereand the she had given him her key so he could chill there, I don’t know if thishappens often.

Do they ever go round his place?

I believe theygo round now and ten, but he lives with his parents and it’s a bit of a fullhouse which is why he comes round more often as a getaway.

Why your place and not his for the move in?

As theabove comment states

If there are issues already that need addressing, will likely increase.

Hopefully notonce these issues have been outline to them.

two bed two bath to even think about permanent.

1 shower…..hum lol

rent check the going rate in the area for double rooms for 2 people.

Will haveto take a look.

how are you doing bills and will any increase hit the rent a room limit.

All billsincluded in current rent im on key and card. If it runs out or low I top it up.with winter coming noticing the change in gas already on average were doingabout £12 a week on electric gas im not sure yet but I know £10 is being usedevery few days. council tax price will change and that about it