my husband is having an affair

sacha28

I don't want to sound negative but does anyone else find it strange that OP found texts suggesting an affair and within 3 hours has her financial affairs in order, and then doesn't return to offer any words or update?

When I left an awful relationship after 11 years it took me over a week to sort finances behind his back (I had every reason, I worked 3 jobs whereas he didn't work) so 3 hours is amazing speed!

Maybe I'm wrong, maybe OP is spending her time thrashing it out with said husband rather than being a keyboard warrior and she already had an account in her sole name, but I'm erring on the side of caution with this one.

Equally, if the situation is really happening then I apologise as it is a horrid situation to find yourself in.

lostinrates

Could just be naivity as to extent of what sorting out financial affairs could extend to.

Sorting out bank accounts can be done very quickly in many cases, especially where joint and single accounts are already held and online. Just minutes.

sacha28

Ah forgot about online banking! I left my ex just as the whole online banking thing was kicking off so wasn't in on it.

Armorica

sacha28 wrote: »

I don't want to sound negative but does anyone else find it strange that OP found texts suggesting an affair and within 3 hours has her financial affairs in order, and then doesn't return to offer any words or update?

When I left an awful relationship after 11 years it took me over a week to sort finances behind his back (I had every reason, I worked 3 jobs whereas he didn't work) so 3 hours is amazing speed!

Maybe I'm wrong, maybe OP is spending her time thrashing it out with said husband rather than being a keyboard warrior and she already had an account in her sole name, but I'm erring on the side of caution with this one.

Equally, if the situation is really happening then I apologise as it is a horrid situation to find yourself in.

She works five days a week, has two children, and an (ex)husband who seems rather less than perfect. I suspect she's pretty organised (and on adrenalin). It might not take long if you know where all the documentation is and are on top of your finances.

RuthnJasper

The OP has probably been put off by DreamyP's efforts...

Even so, it's a pretty grim situation she's faced with, so her non-reappearance is perfectly understandable. Maybe she doesn't want to share her woes more fully on a forum...?

Anyway, I'd still like to know if she is all right. I worry sometimes (genuinely!:o) when posters ask for advice on a wretched situation, probably are not trolls or bored teenagers, and then don't reappear. I know what it's like to have been the unhappy poster seeking help.

Best wishes to you lost898, whatever's going on with you just now. x

owen_money

If I was a cynical and heartless B'steward I would say its was a troll, hang on I am a cynical and heartless B'steward..................

lost898

Hi All

Sorry I have not been back to update you sooner I have been getting things in order with the house, finances and children. My Husband has now moved out and we are getting divorced he has admitted that it has been going on since we first got together.

I feel totally devastated but i have to be strong for my children.

I want to thank you all for your very helpful advice and kind words you are all very nice people

JoW123

I know it probably doesn't seem like it now but I think the outcome is probably for the best. You don't deserve to be living a lie any longer, and I don't think anything would have changed. Stay strong and you will get through the tough times ahead. Wishing you all the best.

Morglin

lost898 wrote: »

Hi All

Sorry I have not been back to update you sooner I have been getting things in order with the house, finances and children. My Husband has now moved out and we are getting divorced he has admitted that it has been going on since we first got together.

I feel totally devastated but i have to be strong for my children.

I want to thank you all for your very helpful advice and kind words you are all very nice people

Good luck, and I am sure you will, one day, find a nice guy you can trust.

Lin

paigesaunt

Thank you for coming back to update us on your sad outcome. So many people leave those who offered help, advice and were there for you, wondering. Very kind of you, during what must be a really difficult time.

What a despicable husband you had! Sounds like they deserve each other!

My very best wishes to you and the children for a happy future