Morals and family

Randomjargon

Is this actually a real problem?

axel132132

All really valid points and the way i mean it is im an adult there kids they shouldnt have things just because i am... When im speaking in this i mean like if i go to shop get myself a bag of crisps and a pepsi (they have drinks - water and dilute pop all the time 24/7 never ever short) then i shudnt have to go get 3 pepsi max and 3 bags of crisps i feel thats spoiling them.. They can have one or two of my crisps but not there own bag

Extreme context but i said to my fiance... If i have a cig.. Shud they be allowed a cig just cos im having one?

They get there own treats without us and they also have deserts yogurts after tea etc.. If there good they get harribo all then time things like that so its not like they never get anything


Just think if they grow up having to have same all time there going to grow up spoilt 'well dad has a ipad so why cant i' type attitude.. (They do have an ipad like just a example)

purpleshoes_2

axel132132 wrote: »

All really valid points and the way i mean it is im an adult there kids they shouldnt have things just because i am... When im speaking in this i mean like if i go to shop get myself a bag of crisps and a pepsi (they have drinks - water and dilute pop all the time 24/7 never ever short) then i shudnt have to go get 3 pepsi max and 3 bags of crisps i feel thats spoiling them.. They can have one or two of my crisps but not there own bag

Extreme context but i said to my fiance... If i have a cig.. Shud they be allowed a cig just cos im having one?

They get there own treats without us and they also have deserts yogurts after tea etc.. If there good they get harribo all then time things like that so its not like they never get anything


Just think if they grow up having to have same all time there going to grow up spoilt 'well dad has a ipad so why cant i' type attitude.. (They do have an ipad like just a example)

I agree with the people whove said maybe you should consider your own eating habits, because these kids are young and if they see you having pepsi max and chocolate, thats what they'll want. Personally, I wouldnt take kids to a shop and buy treats for myself and not buy them anything, but I wouldnt necessarily buy them fizzy juice and chocolate. If you are buying for yourself, Id go alone, but would I buy stuff for myself and sit and eat and drink it in front of two young kids, no I wouldn't, just a recipe for them getting upset and arguments about why you have juice/crisps and they don't.

I agree with the person who said if you are having a treat, have it when the kids are in bed. If you get crisps, they'll see them and want them.

Also rewarding them with haribo, I think you are setting yourself up for having two kids who will grow up wanting crisps, juice and chocolate/sweets.

Replace it with something a bit healthier, fruit and you'll more likely have two kids who grow up only wanting chocolate occasionally.

GobbledyGook

I think taking the children with you to buy 'treats' and then only giving them little bits because they are treats and you are an adult is giving a pretty unhealthy attitude to those kinds of food and drinks (not to mention is quite mean).

Why can't you buy your treats with the weekly shop or whatever and then have them when the children are in bed?

Also why is treating them with haribo all the time ok, but them wanting your crisps bad?

Using your cig example - if you were having a cig would you make them sit there with you whilst you smoke it telling them that they could't have it because it was an adult treat?

makeitstop

There, they're, their.

makeitstop

Randomjargon wrote: »

Is this actually a real problem?

Yes, the use of there, their and they're is a real problem.

It's infuriating reading anything when the word there is used to replace their or they're.

lulu_92

axel132132 wrote: »

All really valid points and the way i mean it is im an adult there kids they shouldnt have things just because i am... When im speaking in this i mean like if i go to shop get myself a bag of crisps and a pepsi (they have drinks - water and dilute pop all the time 24/7 never ever short) then i shudnt have to go get 3 pepsi max and 3 bags of crisps i feel thats spoiling them.. They can have one or two of my crisps but not there own bag

Extreme context but i said to my fiance... If i have a cig.. Shud they be allowed a cig just cos im having one?

They get there own treats without us and they also have deserts yogurts after tea etc.. If there good they get harribo all then time things like that so its not like they never get anything


Just think if they grow up having to have same all time there going to grow up spoilt 'well dad has a ipad so why cant i' type attitude.. (They do have an ipad like just a example)

But do you take your kids with you when you buy pop and crisps for you?

You could always do what my Step-dad did (and still does now the kids are all grown up)

He has his own secret stash hidden somewhere (his chest of drawers in his bedroom) and tops it up when they do the online shop. Now, this wasn't to deter us from eating it (not that I like orange flavoured dark chocolate anyway) but was because he has a very sweet tooth which strikes at all hours of the day and my mum was annoyed with him waking her up when he would make himself cereal:rotfl:

As long as you're not like Miss Trunchbull from Matilda who counts the chocolates in the box in case some are missing I would say you're far from cruel. I understand both sides of this argument but I don't feel that giving in and giving the kids treats all of the time is a good thing, nor do I think eating treats in front of them often is good either.

Are your kids bringing it up?

PeacefulWaters

This is a money saving site.

Stop buying rubbish in shops and invest the money saved!

owl_lover

Agree with what most others have said.
The cigarette comparison is ridiculous.
Does this only apply to chocolate or do you buy yourself expensive things too and not your children, because that would be spoiling them?
That would be unfair ( not that I believe children need expensive things).

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

10p Freddo chocolate each and brushing teeth at bedtimes solves the problem.