Is she an auntie?

lulu_92

KxMx wrote: »

It may be they are funny and sniffy about only accepting "blood" relatives.

OP is this a family of Death Eaters?

Peter333

lulu_92 wrote: »

OP is this a family of Death Eaters?

Or maybe they class the OP's friend as a mudblood?! :rotfl:

Buzzybee90

lulu_92 wrote: »

Any update on this? I've been eager for one!

Sorry Lulu, I caught up with her yesterday but was out last night.

Yes... and it's even stranger than I had imagined.

Apparently the mum believes only siblings (including friends hubby) and in laws on her side of the family are aunties and uncles..... !! However, she has asked my friend to be a God mother! Apparently it's just something that's always happened in her family, lots of her relations are/were single mums and there wasn't much input from the dads so it seems to have morphed into a family 'tradition', albeit a strange one.

Friend feels much better now it's been explained and they felt really bad about it and have said she will be auntie *name* plus God mother. I'm pleased they've made her feel included!

Georgiegirl256

Very strange situation! Anyhow, I'm glad the friend now feels included and got it off her chest.

Peter333

Well I guess that's good news that your friend is happy now buzzybee. Very strange one, but I guess people have their own ideas eh?

If she is being asked to be Godmother, then that's nice, but she IS still the kiddy's auntie isn't she? :whistle:

Or are they saying they still don't class her an an auntie?

Buzzybee90

Yes, they've said they will call her Auntie in the same way but I get the impression they've made an allowance for her - but she's chuffed about being asked to be a God parent.

maman

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Yes, they've said they will call her Auntie in the same way but I get the impression they've made an allowance for her - but she's chuffed about being asked to be a God parent.

So pleased it's been sorted without unpleasantness.


My guess is that if the family have a number of single mums maybe they didn't want a string of assorted men being known as 'uncle'. That sort of instability can be very distressing for children so maybe I can see where their family tradition came from.

SilverSaloon

of course she is an auntie.

some people/families are very strange

DFlights

Hm, I have a similar problem, but the opposite way around - my partner's mother insists I call her "mum" and that I'm her daughter-in-law, but as me and him aren't married and I'm not the happy families type, I'm actually happier being known as OH's girlfriend (we've been together for 17 years, we're not marrying, no kids).

I hate it, and refuse to call her "mum". My family were horrendous to me as a kid, so maybe it's because "family" means to me a bunch of extremely mean, nasty people who only snipe and shout at each other. I hold friendships in higher esteem. But still she tries.

And I'd be horrified if OH's near-adult son ever referred to me as his step mum!

Billie-S

DFlights wrote: »

Hm, I have a similar problem, but the opposite way around - my partner's mother insists I call her "mum" and that I'm her daughter-in-law, but as me and him aren't married and I'm not the happy families type, I'm actually happier being known as OH's girlfriend (we've been together for 17 years, we're not marrying, no kids).

I hate it, and refuse to call her "mum". My family were horrendous to me as a kid, so maybe it's because "family" means to me a bunch of extremely mean, nasty people who only snipe and shout at each other. I hold friendships in higher esteem. But still she tries.

And I'd be horrified if OH's near-adult son ever referred to me as his step mum!

Hmmm, I have never called my husband's mother 'mum;' I have one mother and that is it. I always find this strange when someone calls their mother in law 'mum' (or their father in law 'dad.')

I am very sorry you had an unhappy family life as a child. I hope you're OK (ish) now.