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silvercar

Doozergirl wrote: »

Why worrying?

Worrying 49, worrying - or worrying because you were reading the Daily Mail?

I did think of putting an explanation of why I was reading the DM. Parent and in-laws both read it. Both fail to understand the sarcasm in "well it must be true because it is in the DM" whenever they quote the paper.

I though 49 was young to be the average age.

GDB2222 wrote: »

I live in hope still. I'm well past 49, but I don't think its a competitive sport. If it is, I've lost, because the youngest person to become a grandparent was aged 23, having had her daughter when she was 12, and her daughter gave birth aged 11. That's the youngest Mr Google could find. Frankly, it's not a record I would want anything to do with.

I would have thought that early 60s was the optimum age. Young enough to have some energy and old enough to be thinking of retirement to have the time to help out.

vivatifosi

Just spent two hours clearing out what I call the spider cupboard. Feeling v happy and one big load of junk taken to the tip.

LydiaJ

Nikkster wrote: »

I could be good with the first too though, no?

Somewhat strangely I think it would be a lot more socially acceptable if that was the result of an accident rather than by my choice.

As it stands, no opportunities for accidents and I'm entirely unconvinced I could look after anything or anyone else. Not ago long to overturn any of those.

Most people becoming parents feel unconvinced that they're able to look after a kid, and while once you've got the child(ren) you do acclimatise to the idea that you are now stuck doing the job of parenting, I don't know that you ever really feel competent at it. That's no reason not to do it, though.

Doozergirl wrote: »

Who cares what is socially acceptable. No one should care about being judged by people they don't know.

We know it's perfectly possible to being up a child successfully, alone. Support is important. If your parents would be willing helpers then it might be an idea to move closer. But use them as a break for you, not childcare while you're at work - you'll all be exhausted.

Coping alone is not exactly fun. We all need a break.

Agree that you shouldn't let other people's possible opinions about it put you off. I don't think it would be much of a problem, though. Choosing to have a kid on your own may not be very common, but I think most people are aware that it's a choice that people make.

Agree also that support is the key. Parenting without a partner but with a supportive and helpful family living not too far away is a completely different prospect from parenting all by yourself with no help from anybody.

Spirit_2

I want to be a grandma. DD has said we are only having grand rabbts or a grand cat.

i live in hope and we try to incentivise producing one and us getting to see it by saying we will buy the infant a pony and keep it here. DD has also gone from total disinterest in babies to speaking fondly of her friends little ones. She and bf are getting on very well. I have my fingers crossed.

Nikks, better to plan a baby or adopt, in a stable lovng home than live a life regreting not having child. Plenty conceive as a couple but parent alone. For example my nephews widows, One left wih a four month old, the other widowed in pregnancy. i think a child could be life enhancing, does not preclude you meeting a life partner later . You have role models on here about single parenting with Sue and lydia, and others in couples who do not pretend it to be perfectwhen there are two parents; me, micheals,Gen .

Nikkster

Don't worry, I'm probably more likely to become an astronaut than actually do anything along those lines. In fact that would be less of a ridiculous idea. Its just something that's been on my mind for quite a long time.

Anyone else watch the rugby this afternoon? That was quite exciting!

vivatifosi

DH watched the rugby, which is why I went on a date with the spiders. Payback time now... The Voice.

ukmaggie45

SingleSue wrote: »

He was singing at school again yesterday, openly and with confidence and blowing everyone away with what he can do.

Yep, think the confidence has returned.

Oh that's wonderful to hear. :j Long may that hard earned confidence last. I just feel so very happy to hear that good news. Yay! :T

silvercar wrote: »

I though 49 was young to be the average age.

I would have thought that early 60s was the optimum age. Young enough to have some energy and old enough to be thinking of retirement to have the time to help out.

Think I was 61. So OH 64. Give or take a year for both of us.

Doozergirl

Nikkster wrote: »

Don't worry, I'm probably more likely to become an astronaut than actually do anything along those lines. In fact that would be less of a ridiculous idea. Its just something that's been on my mind for quite a long time.

Anyone else watch the rugby this afternoon? That was quite exciting!

I demand to be a godparent

My boys are at Twickenham. They were on the 2nd row (of the crowd, not the scrum). DS has lost his voice, Doozer says it was simply the best game of rugby he has ever been to see.

We assumed gender roles today. DD and I did shopping and lunch, we have brought a chunk of patisserie home to celebrate me getting into a size 12 in Oasis. Backward thinking.

I got home for last 30 seconds. Had no idea what was going on and was trying to work out the point difference when it ended and everyone looked like they'd lost.

lostinrates

I have finally, for my first time on MSE been accused of being a troll. .


I wonder if I get a PPR now?

Doozergirl

lostinrates wrote: »

I have finally, for my first time on MSE been accused of being a troll. .


I wonder if I get a PPR now?

How can you be a troll with 3,297,983,346,246 posts?