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GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

Gen.....children shouldn't be wandering off at one or two. That's why they aren't meant to be left alone. That's why taking care of little kids is so hard. little A stair gate on open door ways would do it. If a pool on some one else's property will get them so might a car, a bus, a spider or any other nightmare. Keep kids on their OWN property fence your OWN pools off certainly. It makes sense to child proof a child property

My eldest brother was found crawling across the Zebra crossing near my parents' house. He was carried back into the house by a bus driver! After that, they built a miniature POW camp in the back garden, and he was incarcerated there.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

They shouldn't but they do. It's simply not possible to stand and stare at your kids all day every day for 3 years. You'd go mad.

The other point is that pools are everywhere over here, it's not like Europe where they're a luxury. There's one in pretty much every street.

That's probably why my experience is relevant. I wasn't a European mainly child until I was eight, then was incarcerated in school.

Most places I was there were pools More than every street and the sea was almost always within a toddle.

You don't have to stand and stare at your kids to secure them. It does get boring. When my nieces left or went to school the bits I liked were going to the loo or bath by my self. Odd, since I'd been happy in company of other adults before and since....

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

That's the worst thing I've read on the NP thread

It was horrid, but horrid things happen in everyone's lives. I don't think its the worst thing because I don't think things can be quantified like that personally. But you can sit and go 'how awful' or you can get on life. * It honestly did not stop sibling achieving things, including in a very body conscious and exposed sphere in in less enlightened times. Sibling missed an awful lot of school for operations / skin grafts as grew yet was also a high academic achiever. I'm incredibly proud of sibling for that. As a child I thought that siblings skin was more beautiful than anyone's as it wasn't boring but had a beautiful intricate pattern wound around them.


*i personally feel that sitting and feeling hard done by too much about such things especially with children can be incredibly limiting and even damaging. I'm not saying one doesn't acknowledge them at all, just that they can become the excuse/ counterbalance/reasoning etc for all which impedes normal growth IMO.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

Stuff like that is fun once you're mature enough to understand that there is risk. You don't understand that when you're one or two years old.

I think I was about five when I started my wave thing. Fwiw, I do know my parents got flak about it.

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

It is great to have you back and posting L.

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Hopefully I am being bratty enough not to be missed next time

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

I think I was about five when I started my wave thing. Fwiw, I do know my parents got flak about it.

Yeah, I got into trouble for my approach to risk when the Generalissimos were little. The Girl used to like to crawl up to the front end of the pram and hang over the edge so she could see more. I used to push her like that down Fleet Street and walk past waves of disapproving looks.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

Yeah, I got into trouble for my approach to risk when the Generalissimos were little. The Girl used to like to crawl up to the front end of the pram and hang over the edge so she could see more. I used to push her like that down Fleet Street and walk past waves of disapproving looks.

Stunting curiosity and wonder seems a dangerous risk indeed.

CKhalvashi

lostinrates wrote: »

Stunting curiosity and wonder seems a dangerous risk indeed.

However if she was strapped in, I don't see too much danger here.

We deliberately picked the 206, because the windows were low enough for DD's to be able to see out when on the rear seat.

We also selected the option of a disabling thing (needed the key to do it) for the passenger airbag on the front, and yet I still got moaned at for putting one of the child seats there in a car park in Harlow once.

The disabling thing looked like this (photo from Wikipedia)

lostinrates

Probably going off to snooze again now....bye maybe.

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

Stunting curiosity and wonder seems a dangerous risk indeed.

Well indeed. The fact that she wasn't strapped in and so crawled to the end of the pram was what exercised passers by I think.

She went off the end of the pram one Sunday afternoon in Orpington. She was ready for a stroller and that hole that babies have in their heads had gone so I wasn't that worried. The noise she made told me she was conscious! I copped a load of stick from passers by but there was nothing wrong with her that a cuddle couldn't fix.

ISTR that we went off for a bag of crisps and a beer to settle our nerves.