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chewmylegoff

Yorkie1 wrote: »

I'd have thought this was a straightforward job for a joiner to do, once you've got your ladder? A colleague had it done and I don't remember it being too much trauma.

You can buy ready made loft hatches in B&Q... I recently replaced our loft hatch door and I am fairly useless DIYwise. It was a pretty simple job but then all I had to do was get a bit of plywood the right size cut and screw some hinges and a latch onto it. My parents have a fancier set up where the ladder is attached to the hatch somehow so that opening the hatch extends the ladder downwards - which would be beyond my skillset!

It was supposed to be a temporary fix until we can get it done properly but I rather suspect it will be there when we leave here (even if carried out feet first!).

PasturesNew

Doozergirl wrote: »

I think Doozer fronting a Channel 4 television series might have helped that. If he hadn't turned it down!

If you kept a list of everybody on the telly, you'd find quite a number of them appear on multiple shows to get their name out there/noticed.

Doozergirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

I just had a thought how doozer can sell herself/business and house in one.

Become a contestant on Come Dine With Me. Most of them there are promoting themselves/their business in some way and raising their profiles.

It'd be possible to plug the business, while people get to see the house for sale - all in one.

PasturesNew wrote: »

If you kept a list of everybody on the telly, you'd find quite a number of them appear on multiple shows to get their name out there/noticed.

Oh, definitely. I know someone like that, or rather I knew her as teenagers and she is still BFFs with a friend. She was in 'the naked office' or something, then I saw her on 'Dinner Dates' and something else, I'm sure. I'm not sure it really gets people noticed, perhaps recognised by people who are good with faces.

Doozergirl

I phoned doozer (in London) to ask him to block DS's phone signal.

He is 14. He may as well be an alien for the amount of sense I can talk into him.

My best friend complains about her step-son (of sorts). He stayed with us at the weekend before returning to boarding school. Of course, he was everything he should be and not my son, which is what she described.

I could take my own advice and just understanding that his brain isn't fully developed and 'thinking of other people' of one's own accord doesn't exist yet, but it's hard in the face of the reality of a sullen teen who tells me that ruining a doughnut by licking it and biting across it after being told to share it, is doing me and his sister a favour.

I was so shocked. He was never spiteful as a smaller child. Of course, he thinks I've 'gone mental' because he ate a cake. No. No. No.

lostinrates

L's school of hard cheese.

I might not want to eat it after you have likes it and bitten it, That doesn't mean YOU get to eat it while I have a bin. I am afraid that kind of selfish behaviour would merit something that was 'kind' for his sister and the household in my book.

Your son is a polite and good boy with a pretty astounding work ethic who I have seen knuckle down. ( very, very far from a monster!) He also has male role models who work and play hard and joke a lot in a not always magnanimous way ( I've seen your menfolk do similar to each other.) maybe he needs a reminder that how men or indeed any subdivision group of people 'play' together isn't appropriate at the kitchen table and in mixed company. He may just have been carried away. But those strong boy hormones of his probably need a sharp reminder. Lots of testosterone in your home DG!

Doozergirl

lostinrates wrote: »

L's school of hard cheese.

I might not want to eat it after you have likes it and bitten it, That doesn't mean YOU get to eat it while I have a bin. I am afraid that kind of selfish behaviour would merit something that was 'kind' for his sister and the household in my book.

Your son is a good boy with a pretty astounding work ethic who I have seen knuckle down. He also has male role models who work and play hard and joke a lot in a not always magnanimous way ( I've seen your menfolk do similar to each other.) maybe he needs a reminder that how men or indeed any subdivision group of people 'play' together isn't appropriate at the kitchen table and in mixed company. He may just have been carried away. But those strong boy hormones of his probably need a sharp reminder. Lots of testosterone in your home DG!

That's exactly what happened. I demanded that he put it in the bin. He ate it anyway. He is as big as me and I am still ill so there was nothing I could do.

Cousin has been moved out for a few months and I have noted improvement in the other half's behaviour towards me. It is less testosterone fuelled. But it goes on for him with DS as some sort of team building exercise. It frustrates me because 'banter' isn't okay and I am aware that DS has a very emotionally sensitive brain that won't show when it hurts. It's all very well being a 'bloke's bloke' but I don't like it being passed on, especially not in my presence.

DS does know what sort of behaviour won't be tolerated, but he's also learning that there's not much I can do about it.

Except block his phone. Mwah.

He really needs to go back to school. I think he is bored to the point of inviting attention and I need to work now.

silvercar

How do you block a phone?

We used to switch off the wifi when necessary. Doesn't work now that phones have reasonable internet.

Doozergirl

silvercar wrote: »

How do you block a phone?

We used to switch off the wifi when necessary. Doesn't work now that phones have reasonable internet.

Phone up the provider and ask them to do it.

LydiaJ

Doozergirl wrote: »

That's exactly what happened. I demanded that he put it in the bin. He ate it anyway. He is as big as me and I am still ill so there was nothing I could do.

Cousin has been moved out for a few months and I have noted improvement in the other half's behaviour towards me. It is less testosterone fuelled. But it goes on for him with DS as some sort of team building exercise. It frustrates me because 'banter' isn't okay and I am aware that DS has a very emotionally sensitive brain that won't show when it hurts. It's all very well being a 'bloke's bloke' but I don't like it being passed on, especially not in my presence.

DS does know what sort of behaviour won't be tolerated, but he's also learning that there's not much I can do about it.

Except block his phone. Mwah.

He really needs to go back to school. I think he is bored to the point of inviting attention and I need to work now.

Hugs DoozerGirl.

You are a mother and therefore whatever you do is by definition wrong in some way so that you have to feel guilty about it, even if there is nothing you could have done differently that would have made any difference.

My son (the same age as yours) ... [details deleted]

I don't think you're doing too badly with yours!
When he is at other people's houses, he probably behaves delightfully, just like your friend's stepson, who is probably a nightmare in his own home. Young people have always been like this. My aunt, when in her teens, was asked by her frustrated parents why, since her school reports described such impeccable behaviour at school, she wasn't capable of behaving like that at home. She said "Well, I can't be good everywhere. Would you rather I was good at home and troublesome at school?" leaving them at a loss for a reply.

More hugs about OH's behaviour having been in need of improvement.
I think boys in two parent families learn their attitude to women in general and their mums in particular from their dads.
Hope it continues improving, and that you are able to get him to understand that teaching your DS to respect you (and enforcing it until he's learnt it) is part of his job as dad.

inspector_monkfish

Hi guys.
How you all doing?
Hope u all had a great Christmas and New Year.

We had a lovely quiet one after Daisy got home from hospital 6 days before Christmas. Was just nice to spend some quality family time all together :-)
And Santa looked after Daisy very well too :-))

Wishing you all a very happy and wonderful 2015

IM x