Thank you letters - AIBU

GobbledyGook

AIBU to think a verbal (super excited) thank you in person when a present was opened and a telephone call the day after the party thanking you for coming AND another excited thank you from the child during the call means you don't need a letter?

The child is 4 and currently has a broken arm, if that makes a difference (the letter would be written by a parent - child can't!)

penguingirl

I like thank you's- maybe the compromise is a little thank you card with a photo of the child on? They could sign their name or do a kiss or something in it (if able to!). I think a letter would be weird.

Flossie.

What does AIBU mean?

lika_86

Am I being unreasonable apparently. I had to google it.

victory

lika_86 wrote: »

Am I being unreasonable apparently. I had to google it.

What?:rotfl: never seen that abbreviation , heard obvs and had to google that one and it means obviously:o I'm obviously too old for these abbreviations:rotfl:

penguingirl

I googled it too. Assumed I was just not 'with it' enough.

sulphate

Thank you letters are a common courtesy that sadly seem to be going out of fashion these days. I can't count the amount of people who I've been to weddings over the last few years and have never thanked me for the present I bought. It's sad really.

hawk30

I don't get the need to send a thank-you card to someone that you have already thanked in person (unless it's a very special occasion, such as a wedding). So I would say that it's fine.

Gloomendoom

If you have to ask "Am I being unreasonable?" often enough to feel the need to use an acronym, there is a good chance that you are being unreasonable.

Counting_Pennies_2

If you have received the present and opened it in front of them and thanked them, then I don't think a letter is crucial, although of course nice if you can get round to doing them.


However if the person has come to the party and given the wrapped present, which was later opened at home when the guests had left, then I do think it important a letter of some form is sent, no matter how many times they are thanked for coming to the party.


If there is a reason due to age or broken bones, then perhaps a hand print with mum drawing round the good hand, or a photo from the party, and mums hand written thank you inside.


To me it is basic manners. I have once forgotten to do thank you notes from the children and it did not sit comfortably when I realised they hadn't been done

maman

Flossie. wrote: »

What does AIBU mean?

I don't know if it originated there but there's a whole board of threads on Mumsnet that are prefaced with it.


I'm assuming OP that someone has suggested your child should do thank you letters. I'm afraid I agree. I think it's good manners and it's never too early to start. As someone suggested, it doesn't have to be an actual letter and how much is written can be age appropriate. If he's broken his 'writing' hand then you could write his name and he could have a bit of fun trying to write with his other hand this year.


I know emails/texts/calls etc may be taking over but I believe it's a tradition worth preserving. I'm glad we still do it amongst my family and friends.