How do I live ??

SnooksNJ

Cautious_Optimist wrote: »

I think that case says a lot about the USA...

From what I've heard the women there are the least willing to form a short, but intimate relationship with an eager gentleman....

And the Working Girls? Remember what Hugh Grant got caught with..?!

You are very fortunate to live in a country with not a single case of schizophrenia.

[Deleted User]

Its simple Simon, you need to start dating career girls and not ones

' that want to have a family and rent a flat together'.

Picture two salaries coming in every month and I guess many of your dreams will come true. Plenty of time for children to happen. Many of my colleagues are working mother's, times have changed and families have needed to change because of the simple reason one salary is not enough to live on.

Hill53

Try to get another job, where you will be earning more. Cut down your spending - less partying and fancy restaurants. Research to what benefits you could be entitled to. Talk to your parents are they willing to support you the first couple of months maybe? Good luck x

varghesejim

[simon] wrote: »

I'm 26,

I'm still at home with parents.

Everytime I meet girls eventually it leads to them wanting to have a family and rent a flat together.

I would like the same, to have my own life, be a man.

But how ?

Private renting for a 2 flat - 400 min

Bills, food - 500 ish

That's 900 gone.

I earn 1 grand, full time job. So left with 100 a month, save that to pay my car insurance, road tax, mots.

So no holidays, no money to buy anything if anything breaks, such as a dep on another car or tv....

If we was to have a family, my partner will be at home looking after baby so she has no income...

So I would really have to have a weekend job as well do we can go out or have a holiday or to extra money to buy a new car if needed. Or repares.

So I will no family time, I hardley see my girl or baby, the relationship breaks down...

So how do i live ? .....

How am I expected to make my own way in life ???

Stay at home untill i am 30 odd saving for a deposit to buy ???

Have no life of my own untill then...just stay with mummy...

I HATE this !!!!

IMO, you should not worry too much about buying a house or starting a family. Try to build up a career and enjoy life while you can. The other things will follow.

varghesejim

[simon] wrote: »

Hello !

So many replies to a simple thread.

My solution was answered in the first few posts. The benefit calculator has helped a lot. Thank you.

But after ready all the replies here. I must go on to give my own opinion to some of the responses here.

Firstly, income, work, career and taking on extra training / study. These are some of the suggestions mentioned above. Now i don't know much about what everyone does here, but working 7 days a week doesn't appeal to me. The word "boss" actually means that person is in charge of you, you been the slave, the word worker actually means robot. (Google) i refuse to be a slave or a robot. I don't need to be Rich, i just need enough to survive on and if i can get help with that its good for me. I am happy to work part time. The only reason i work full time is because i have to as i live with parents. However when i move out i may drop to part time as it suits me better.

The kind of person i am:
Am not a people person, people out side / customers / my work place chat to me and to be fair am just not interested. People who know me get to know what am like pretty quick and eventually stop bothering me, i like that. Am more than happy on my own, watching tv, go out on my bike / running and play on the computer. Money does not motivate me. I don't need to go traveling, i can view places on google, eat at the Chinese restaurant down the road and then skype random people in any country i like. Why bother working to spend 50 weeks working just to have a week or two holiday ?? I personally don't see the point of that. Work wise, i hate getting up for work at stupid o clock, specially when its cold, am always the last one in to work and the first one out.

Am not going to study or take any evening classes, this also costs money, to train up to be again a slave for someone else. Its like been programmed to do the work for someone else to profit more than yourself, i.e the investors, company owners and the like. No thank you. I soon get bored, so sticking to something i like is very hard indeed. Thus working for myself will soon become boring. I do t like doing the daly grind. The same thing just different say, it happens with all jobs. And even if it doesn't i just not interested in the people around me. I have tried to change and get on with people but always fail. Getting up on a morning and working gets me down and i feel unhappy. I like to do what i want to do each day. I am not depressed, i am more than happy doing my own thing, and not been told what to do or having any pressure put on to me. I hate pressure , therefore i really don't qualify for many jobs. You can only assume correctly that my chance of promotion at my work place is a no go area. You are not payed to do a job, you are payed also to act, speak and move how the boss sees fit. Thats not for me !

So now you know a bit about me, you will know that the idea of working oversea, and living at my work place makes me feel sick, and the idea of actually owning a home and having 90k plus of debt would make me feel suicidle.

Women:

As for women. In my opinion, Women are here to reproduce, not to work, not be more successful than a male, but to look after kids. The male does the work. The troubble is women are been given too much power, they now choose the male, they now have the money and work to be independent and leave the male. They also use sex as a weapon. This in all slows down reproduction. The women should stay at home.

I dont agree that women choose a male, the male should choose the women. And thats exactly what i do. A successful business women may not choose me, but i would not choose her for reasons i have mentioned above. The kind of women i choose are low on self confidence, don't have much a d wont have much, the kind of women who agrees the man takes control. They are less likley to leave also. I am happy to settle down with this type of women.

The buesiness women look nice yes, with there boots and skits ect, but i don't choose them for a relationship. At the end of the day they have to let their hair down, weekends in the clubs, when they have one too many and thats when you take advantage of the sort. And thats all thats needed to be fair. The ones that i settle with are ones who don't have an answer back. Its common phycology to be honest. So saying that a women wont look at me in my 30 / 40 years is a joke. I don't relay on them looking at me or wanting me, i take the ones who need me because they have nothing else. Win win.

The kind of friends i have and my social circle was mentioned. My social circle is make up of quiet, low self esteem people, i stand out with them, hence i attract girls that are also like that.

As for the car, i need the car at the moment, but when i get my own place i will probably ditch it. Or buy a ten year old run about.

Honesly the comments on extra income and jobs and training made me laugh. Some people must be working so,e right hours and then they moan because they pay too much tax !!! No body is forcing anyone to work ! If you decide to go to uni or other study and have it programmed in to you to work for other peoples benefit that is your own problem.

Just my opinions there.

Thank you for the replies and the help.

Nobody have absolute knowledge. However, usually everyone will get more intelligent with age. Your thinking when you are at the age of 10, 15, 20, 25 ...are different. The point here is, at the age of 26 what you think is right or wrong? Apparently many people won't think you are right. You are at your prime age and can do anything. If you just follow your attitude against all conventional wisdom, what if you realize you are wrong when you are 40/45? You might be at a point of no return.

IMO, you should follow advise and see how is it going. The thing is, you don't know what money can bring, so you are not qualified to make a decision against it. Just try it out young man!

I don't think your attitude towards woman is unique, I know many people who have the same attitude(but never accept that). At least you are honest about it. Keep an open mind and see if you are actually right in the coming years!

All the best