family church wont marry me, it only serves students

Brighton_belle

whitewing wrote: »

Were you parents and grandparents students at the time of marriage?

If not, try and find out when and why the rules changed.

Good luck, OP. I'm a sentimentalist so I'd agree with you that it would be very special to be married there.

How about donations to the church in lieu of wedding gifts?

Reading wiki - due to lack of congregation/interest it was closed in 1985 and run privately (don't know what that means) until 2012 when taken over by the chaplaincy.
I'd like to think that offers of money gifts to bend the rules would not be acceptable to them.
I'd try and meet personally with people there rather than email: you'd be able to demonstrate your commitment to your faith, face to face, rather then just someone who likes a pretty building ( I do appreciate it is much more than that to you) - that might sway them. You are possibly asking them to do a lot of extra work to meet your needs.

duchy

Most universties do function bookings...... I wonder if you were having your reception in the university function rooms if it would change the answer.

First though I'd go onto the uni website and discover when and where the chaplin has open door sessions and pop in and see them for a chat.

j.e.j.

kazwookie wrote: »

Love it, brill idea.


http://www.muscc.org/mass-times.html

seems they do 'only' do weddings for student.

Yup, book a course at the uni in order to get married in the Church.
Then you can go and confess :rotfl:

Sorry

Funnily enough I must have lived right near there for about 3 years and I don't recall ever seeing the church! Must have blinked and missed it.

another

hi there
wow thankyou everyone for the surgestions.
i was thinking of doing a short languages course.
both my mother and father were not students at the time of marriage and my mother was shocked and appalled at their reaction, so much so she said she was going to write to the pope. my fella also trained to become a priest in his early days and was shocked at the manner at which our request was dismissed we are both catholic. we tried the email route but got no reply. we will visit next saturday when we have a meeting with the reception rooms. i will also look into having the reception at the university.
thankyou for the great ideas everyone keep em coming.

CH27

If the church was so important to you & your family surely you'd have realised that closed as a parish church in 1985. Almost 30 years ago.

The uni obviously provide the staff & funding to support their student & the diocese licence them for that.

I don't see why the rules should be bent for you just because you want.

DigForVictory

Congratulations on your engagement! I'm all for having a chat at some drop-in time. And being sweetly clear that you will kick the idea futher up the diocesan chain of command if some kind of compromise cannot be reached, but that there is a 'donations' budget. (Which way you present carrot & stick I leave to you!)

I'd also have a quick word with my fianceee (extra es added as the accent is forbidden) & family - just because you've always dreamed - he may not. It was a smashing proposal venue, but he may have other (remarkable?!) plans on where to marry. At which point, the ground you're negotiating for has shifted.

If you both really want the venue, then there's nothing wrong with adding a little learning to your intentions! It may be the best wedding present you ever gave each other?!

If the site cannot or will not compromise, then "drop in" on your day, in full kit with photographer carefully briefed & snaffle a few photos. I seriously doubt they'd begrudge you *photos*...

Errata

Seek advice and guidance from your own priest.

tea_lover

Wouldn't you want to get married at the church you actually attend, rather than this one?

j.e.j.

CH27 wrote: »

If the church was so important to you & your family surely you'd have realised that closed as a parish church in 1985. Almost 30 years ago.

The uni obviously provide the staff & funding to support their student & the diocese licence them for that.

I don't see why the rules should be bent for you just because you want.

I can't see the harm in the university billing them for the service, if it's the uni that's funding the church? I must say I had no idea Manchester uni was funding an exclusive Catholic church. No wonder they were going after us for donations and money once we graduated.. (irony smiley needed)

pickledonionspaceraider

another wrote: »

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has anyone got any ideas how i can get married in my family church. it is also the place my fience proposed to me.
ideas please please please

I am struggling to understand, is this your regular place of worship - and they are refusing to marry you? It really does seem odd doesn't it