family church wont marry me, it only serves students

ljonski

Im hoping to get married on the lawn outside the White House in America.


do you think anyone would mind ?- After all It is the land of the Free?

j.e.j.

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

I am struggling to understand, is this your regular place of worship - and they are refusing to marry you? It really does seem odd doesn't it

I don't think it's her regular place of worship, but the family have always gotten married in this church, and she wants to carry on that tradition.

Unfortunately it seems that some major administrative changes have taken place since the last family wedding, meaning she's no longer able to.

mandragora_2

What did your parish priest say when you told him about your engagement? Do you think he might be disappointed that someone from his congregation won't be getting married in his church? I thought that was an important church tradition, especially in the Catholic creed.

pickledonionspaceraider

ahh I see - what a shame. I can see why you would want to marry there, given the family history and all. I would take it further if possible, but not sure how

duchy

The email was probably from a uni admin person. I'd definitely try the personal approach before kicking it further up the food chain.

Tigsteroonie

ljonski wrote: »

Im hoping to get married on the lawn outside the White House in America.

do you think anyone would mind ?- After all It is the land of the Free?

You might need to run fast ... http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-29299095

minerva_windsong

It may still be possible to do it. I have a uni friend who was in a similar situation - he wanted to get married in the chapel at his old school (where he met his now-wife) and initially wasn't able to - so I can ask him how they got round that if you want.


Otherwise, if you can't get this church, is it possible to have it in another church that's important to your family - maybe the one where you/your parents regularly attend Mass? I know it's not exactly the same but it would still have that family connection.

Voyager2002

I think that enrolling for a qualifying course is the best way forward...

The catholic church is very firm about its rules, and kicking the matter further up the chain is likely to lead only to repeated 'no's and further disappointment. The suggestion to discuss the matter with your own priest is a very good one, however, as is the suggestion to make personal contact with the catholic chaplain and let people know what you are doing. In the end, though, I think that you will need to enroll for some course of study in order to get permission.

elsien

Brighton_belle wrote: »

I'd like to think that offers of money gifts to bend the rules would not be acceptable to them.

:rotfl:
Forgive my scepticism, but this is organised religion we're talking about, so if all else fails......

SavingPennies_2

Armorica wrote: »

enrol for a short evening course at the university

I don't think they do short evening courses, I'd expect it would have to be a degree, which would cost thousands. Then again you could progress your career and marriage at the same time!