Would you go on holiday without your children

penguin83

I am going against the grain and saying that no I wouldn't personally go on holiday without my children (11, 9 and 1) particularly if they really didn't want to go to their grandparents.


The real issue though is her behaviour at that age is absolutely not on and whether on holiday or not is unacceptable.


Go with what feels right for you and your family. It will be the right decision. xx

thorsoak

alias*alibi wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies. Whilst sat on the beach watching DD learning to body board and making friends I had a pang of guilt about her being an only child. I'm sure she wouldn't be so stroppy if she had a sibling to play with but alas she doesn't. She can be quite selfish; this year we've had a mini break to Blackpool, she's been to alton towers, a day down in burnham on sea, bowling, cinema and TGI Fridays, days out walking the dog and kite flying plus Cornwall. She craves attention and ultimately looks to me and her dad for it.

If we had a holiday without her I'm sure DH's parents would have her but she hates staying there. 1. Because her nan goes to bed at 7pm and gets up at 2am (no joke). 2. Grandad takes her out but nan doesn't step outside the house. 3. They are confined to that area as neither grandparents drive so limited stuff to do. She already pulled her face when I mentioned it whining 'I hate staying there' and calling us bullies for even considering it. We at one point were just going to save up for 2 years and go to disney world the summer after her leaving juniors but not sure that I can wait that long! I just know me and DH desperately need a holiday together, on our own! We would have a short break again in the UK for all if us too.

Quite frankly, I think that you have made a rod for your own backs, by over-compensating for your DD not having any siblings - a mistake that my OH admitted that his parents did with him! She does have to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her, however much she hates the idea - and although I wouldn't leave her with grandparents who do not live in her "ideal world" personally I would let her go to a school camp/summer camp for a week or less, where she will be one of many, and go off, you and your OH on your own - and ENJOY yourselves! It's important that you and your OH have some time to yourselves as well.

Counting_Pennies_2

I am pretty sure all Year 6 children go on a week long adventure break. I think that is standard across the curriculum.


So if you can hold on another year, why not book up for you both to go away when she is off with the school?


Why not check with the school

balletshoes

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

I am pretty sure all Year 6 children go on a week long adventure break. I think that is standard across the curriculum.


So if you can hold on another year, why not book up for you both to go away when she is off with the school?


Why not check with the school

ours didn't - my DD is in year 9 now, and neither of her schools (primary or secondary) do that.

victory

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

I am pretty sure all Year 6 children go on a week long adventure break. I think that is standard across the curriculum.


So if you can hold on another year, why not book up for you both to go away when she is off with the school?


Why not check with the school

No, mine did not either, the odd day trip out but not a whole week:)

To answer the question absolutely yes, a happy parent is a happy child;)

DigForVictory

Two issues - the young lady's behaviour & whether it is right to get a bit of Time Off for goood behaviour as a parent.

Only child or not, the young lady needs to learn no means no & perhaps a starting point is at home with earplugs for you parents or possiblty a PGL weekend with grandparents as backstop (so she knows *exactly* what the alternative is) whilst you two leap off on a ciuty break somewhere.

Yes Of Course you need a bit of just-us time. Extended sleepovers may give you a better chance, but for pity's sake sort your passports, save up & book her onto a PGL thing & then scan the screens for seriously last minute discount breaks.

Go! Run out that door!

MrsC....tobe

Every year since we've been together we've had a week without my step kids and sometimes long weekends aswell. They either stay at home with their mum or go to grandparents (the ones that live with us). The last two years we also managed family holidays but next year we will be taking the new baby on the 'adult week' and we simply can't justify a family holiday for 7 since we've had DHs eldest son from a previous relationship move in with us. He will be 16 this year anyway and can be left at home alone for the week if we do go but most likely he would stay with grandparents or his mum as quite simply I don't trust him to eat and drink when we're away! As soon as baby is old enough or at school he/she will also be staying with relatives for the week we go away.
I feel it is important for us, especially next year, to take baby as it will be our first time spending together with baby without any other interruptions, and I won't feel quilt ya out not having the others there as quite frankly they have had everything that they have ever asked for in life and don't appreciate any of it.

OP, a little bit of 'tough love' doesn't go amiss, if she's treating you like that at 9 years old imagine how she is going to be in a few years time. You need to break it now instead of leaving it to fester.

missbiggles1

Definitely yes........ thank you PGL!

Spendless

We've been away for 2 nights on several occassions. No more than this as we don't have anyone who can have them for longer periods of time.

Both mine also did a 2 night trip when they were in yr6. With eldest him being away was from Fri-Sun, we waved him off on the coach then drove to Kent, stayed there overnight and then did Euro-tunnel to France on the Saturday coming back late at night. That way we were in the U.K for him in case of emergency.

melanzana

Have you an "auntie angel" at all?

That is me..I couldn't have kids myself, so I loooooove having my nieces and nephews over.

They keep me young! And even better, I can hand em back. Lol.

I've had all my n and ns at about four weeks old, just long enough to let. Mum and Dad go out for a meal and drinkies.

If you have support like that, grab it and go, even for a night or two. The minders will generally be thrilled to be surrogate parents for a while... In my experience anyway.