Newbie to online dating - how do you get matched correctly?

Chatalouge

This is going to sound properly dumb but is there an online dating code where if you're getting on well with someone then someone else catches your eye and you get on great with her as well, you dont do it? Sort of internet dating cheating in a way :rotfl:

bellaboo86

As people have already said as a bloke you do have be the one to send a first message. Also I have tried the murky world of on-line dating and most people seem to ignore what age bracket you're interested in (as well not bothering to read your profile). Again as people have already said you come across a bit cocky, maybe your profile also comes across that way? I know us women are all different but if your pictures are lots of posed pictures of you with your shirt off I would not be interested (no matter how nice the body) as it automatically makes me think what a T***er you are.

Retroguyuk

Chatalouge wrote: »

This is going to sound properly dumb but is there an online dating code where if you're getting on well with someone then someone else catches your eye and you get on great with her as well, you dont do it? Sort of internet dating cheating in a way :rotfl:

When you say 'don't do it', what's the 'it' you're referring to? Messaging them, meeting up with them, or sleeping with them?

I think most of how people react to that comes down to personal feelings really- there's no kind of ingrained code that after x amount of messages/dates, you no longer look for new people to message/date.

Most people in my experience would accept that you might be meeting up with other people, although it's not usually something that people want to have spelled out for them. If someone specifically asks, I wouldn't lie about it, but then again, most people don't specifically ask.

I find usually it comes across naturally that you're exclusive, from the way you just tend to talk more and therefore find out what people are doing most nights. Or, if it's not obvious, people would mention about being exclusive.

lithe_mind

Chatalouge wrote: »

This is going to sound properly dumb but is there an online dating code where if you're getting on well with someone then someone else catches your eye and you get on great with her as well, you dont do it? Sort of internet dating cheating in a way :rotfl:

I don't think there's any special code, use your decency. If you're dating more people prepare to be open about it if asked (or volunteer the info). Once you decide you like a woman so much you feel like being exclusive, tell her and take it from there. Good luck!

ps. I've tried POF, okcupid, guardian soulmates and tinder. I dropped POF and guardian soulmates and kept okcupid and tinder for when I'm bored. I'm as skeptical as when I joined about finding the needle in a haystack