Holiday Nightmares!

Ozzuk

chin up, best thing you can do is cut all ties with them, block their numbers and let them drift from your mind. You could write them a letter, putting everything down in black and white - but not in an angry way. let them know how disappointed you are, how you are dealing with a serious illness and that you never want to hear from them again - and leave it at that. The letter is more for you than them, so do not allow them a response, if they write back, burn without reading. Closure.

And good luck!

Lily-Rose_3

alextexmex wrote: »

Well I haven't been around for a while. I am now underdoing intensive treatment for the dreaded C word and am fighting on.

Heres the irony, I cancelled, told the couple why, provided proof and then.....They called the police, saying I had never paid for the holiday!!!

The police contacted the travel agent, confirmed what I said and said there was nothing to answer, but since then, the two supposed "friends" have blocked me on facebook and spread around our friends that we stole their money. I would have thought the police clearing this matter would have resolved this!

I think they are nasty and vindictive and do not deserve any more of my time and stress, stuff them

Case Closed

WOW! What awful people your ex friends sound. You poor man. I am so sorry that you are suffering health issues too. This pair - particularly HER sound like nasty people. You are better without them in your life,

duchy wrote: »

Really ?

Reward people who slag you off, make untrue accusations that they don't withdraw and apologize for even once the police have said there is no case to answer.

Alex has already said she's having intensive treatment so odds are she isn't earning at the moment. Why on earth should she attempt to appease a pair of bullies.

Stuff it- Let them wait for their blinking money !!! Alex and her boyfriend have far more important issues to concern themselves with.

Agree with this ^^^ Although it appears the OP has paid them back now.

Ozzuk wrote: »

chin up, best thing you can do is cut all ties with them, block their numbers and let them drift from your mind. You could write them a letter, putting everything down in black and white - but not in an angry way. let them know how disappointed you are, how you are dealing with a serious illness and that you never want to hear from them again - and leave it at that. The letter is more for you than them, so do not allow them a response, if they write back, burn without reading. Closure.

And good luck!

And this ^^^ :T

I am glad it's all over for you with these people. I guess we all live and learn. I know this doesn't help you much, but me and hubby had a similar experience many many years ago when we were close to another couple (the man was his work colleague and I didn't know him or his wife.)

Anyway, we ended up all becoming these 2 couples who did EVERYTHING together. They were OK but I didn't love them, and I had nothing in common with her. I had my own friends and felt slightly resentful that I was being force-fed a friendship with this woman. Hubby even said 'why don't you go out on your own for a drink with Karen? But I simply didn't want to.

I won't go into it too much, but suffice to say, several things happened during our couply friendship that did not sit well with me, and I got to the point where I got sick of seeing them (hubby insisted on seeing them 3 or 4 times a week: it used to drive me nuts.) Then one particular thing happened, involving money like it did with you, and (thankfully) my hubby decided to quit the friendship with them. It was a relief as I had NOTHING in common with the wife, and sat there bored stiff while hubby and his mate messed about on the computer for hours on end, and talked about work! I tolerated this couply friendship for about year! 28 year old me put up with all kinds of carp! 51 year old me would say 'I have no interest in these people: YOU go out with them if you want: I am staying home!'

After this one incident, my hubby's 'mate' tried to turn EVERYONE at work against him by telling lie after lie after lie, and after a few weeks, about 7 or 8 people out of the department of about 20, began to ignore and avoid my hubby.

Long story short, this mate of my hubby's got sacked for stealing from the employer about 5-6 months after my hubby decided to quit the friendship with this couple! The 7 or or so people who blanked my hubby started to try to speak to him again, but he shunned them. What a cheek trying to speak to him! Hubby left for another job a few months after anyway, as he dislikes the job anyway!

Anyway, enough about me. Sorry about that! I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who has suffered 'other couple' issues! Good luck to you OP. I hope you get well soon.

heartbreak_star

Hope the treatment goes well! Glad all this got sorted, what a mess.

HBS x

alextexmex

Thanks to all for the support and advice I got from here, Your all stars and thanks for the encouragement and good wishes in relation to my health.

At the end of the day, I wanted my holiday but their behaviour was vile and utterly unacceptable and by going it could have directly caused my health to deterioate further. Finally now that it's over I can breathe and work on getting my health.

We have decided as well that when/if I am well enough, when the clouds of illness blow over, we want to take a trip to China where we both have always wanted to go, trip of a lifetime here we come :beer:

alextexmex

Lily-Rose wrote: »

WOW! What awful people your ex friends sound. You poor man. I am so sorry that you are suffering health issues too. This pair - particularly HER sound like nasty people. You are better without them in your life,



Agree with this ^^^ Although it appears the OP has paid them back now.



And this ^^^ :T

I am glad it's all over for you with these people. I guess we all live and learn. I know this doesn't help you much, but me and hubby had a similar experience many many years ago when we were close to another couple (the man was his work colleague and I didn't know him or his wife.)

Anyway, we ended up all becoming these 2 couples who did EVERYTHING together. They were OK but I didn't love them, and I had nothing in common with her. I had my own friends and felt slightly resentful that I was being force-fed a friendship with this woman. Hubby even said 'why don't you go out on your own for a drink with Karen? But I simply didn't want to.

I won't go into it too much, but suffice to say, several things happened during our couply friendship that did not sit well with me, and I got to the point where I got sick of seeing them (hubby insisted on seeing them 3 or 4 times a week: it used to drive me nuts.) Then one particular thing happened, involving money like it did with you, and (thankfully) my hubby decided to quit the friendship with them. It was a relief as I had NOTHING in common with the wife, and sat there bored stiff while hubby and his mate messed about on the computer for hours on end, and talked about work! I tolerated this couply friendship for about year! 28 year old me put up with all kinds of carp! 51 year old me would say 'I have no interest in these people: YOU go out with them if you want: I am staying home!'

After this one incident, my hubby's 'mate' tried to turn EVERYONE at work against him by telling lie after lie after lie, and after a few weeks, about 7 or 8 people out of the department of about 20, began to ignore and avoid my hubby.

Long story short, this mate of my hubby's got sacked for stealing from the employer about 5-6 months after my hubby decided to quit the friendship with this couple! The 7 or or so people who blanked my hubby started to try to speak to him again, but he shunned them. What a cheek trying to speak to him! Hubby left for another job a few months after anyway, as he dislikes the job anyway!

Anyway, enough about me. Sorry about that! I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who has suffered 'other couple' issues! Good luck to you OP. I hope you get well soon.

Owch! I feel for you I really do, while I wouldn't wish this on anyone, it's comforting to see someone else has been through it and come out the other end fighting.

We were one of those friends once, all of us spent lots of time together and we did get on really well, but towards the end it was only on their terms and any time it didn't go their way we got the brunt of the fallout. This was the last straw.

NiallB

alextexmex wrote: »

We have decided as well that when/if I am well enough, when the clouds of illness blow over, we want to take a trip to China where we both have always wanted to go, trip of a lifetime here we come :beer:

Living well is the best revenge :-)