Jealousy of Motability car

bigbulldog

Don't feed the jealous troll................

Indie_Kid

!!!!!! wrote: »

I am sorry that you have been ignored. It was not intentional but I hope that you get over the disappointment

One question to ask you and others that have responded in a similar vein is why do you feel the need to go into detail about your disabilities so turning any discussion from a general one into highly personal (for you). Are you not capable of discussing it without using the 'If you had what I have' form of argument as the Joker in the pack that trumps all others.

I don't think anyone has done that. Some people have explain why they / their child / partner receives HRM and why they need a motability car.

kingfisherblue

If giving an explanation about why a Motability car is so important to us offends you, then please feel free to ignore my posts !!!!!!.


This does remind me, though, that I meant to reply to an earlier post made by Indie Kid. Indie, you said something about not understanding why a child with Down's Syndrome might be in a wheelchair (I think it was you - apologies if not). My son uses one for two reasons - breathing difficulties and pain when walking. My son has asthma and also breathing problems caused by an abnormality that he was born with. He becomes breathless very easily, despite medication. In addition, he has hypermobile joints. His joints move too easily - great for dancing, but not so great when it causes pain so frequently. Walking causes pain in his ankles, knees and hips, and will eventually cause pain in his spine as well. Sometimes he doesn't need to move, and he is in pain.


Other children with DS might use a wheelchair because of heart problems. I knew a little girl several years ago who had open heart surgery when she was a baby, and she couldn't walk far or run about like other kids. She used a Major Buggy, but didn't grow old enough or big enough to progress to a wheelchair, as she died of cancer.


I suppose that there are many reasons that a child with DS might use a wheelchair, but these are the ones I know. Hope this helps.

CTcelt1988

!!!!!! wrote: »

I would love to be able to lease a mid range car for £240 per month with tax and insurance thrown in.

The jealously is the effective low monthly cost compared to any other leasing deal available to the general public

Able bodied people can use public transport. Many disabled people cannot. Is that fair? Open your eyes and stop being ignorant about disability. You don't know what's around the corner. One day you could be disabled.

Indie_Kid

kingfisherblue wrote: »

If giving an explanation about why a Motability car is so important to us offends you, then please feel free to ignore my posts !!!!!!.


This does remind me, though, that I meant to reply to an earlier post made by Indie Kid. Indie, you said something about not understanding why a child with Down's Syndrome might be in a wheelchair (I think it was you - apologies if not). My son uses one for two reasons - breathing difficulties and pain when walking. My son has asthma and also breathing problems caused by an abnormality that he was born with. He becomes breathless very easily, despite medication. In addition, he has hypermobile joints. His joints move too easily - great for dancing, but not so great when it causes pain so frequently. Walking causes pain in his ankles, knees and hips, and will eventually cause pain in his spine as well. Sometimes he doesn't need to move, and he is in pain.


Other children with DS might use a wheelchair because of heart problems. I knew a little girl several years ago who had open heart surgery when she was a baby, and she couldn't walk far or run about like other kids. She used a Major Buggy, but didn't grow old enough or big enough to progress to a wheelchair, as she died of cancer.


I suppose that there are many reasons that a child with DS might use a wheelchair, but these are the ones I know. Hope this helps.

I do know what post you're referring to. But I did say it was a friend of a friend who questioned why my friends son does need a wheelchair. I vaguely remember reading somewhere that children with DS tend to be late walkers too?

kingfisherblue

Indie_Kid wrote: »

I do know what post you're referring to. But I did say it was a friend of a friend who questioned why my friends son does need a wheelchair. I vaguely remember reading somewhere that children with DS tend to be late walkers too?

Apologies, I only half remembered the post and I was rushing when I posted (had to pop out to pick up my youngest from his voluntary work).


Yes, children with DS do tend to be late walkers. I believe that some are 4 or 5, but my son was relatively early at 17 months. Having said that, my other two children walked at nine months and eight and a half months.


A lot of children with DS also have flat feet, and my son is no exception. My son also has no 'heel to toe' motion, but shuffles his feet instead. He has insoles from podiatry to help.

margaretclare

kingfisherblue wrote: »

I think my neighbours probably know that our car is a Motability vehicle. After all, how else would a single mum of three, with no paid employment, afford a new car every three years?

Mind you, I'm not overly bothered about what my neighbours think about me, my family, or my situation. Most are fine, but next door objected strongly when we needed a downstairs bathroom adding on to the side of our house. It doesn't affect them, but they were very vocal about how wrong it was for us to get the bathroom (actually a wet room). Obviously they weren't concerned about my son's needs. It cost over a month's wages, with the majority of the cost covered by a Disabled Facilities Grant, and that money was hard for us to find. (I was still married at the time and my husband was working full time, so it is his wages that I am referring to). I used to avoid going out for quite a while, just so that they didn't come out and shout at me. These days I am not quite as sensitive and would be able to stand up for myself, but I used to be incredibly shy and lacked confidence.

Why did they think it was 'wrong'? I can understand envy, but wrong???

NB: I didn't mean to imply that I approve of envy, but I know that it exists. My take on it is similar to those stickers you sometimes see: 'You've taken my parking space. Would you like to have my disability too?'

kaya

Too many ignorant people live in the belief that disabled people get a "free car" which as we all know couldn't be further from the truth , I've also been accused of living off of the "scroungers allowance" more than once as I'm physically unable to work. The media and governbent perpetrate these myths and people who work very hard for a living swallow it hook, line and sinker.

Indie_Kid

I had a disabled person once tell me I shouldn't be on DLA and there's nothing wrong with me. I was kind of hoping he's had more sympathy for me. He supposedly has a bad back and can't walk. He can walk better than me. I have some balance issues which make walking down stairs difficult. (I used to go the long way around at college, which meant going up a ramp and into the building, instead of going the short way and up the stairs)

GlasweJen

Ugh people like this annoy the tits off me, I've had mobility car envy and we don't even have a mobility car! (Or a disabled tax disc). We have a land rover that OH pays for from his wages and I have a blue badge. Apparently having a blue badge automatically makes my car a free car, I've just started telling people to duck off when they start their nonsense.