Very worried - cheating husband?

makeitstop

BrassicWoman wrote: »

"Make a whoopsie"? No, I'm not 12, thanks I stated an opinion, I stand by that opinion.

The site is not big in the UK, and naming it added nothing to your story.

Not 12 maybe, but the OP was being kind with her "whoppsie" comment, instead of saying you are a berk and that you should look up some info about what she posted before assuming she was a spamster.

And as for the site not being big in the UK....well.... there are "other" countries that share the planet with us you know, and some are larger than ours too.

Amazing innit.

System

Well for a start... job or no job the only woman I want my man to live with is me!

I wouldn't have been happy with the arrangement at the start.

As for whether he's cheating on you... if he said no. Would you believe him?

clarryd

Annie75 wrote: »

As most of you can gather I am very insecure. What I keep hidden and what I truly think never comes out. I see him with this gorgeous girl who can give him what he wants and there is barren old me who can't give him anything. I'm going to skype him now before he goes to work and ask questions about her to find out what's going on.

How do you know this person is a she it could be a he. Ladyboy (I know ladyboys are from Thailand) they are normally beauties and look much more glamorous than most women as real women don't tend to put so much slap on their faces.

You never know you could be worrying for nothing at all.

You should stop putting yourself down, just because you can't have children doesn't mean he still doesn't love you.

pinpin

Unless your other-half looks like Brad Pitt, what makes you think he'd have a hope in hell of pulling such a hot banana, anyway?
If she's that pretty, she'd have her pick of the men.

Yolina

Annie75 wrote: »

The question that most sticks to mind is do you trust him? The answer to this is no.

If you don't trust him, then why are you still with him?

As others have already said, the house belongs to the company, the pictures could have been taken anytime given that she has access to it - it doesn't automatically mean that your husband is having an affair.

Annie75 wrote: »

all the staff are female and I can't imagine her being a lesbian

How do you know that one of the female staff didn't take the picture, or that the girl isn't a lesbian? It's not like it's stamped on their foreheads or anything

Buffythedebtslayer

Hello,


I read your post this morning, putting off getting out of bed and browsing the forums.


I don't think you are troll, I think it must be very hard to be far away from the man you love, to have this weight on you about children and now to be faced with a woman living there with him. I would HATE it.



Even though the explanations of the house and her come witht he job and there is no way of really knowing when the photos where taken - it all sounds so plausible and fine, but I can imagine I would think the worst.

When does he come home?


I hope you are ok, I don't think you have posted since this morning.


I don't know what to advise. I think I would have some kind of plan B if it were true, like money to manage bills or rent alone. I can't imagine confronting a person with such a claim. I wouldn't want to hear the answer.


take care and do write back, it is good to have a place to share.


XXX

lulu_92

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Hello,


I read your post this morning, putting off getting out of bed and browsing the forums.


I don't think you are troll, I think it must be very hard to be far away from the man you love, to have this weight on you about children and now to be faced with a woman living there with him. I would HATE it.


When does he come home?


I hope you are ok, I don't think you have posted since this morning.


I don't know what to advise. I think I would have some kind of plan B if it were true, like money to manage bills or rent alone. I can't imagine confronting a person with such a claim. I wouldn't want to hear the answer.


take care and do write back, it is good to have a place to share.


XXX

I agree with Buffy. I would hate yo be in your position with him working away. It's only normal to wonder about these things when he's so far away!

Kantankrus_Mare

I am in agreement with previous two posters. I wouldn't be happy to start with that he was sharing a house with a woman let alone an attractive one.

The time apart would make your imagination run riot or at least mine would.

Hope you are ok and can talk to your husband calmly to get to the bottom of it all.

xx

FBaby

So you're insecure rather because you always have been or because circumstances have led you to become so. You know he had an emotional affair and he is now far away from you and couldn't just about anything without being worried about being caught. And now to make it worse he has a beautiful girl living with him and clearly up to interesting activities.

OF COURSE your mind is going to be wandering so don't feel bad about it. If he is up to no good this is the first set of evidence that will mean you can do something about the situation. The problem is though that if it is all your imagination putting two and two together and your stay accusing him directly or indirectly you are taking the risk of pushing him to do what he might not have considered of before but you have now put into his mind. So whilst you might decide to keep on eye on what might possibly be going on don't go blazing accusing him of cheating on you when you really have not much to go on so far.

kitty_kins

Just a thought - are we certain the pictures were taken while your husband was living at the house? If the house and girl are paid for by the company, isn't it possible she has worked there before for other employees?

Just trying to offer an alternative to a cheating hubby!