Very worried - cheating husband?

Annie75

Hi all, I have created a new account for this thread to avoid any embarassment in case I am wrong about my suspicions, so don't call me a troll thinking I'm a new user.

A few months ago my hubby started in a new position with the company he works for. He was given an 18% pay rise which was fantastic because we could pay off the mortgage sooner. With the new position he had to travel out to the manufacturing plant of the company which is in Indonesia. He has been out there now for almost 3 months, his housing and staff are all paid for by the company. When we skype (almost daily) I often see his guide as she is living at the house and from what he tells me, she accompanies him everywhere for translation purposes.

He added her as a friend on facebook, he hasn't added any of the other staff. She is a very pretty girl, so I had a nosey at her facebook and she appears to be a very normal girl. Most of her pictures are of her with her family or friends. On the facebook I found an invite to one of her friends to what I guess is an Indonesia social media thing called mig33 and had a look through it. What I have found on this is not the same girl I see on her facebook. Several pictures are making me think he is sleeping with her. There is 1 picture of her in his house taken from behind with her putting her leg up on the desk with her skirt pulled almost up to her hips and her knickers around her knees. Another picture of her is again from behind and she is wearing a very tight little white dress and heels and she has her arm up against the wall and looks like she is by the bedroom door. The final picture is of her wearing make up in the bed pouting, again looking like it was taken by someone else.

From what I see on this mig33 is not the same girl I see on facebook and the clothing she is wearing in the suspicious pictures looks expensive. There is no men in the house, all the staff are female and I can't imagine her being a lesbian or my hubby allowing her to have a man over. If you have read my essay, WWYD?

Stevie_Palimo

Have you asked him out right then on this ?


If not do so and see what he say.

wiogs

Annie75 wrote: »

Hi all, I have created a new account for this thread to avoid any embarassment in case I am wrong about my suspicions, so don't call me a troll thinking I'm a new user.

A few months ago my hubby started in a new position with the company he works for. He was given an 18% pay rise which was fantastic because we could pay off the mortgage sooner. With the new position he had to travel out to the manufacturing plant of the company which is in Indonesia. He has been out there now for almost 3 months, his housing and staff are all paid for by the company. When we skype (almost daily) I often see his guide as she is living at the house and from what he tells me, she accompanies him everywhere for translation purposes.

He added her as a friend on facebook, he hasn't added any of the other staff. She is a very pretty girl, so I had a nosey at her facebook and she appears to be a very normal girl. Most of her pictures are of her with her family or friends. On the facebook I found an invite to one of her friends to what I guess is an Indonesia social media thing called mig33 and had a look through it. What I have found on this is not the same girl I see on her facebook. Several pictures are making me think he is sleeping with her. There is 1 picture of her in his house taken from behind with her putting her leg up on the desk with her skirt pulled almost up to her hips and her knickers around her knees. Another picture of her is again from behind and she is wearing a very tight little white dress and heels and she has her arm up against the wall and looks like she is by the bedroom door. The final picture is of her wearing make up in the bed pouting, again looking like it was taken by someone else.

From what I see on this mig33 is not the same girl I see on facebook and the clothing she is wearing in the suspicious pictures looks expensive. There is no men in the house, all the staff are female and I can't imagine her being a lesbian or my hubby allowing her to have a man over. If you have read my essay, WWYD?

Nothing except continue to chat to my OH in the usual way.

There is nothing to link the pictures you have seen with your belief that your husband is sleeping with her.

Browntoa

or she could have just had some racey pictures taken by a friend at the "posh house where she works" when no-one was around or had a bit of fun there (not your husband ??)

KiKi

I'd trust that my husband loves me, wasn't the type to cheat, and if I was that worried I'd talk to him. If you trust your husband then what this girl does is none of your business.

Whether she's gay, straight, pervy, normal, just a poser - shouldn't make a difference. Everything you've posted is about her, not about your husband.

But as I said, if you're that worried, talk to him. That's what I'd do. I'd hope that's what most people in a relationship would do. But if your only 'evidence' is that this girl looks posey and sexy in some pictures on a social website that you deliberately went to to find out more about her, then I don't think that says much about your relationship with your husband.

KiKi

Annie75

Browntoa wrote: »

or she could have just had some racey pictures taken by a friend at the "posh house where she works" when no-one was around or had a bit of fun there (not your husband ??)

Could have, but I doubt it. Why would she invite a friend to do that?

wiogs

Annie75 wrote: »

Could have, but I doubt it. Why would she invite a friend to do that?

There could be many reasons, just that you haven't thought of them yet.

imho

Could you not just casually say to him that his women friend looks really nice so you checked her out on FB and mention the racy pics in the house.I know the best answer is dont mention nothing and dont rock the boat but me i would have to mention her.

How long is he going to be out there? I know you mention he has been out there 3 months already. 18% extra pay is not a lot if he is away from home for 6 months.

bryanb

Annie75 wrote: »

her putting her leg up on the desk with her skirt pulled almost up to her hips and her knickers around her knees.

Sounds difficult to achieve!

Annie75

KiKi wrote: »

I'd trust that my husband loves me, wasn't the type to cheat, and if I was that worried I'd talk to him. If you trust your husband then what this girl does is none of your business.

Whether she's gay, straight, pervy, normal, just a poser - shouldn't make a difference. Everything you've posted is about her, not about your husband.

But as I said, if you're that worried, talk to him. That's what I'd do. I'd hope that's what most people in a relationship would do. But if your only 'evidence' is that this girl looks posey and sexy in some pictures on a social website that you deliberately went to to find out more about her, then I don't think that says much about your relationship with your husband.

KiKi

To post something about my husband then, I know he likes a nice bum and she has a very nice bum going by the pictures. I'm not going to accuse him of cheating whilst he is out there, I will wait until he comes home.

Mojisola

Annie75 wrote: »

I'm not going to accuse him of cheating whilst he is out there, I will wait until he comes home.

I hope you mean you'll talk about your worries with him when he comes home, rather than you'll accuse him!