Baby next door crying non-stop!

Reams

pinkshoes wrote: »

Why don't you ask if she'd like a hand in the evening, and offer to push the baby round the block for 30 mins whilst she has a rest?

At least that way, you get exercise, you will be standing right next to screaming babyoso it'll seem quieter when you're in your house, or perhaps the baby will enjoy it and be quiet.

My son loved screaming in the early evening, although we apologised to the neighbours next door!

How about lulu takes around a few accounts that she's been working on and ask her neighbour to sort them. Get her to sort her expenses as well and while at it apply for a new job on her behalf plus a new home.

Reams

therock585 wrote: »

I use to live in a a place where the church bells would go off all day and it would drive me insane. Nobody could do nothing. Council couldnt care less. Colic is very common babies and is usually a very high pitched cry.i hope things get better for you.

I love Church bells and I know when I move somewhere I will hear them.

Reams

maman wrote: »

Whoever told you that??


My DD must have read the same books as you reams. DGD2 was only allowed to nap in the sitting room during the day so she woke up easily and never got enough rest so made everyone tired and grumpy. At my home if she'd nodded off on a walk she slept in her pram (in the dining room with the door shut) or in her cot in a bedroom while I got on with chores elsewhere.

I am no ones DD, my age is 67.

Nicki

notanewuser wrote: »

Poor little lad. You cutting out dairy should have fixed that, and I'm surprised the suggestion wasn't made to you sooner! It's quite a common issue!

And this neatly demonstrates OP what your neighbours are probably experiencing. EVERYONE will know how to stop their baby crying just by looking at him except them!

I lost count of the number of times I was given advice usually contradictory in a day from strangers. None of it worked. Cutting out dairy was one of the first things we tried on medical advice before he was admitted to hospital for failure to thrive. Followed a few weeks later by a revolting milky diet for me "to boost my milk supply" which was then measured by expressing and checking volume. And dummies. Baby too hot/too cold. Feed on demand/you're over feeding him so space feeds out. Various different forms of medication. Wearing him in a sling. Etc, etc.

If they haven't found a way to settle him after so many months my money is on that it isn't for want of trying. And I am heartened that mum can still sometime laugh with her friends and you only heard her snap and swear once. Because she is going through a terribly stressful time, believe me.

notanewuser

Nicki wrote: »

And this neatly demonstrates OP what your neighbours are probably experiencing. EVERYONE will know how to stop their baby crying just by looking at him except them!

I lost count of the number of times I was given advice usually contradictory in a day from strangers. None of it worked. Cutting out dairy was one of the first things we tried on medical advice before he was admitted to hospital for failure to thrive. Followed a few weeks later by a revolting milky diet for me "to boost my milk supply" which was then measured by expressing and checking volume. And dummies. Baby too hot/too cold. Feed on demand/you're over feeding him so space feeds out. Various different forms of medication. Wearing him in a sling. Etc, etc.

How anybody was supposed to have guessed ANY of that from what you posted is beyond me. :huh:

PartTimeMe

Are you generally quite sensitive to noise OP? Just wondered, with your boyfriend not finding the noise an issue. I like quiet, where my husband 'needs' some background noise, such as the tv or music. My neighbour has a woodburner and it drives me half demented him sawing and chopping wood for hours.

The chances of you getting a screamy baby are low, most are fine. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, babies with severe reflux are statistically at a greatly increased risk if abuse due to carers becoming unable to cope with the crying. Since having my so, I can see how a parent could just lose it for a matter of seconds and hurt or worse their child. The noise really is like nothing else, particularly when you are having a biological response to your baby's distress and can't help them.

However, if your relationship with your neighbours isn't great, are you risking a fit for tat complaint everytime someone makes a noise? This would be my concern. Unless you're in a detached property, you are going to get noise (I hear ours using the stairs, shutting doors, banging the hoover against the skirting boards).

A lot of noise complaints are to do with housing stock with poor sound proofing. I remember renting a terrace that was awful, you could hears a toilet flushing a couple of houses away.

We have new neighbours on the attached side (relationship breakdown, not my screaming child) who have 2 primary aged children. The mum screams and swears at them like nothing you've heard, from when they wake up until they go to school, until they go to bed and all day at weekends, if the step-dad isn't around. There's also the children crying, doors slamming etc. What can I do about it? Not much, except hope my child doesn't pick up the language.is it upsetting? Yes.

hngrymummy

PartTimeMe wrote: »

Reading this thread with tears running down my face. When my son was born he did nothing but scream whenever he wasn't sleeping, and he slept for less than a hour at a time then it would take several hours to settle him.

He would scream the second he was put down. For most of the first year I had to hold him or wear him in a sling just to get through the day...

I could've written something similar myself to be honest. My youngest cried from the moment she was born. She only stopped when she was asleep or feeding. Often she'd cry until 1am before conking out on me. I don't know how I functioned. I certainly didn't have the ability to hold a conversation with anyone. I was so sleep deprived and on edge from the constant crying that I would occasionally, to my utter disappointment, shout at them. No amount of cuddling, rocking, patting, swaying, singing, etc etc etc would soothe her. So it probably sounded like I was ignoring her, but I wasn't.

I'd have loved for a neighbour to come round and sit with me and have a coffee. I probably wouldn't have said much though, due to lack of sleep, being on edge from the crying, and being embarassed about the constant noise. I might even have cried at them. I certainly cried at my Health Visitor when she came round and said 'How are you?'

OP, try baking some biscuits and taking them round. You could use the excuse that you made too many and wanted to share.

I know how grating the noise can be and you have my sympathy, but it really is easier to cope with if you know the other people.

Please try again to connect with them, and if you're still worried, try and get hold of your local Health Visitors to express your concerns.

Reams

notanewuser wrote: »

I didn't like it at all, and never subjected my own DD to it. But given the one time I saw them use a monitor at our house they muted the volume on the parent unit it didn't make much difference. Sadly they were/are of the train of thought that babies should sleep when mummy or daddy say so and so any crying wasn't responded to. Made me weep on more than one occasion.

I have made no mention of a monitor and as far as I know, nor has anyone else.

notanewuser

Reams wrote: »

I have made no mention of a monitor and as far as I know, nor has anyone else.

I was illustrating that it wasn't just that the house didn't allow the babies to be heard from their bedrooms, but that the parents didn't want to hear them.

Reams

PartTimeMe wrote: »

Are you generally quite sensitive to noise OP? Just wondered, with your boyfriend not finding the noise an issue. I like quiet, where my husband 'needs' some background noise, such as the tv or music. My neighbour has a woodburner and it drives me half demented him sawing and chopping wood for hours.

The chances of you getting a screamy baby are low, most are fine. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, babies with severe reflux are statistically at a greatly increased risk if abuse due to carers becoming unable to cope with the crying. Since having my so, I can see how a parent could just lose it for a matter of seconds and hurt or worse their child. The noise really is like nothing else, particularly when you are having a biological response to your baby's distress and can't help them.

However, if your relationship with your neighbours isn't great, are you risking a fit for tat complaint everytime someone makes a noise? This would be my concern. Unless you're in a detached property, you are going to get noise (I hear ours using the stairs, shutting doors, banging the hoover against the skirting boards).

A lot of noise complaints are to do with housing stock with poor sound proofing. I remember renting a terrace that was awful, you could hears a toilet flushing a couple of houses away.

We have new neighbours on the attached side (relationship breakdown, not my screaming child) who have 2 primary aged children. The mum screams and swears at them like nothing you've heard, from when they wake up until they go to school, until they go to bed and all day at weekends, if the step-dad isn't around. There's also the children crying, doors slamming etc. What can I do about it? Not much, except hope my child doesn't pick up the language.is it upsetting? Yes.

Wow, am astounded.