Baby next door crying non-stop!

GwylimT

Reams wrote: »

If you cannot hear your baby crying then you are not caring for it correctly.
Babies are not put into isolation of a bedroom, they are kept close. In their pram, car seat or whatever near mum. The only time a baby should sleep in a bedroom is when mum is close having a nap too.

Babies actually have two parents.
Also on a more serious notes babies shouldn't be left sleeping in car seats unless they lay flat, babies under six months shouldn't spend more than two hours at a time in a car seat and must have a lengthy break before being put back into it. This is because it isn't a healthy position for their back or hips, young babies also breathe differently to is and use their lower lungs more and so car seats can affect their breathing.

catkins

OP can I just say I think you are very brave to be going to try for a baby! I am surprised it hasn't put you off ever have one!

Georgiegirl256

lulu_92 wrote: »

Thanks folks. I hope the same! I know I might end up with a child that could cry for England (obviously I hope I don't) but I am the kind of person that will make extra effort to apologise to any annoyed neighbours (I think I've covered this before)
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Even if they apologised profusely, it's not going to stop the crying so what difference would it make? I don't know what answers you expected when you started this thread tbh?

No one should have to put up with their peace being destroyed whilst trying to relax in their own home, and the sound of a screaming baby is like no other, but I ask again, what exactly do you expect your neighbours to do?

Imagine if the situation was reversed? They knocked on your door to complain about the noise of your screaming baby, you apologise, but what else could you do? You do seem very intolerant of your neighbours....even mentioning how you can hear them laugh, do you want them all to wear gags?!

Reams

lulu_92 wrote: »

Have you not heard? You can't bad mouth any aspect of childhood or parenthood!

I have a friend who had a baby in February. He and his girlfriend constantly put photos of her on the internet, followed by a collage of the same photos a few days later. It's the hashtag she uses that makes me laugh though "#unconditionallove" - Well DUH.

But I know if I said anything about people putting too many photos of their kids on Facebook/Instagram/etc you're met with anger especially if you are childless, which leads to questions like "do you have a phobia of children".

Your post lulu quoting hashtags and FB might have been written by your Chinese neighbours as I understand none of it.
I do though understand the current sacrosanct of kids as they are very valuable.

lostinrates

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Even if they apologised profusely, it's not going to stop the crying so what difference would it make? ?!

Tone and context a an make a huge amount of difference.

Lunch out.....with the girls.....or with the boss.

Quickie sex....with a lover in a rush or non consentual, dragged in to a back street.


Terribly made breakfast, in a cafe, or made by an enthusiastic and proud child


All things where the result is very different because the broad ingredients are very different because of context and tone.


Sometimes, just having good relations makes the hard to stand more tenable. And makes you sympathetic not resentful. Sometimes it makes you know whether you need to stop thinking every thing is ok and pick up the phone and call someone to make a judgement because it might NOT be ok.

Georgiegirl256

lostinrates wrote: »

Tone and context a an make a huge amount of difference.

Lunch out.....with the girls.....or with the boss.

Quickie sex....with a lover in a rush or non consentual, dragged in to a back street.


Terribly made breakfast, in a cafe, or made by an enthusiastic and proud child


All things where the result is very different because the broad ingredients are very different because of context and tone.


Sometimes, just having good relations makes the hard to stand more tenable. And makes you sympathetic not resentful. Sometimes it makes you know whether you need to stop thinking every thing is ok and pick up the phone and call someone to make a judgement because it might NOT be ok.

Oh yeah totally but it isn't going to solve the problem though. Also, nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. The neighbour could be the nicest person ever but be hiding something or more likely are pretty grumpy and non responsive due to sleep deprevation.

balletshoes

If it would make you feel less resentful if you knew the baby had a medical problem which was being monitored etc, could you not just assume that to be the case, as you're not on chatting terms with the neighbours? might that, along with looking into earplugs, wireless earphones etc, help you cope a bit?

pinkshoes

Why don't you ask if she'd like a hand in the evening, and offer to push the baby round the block for 30 mins whilst she has a rest?

At least that way, you get exercise, you will be standing right next to screaming babyoso it'll seem quieter when you're in your house, or perhaps the baby will enjoy it and be quiet.

My son loved screaming in the early evening, although we apologised to the neighbours next door!

maman

lulu_92 wrote: »

Have you not heard? You can't bad mouth any aspect of childhood or parenthood!

But I know if I said anything about people putting too many photos of their kids on Facebook/Instagram/etc you're met with anger especially if you are childless, which leads to questions like "do you have a phobia of children".

But you can 'badmouth' them to others of a similar mind.;) SIL and I had a good old natter the other day. She was telling me about her DIL who's just had a baby and is making herself a slave to the child. Thoroughly worn out because she lets it 'graze' so it's never satisfied. Won't let her drink water as some 'private' health person told her babies shouldn't have water.....

Reams wrote: »

If you cannot hear your baby crying then you are not caring for it correctly.
Babies are not put into isolation of a bedroom, they are kept close. In their pram, car seat or whatever near mum. The only time a baby should sleep in a bedroom is when mum is close having a nap too.

Whoever told you that??


My DD must have read the same books as you reams. DGD2 was only allowed to nap in the sitting room during the day so she woke up easily and never got enough rest so made everyone tired and grumpy. At my home if she'd nodded off on a walk she slept in her pram (in the dining room with the door shut) or in her cot in a bedroom while I got on with chores elsewhere.

Reams

lulu_92 wrote: »

No. OH and I are TTC from next month. Not sure of how much of the thread you've read but I did write at some point that I absolutely adore children. I only had one cousin until I was 10 then everyone started having babies so now I have 7 cousins under 12 with very little age gap between each other and grew to be very close to the majority of them because of being around them when they were babies. I'm more of an auntie than a cousin to most of them.

, I don't "adore children." That to me is like saying I adore adults. I don't. Some I like and some I don't.
I like some children, others may be not so much. Some obnoxious brats strangely grow into wonderful adults, in fact the most obnoxious became the best people that I know today.