Baby next door crying non-stop!

GwylimT

Mojisola wrote: »

How can the OP try the nicely nicely approach when the parents won't even response to a "Hello"?

It's a nightmare having a baby who cries a lot, especially if there is a health issue like colic, but if you live in a terrace or a semi you should be considerate towards your neighbours and that means finding ways of reducing the hours of crying or sometimes getting out of the house with the baby.

Until our son was 12 months old to take him out involved a three hour prep, the battery on his ventilation would last thirty minutes, but we were instructed not to take him outside for periods of longer than fifteen minutes unless we were accompanied by one of his specialist nurses. Genuine question, what would you have expected us to do? I'm not trying to be an !!!!, genuinely interested.

I was often pretty much none responsive when I had gotten so little sleep I was admitted to hospital with exhaustion, although I'm often told that my deleterious state often led to some rather interesting conversations.

lulu_92

meer53 wrote: »

If you're going to worry about any long term problems with your neighbours then you have another option. Move. Seems a bit OTT but unless you can either resolve it with them or learn to live with any issues then you're always going to be worried about it.

If you're already worrying about what the future will be like, you're never going to be able to relax. YOU have to make a decision. If it were me, i'd go round and try to explain my concerns but everyone is different.

I've covered on the first page why I haven't moved yet.

GwylimT

lulu_92 wrote: »

No. OH and I are TTC from next month. Not sure of how much of the thread you've read but I did write at some point that I absolutely adore children. I only had one cousin until I was 10 then everyone started having babies so now I have 7 cousins under 12 with very little age gap between each other and grew to be very close to the majority of them because of being around them when they were babies. I'm more of an auntie than a cousin to most of them.

I hope it all goes well, it's a very exciting but nerve wracking time, hopefully soon you will have a lovely 12 week scan picture.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

GwylimT wrote: »

I hope it all goes well, it's a very exciting but nerve wracking time, hopefully soon you will have a lovely 12 week scan picture.

And I sincerely hope you have a placid, long sleeping, happy baby that responds perfectly to everything you do.

Mainly because the desperation, helplessness and sheer soul destroying nature of having a perfectly healthy child who screams and screams and screams, no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, is enough to make a woman seriously consider suicide.

It certainly did me.

Mojisola

GwylimT wrote: »

Until our son was 12 months old to take him out involved a three hour prep, the battery on his ventilation would last thirty minutes, but we were instructed not to take him outside for periods of longer than fifteen minutes unless we were accompanied by one of his specialist nurses. Genuine question, what would you have expected us to do? I'm not trying to be an !!!!, genuinely interested.

Follow the advice given to you by the health professionals.

But I would also hope that you (or a relative or friend) would have explained to the neighbours what the situation was at home and hoped the crying wasn't affecting them too much but that there was nothing more you could do.

lulu_92

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

And I sincerely hope you have a placid, long sleeping, happy baby that responds perfectly to everything you do.

Mainly because the desperation, helplessness and sheer soul destroying nature of having a perfectly healthy child who screams and screams and screams, no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, is enough to make a woman seriously consider suicide.

It certainly did me.

Thanks folks. I hope the same! I know I might end up with a child that could cry for England (obviously I hope I don't) but I am the kind of person that will make extra effort to apologise to any annoyed neighbours (I think I've covered this before)

A couple of years ago (pre-these neighbours) OH and I had an argument and he locked me out of our house in the middle of the night. Now, I was upset but was going to stay at a friends house. One of my other friends thought the solution was to knock on the door really hard for ten minutes solid, and she was hammered so there was no persuading her otherwise. I was fuming because I didn't want to upset the neighbours but she didn't care. It turns out our old neighbour was her auntie so all was well! :rotfl:

Reams

kelpie35 wrote: »

do you have a phobia about babies and children?

I know your question wasn't put to me but as someone said, which I failed to articulate is that a baby/child crying for long stretches is distressing. Apart from nerve shredding, being next door you don't know whether the child is in pain, neglected or what?


Since mine growing up and away, I coo over dogs rather than babies but if one next door cried all day when the owner was home, I'd be wondering what the Hell the poor dog was going through, that along with the annoyance at the noise.
Seems to me that we should all share every parent's babies/children as no criticism is allowed as to noise levels or behaviour.

lulu_92

Reams wrote: »

Seems to me that we should all share every parent's babies/children as no criticism is allowed as to noise levels or behaviour.

Have you not heard? You can't bad mouth any aspect of childhood or parenthood!

I have a friend who had a baby in February. He and his girlfriend constantly put photos of her on the internet, followed by a collage of the same photos a few days later. It's the hashtag she uses that makes me laugh though "#unconditionallove" - Well DUH.

But I know if I said anything about people putting too many photos of their kids on Facebook/Instagram/etc you're met with anger especially if you are childless, which leads to questions like "do you have a phobia of children".

Ivana_Tinkle

Is the baby only crying in the evenings, or is it that you're out in the day and don't hear it? Presumably it's the latter, in which case the parents probably do take it out etc, but there aren't many places you can take a screaming baby at 11pm! (Especially if you have another child to look after as well.)

That's beside the point anyway. I reckon if the sound really is loud enough to drown out conversation in your house, then it's inadequate soundproofing that's your real problem. In a terraced house it's normal that you'd be able to hear a baby crying next door, possibly even over your TV if they're really going for it, but it's not normal for it to be as loud as you describe. I think you need to look into soundproofing.

I wouldn't go over and try to make friends as a way of dealing with this. With the best will in the world, there's nothing you can do to help the situation and it'll be very obvious that you're really there to complain.

Reams

notanewuser wrote: »

It's possible that they don't know baby is crying. My nieces live in a semi which is better insulated between the floors than between the houses. Their neighbour heard the babies cry before they did, sometimes!

If you cannot hear your baby crying then you are not caring for it correctly.
Babies are not put into isolation of a bedroom, they are kept close. In their pram, car seat or whatever near mum. The only time a baby should sleep in a bedroom is when mum is close having a nap too.