Baby next door crying non-stop!

lulu_92

No I am not "sensitive to noise". If you could hear this you would be mad too. OH is in denial because he is in the house less than me so doesn't hear it at much.

yeah in a terraced house you can hear everything. Doors and stairs and whatnot but I have made put so much of it down to the house already.

I think about her coping or not, I do hear her getting very angry towards her eldest quite often, but from what I can gather it's because of his behaviour (kicking and stuff).


look my other neighbour is a builder who has been working on his house, the girl next to him likes to have parties. We don't get as bothered because they have the tendency to make sure they're not bothering us when we're at home, which is what I'd do in all of these situations.

I am not ready to move yet but I will definitely be using that because I do not want it to be affecting us moving.

In this thread I have gave maybe 2 or 3 reasons that I have thought could be behind baby crying.

not once have I told her or anyone else how she should be raising her kids.

It's amazing how quickly i have come across as the bad guy when i don't think i have said anything judgemental or snotty about it.

I have lots of sympathy for those of you who struggled with crying and distressed children, I really do.

whitewing

Maybe the eldest child is stressed out by the baby too.

hawk30

maman wrote: »

But you can 'badmouth' them to others of a similar mind.;) SIL and I had a good old natter the other day. She was telling me about her DIL who's just had a baby and is making herself a slave to the child. Thoroughly worn out because she lets it 'graze' so it's never satisfied. Won't let her drink water as some 'private' health person told her babies shouldn't .

See, this is what I hate. Being 'bad mouthed' because you are following current guidelines (which are to feed on demand and not give babies under 6 months water) just because someone of an older generation didn't do it that way.

My LO cried constantly for the first 6 weeks, until we sorted out her wind issues, and I was like a zombie (I cried a fair bit too). I can't imagine what I would have been like if it went on longer

notanewuser

maman wrote: »

But you can 'badmouth' them to others of a similar mind.;) SIL and I had a good old natter the other day. She was telling me about her DIL who's just had a baby and is making herself a slave to the child. Thoroughly worn out because she lets it 'graze' so it's never satisfied. Won't let her drink water as some 'private' health person told her babies shouldn't have water.....

Damn those newborns and their pea-sized stomachs. Who do they think they are, coming out of their cosy wombs wanting regular feeds and cuddles? They should be sleeping through within 3 days and know that mummy will feed when she wants to, not when they need it. It's how our ancestors did it, after all. We didn't survive thousands of years by responding to our babies' biological needs. Adult wants and desires are far more important. Go away, little one, I'm far too busy to do what you need.

:mad:

They absolutely shouldn't have water, no. Especially not when they're brand new. I suspect your SIL is going to have next to no relationship with her grandchild if she actually believes what you wrote to be at all correct.

I'd suggest she do a little more research before opening her mouth anywhere near her DIL.

Mojisola

hngrymummy wrote: »

I'd have loved for a neighbour to come round and sit with me and have a coffee.

Would you really have welcomed a stranger in the house when you felt so bad?

Why would lulu's neighbour want her in her house when she has friends regularly coming round? What would lulu be able to do for her that her friends can't?

Morglin

lulu_92 wrote: »

No I am not "sensitive to noise". If you could hear this you would be mad too. OH is in denial because he is in the house less than me so doesn't hear it at much.

yeah in a terraced house you can hear everything. Doors and stairs and whatnot but I have made put so much of it down to the house already.

I think about her coping or not, I do hear her getting very angry towards her eldest quite often, but from what I can gather it's because of his behaviour (kicking and stuff).


look my other neighbour is a builder who has been working on his house, the girl next to him likes to have parties. We don't get as bothered because they have the tendency to make sure they're not bothering us when we're at home, which is what I'd do in all of these situations.

I am not ready to move yet but I will definitely be using that because I do not want it to be affecting us moving.

In this thread I have gave maybe 2 or 3 reasons that I have thought could be behind baby crying.

not once have I told her or anyone else how she should be raising her kids.

It's amazing how quickly i have come across as the bad guy when i don't think i have said anything judgemental or snotty about it.

I have lots of sympathy for those of you who struggled with crying and distressed children, I really do.

I have total sympathy for you - whatever the problems next door, they are not your problems, and your life should not be made stressed by it.

There could be any number of reasons why this child is carrying on like this - and guessing won't help.

Health, one of those babies, not being looked after properly - could be anything.

Either way, it sounds as if the parents need some support/help/guidance, and, on that basis, I would be making a referral to SSD - not to allege anything, just to express concern over the excessive crying of this baby.

They will arrange a health visitor call to make sure the baby is bring fed/nurtured properly, and if there are health issues, help with that.

You also have to feel for the older child, who is at school, and needs sleep - the whole house sounds like a madhouse.:eek:

Lin

notanewuser

Morglin wrote: »

You also have to feel for the older child, who is at school, and needs sleep - the whole house sounds like a madhouse.:eek:

Lin

Has the OP said that?

balletshoes

Morglin wrote: »

I have total sympathy for you - whatever the problems next door, they are not your problems, and your life should not be made stressed by it.

There could be any number of reasons why this child is carrying on like this - and guessing won't help.

Health, one of those babies, not being looked after properly - could be anything.

Either way, it sounds as if the parents need some support/help/guidance, and, on that basis, I would be making a referral to SSD - not to allege anything, just to express concern over the excessive crying of this baby.

They will arrange a health visitor call to make sure the baby is bring fed/nurtured properly, and if there are health issues, help with that.

You also have to feel for the older child, who is at school, and needs sleep - the whole house sounds like a madhouse.:eek:

Lin

the OP has already said that the baby has a health visitor, she's seen the HV visiting.

Mojisola

lulu_92 wrote: »

They also have a son who must be about 8 or 9 who likes to mimic the baby and scream loudly himself. If mum gets annoyed she will not hold back from screaming and swearing at the kid too!

notanewuser wrote: »

Has the OP said that?

Unless he's being home-educated, he should be at school.

notanewuser

Mojisola wrote: »

Unless he's being home-educated, he should be at school.

I know. But he may well be home-educated......