Baby next door crying non-stop!

lulu_92

I expected it to be a given that the child goes to school. It is the school holidays at the moment.

theoretica

I don't know if this will help to consider, but of course a baby or young child crying and screaming is a sound we are hardwired to need to do something about - it is how the human race survived! There is a reason why this sound above all others grates on the nerves - yours and the parents.

lulu_92

theoretica wrote: »

I don't know if this will help to consider, but of course a baby or young child crying and screaming is a sound we are hardwired to need to do something about - it is how the human race survived! There is a reason why this sound above all others grates on the nerves - yours and the parents.

I understand that the sound is intended to sound horrible for that reason, but it doesn't really comfort either side knowing that.

Crying started again at around half 8, which is when I guess baby woke up. Was quiet for about two or three hours when it (the crying) starts again. It sounds like a horror film the screams are that bad. It makes me sad to hear because I don't want to know that the baby is unhappy for whatever reason.

Takeaway_Addict

GwylimT wrote: »

The issue is, what do you expect the parents to do?

Sound proof their house, the baby is their responsibility and is affecting other people.

Takeaway_Addict

thorsoak wrote: »

Sadly, babies do not come with noise control.

Just suppose that next door's baby no 1 was like my first two babies - no problem at all. Imagine how they must feel when baby no 2 screams all the time - wouldn't you feel a failure? I know I did! Would you want to talk to your neighbours - and I'll bet they know that you are tutting about the noise - I knew my neighbours were (although in actual fact, my neighbours weren't!) But I felt dreadful. When I went out, I wouldn't want to talk to anyone ...everyone had a different remedy that they wanted to give me and nothing worked - I WAS A FAILURE AS A MUM .

How do you think that feels?

But its not the OP's/neighbours problem how you feel, their problem is the constant nerve shredding noise destroying their enjoyment of their house.

It amazes me the attitude of people that just say tough when they do little to prevent the issues other feel. You could have sound proofed your house when you knew it was an ongoing issue.

thorsoak

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

But its not the OP's/neighbours problem how you feel, their problem is the constant nerve shredding noise destroying their enjoyment of their house.

It amazes me the attitude of people that just say tough when they do little to prevent the issues other feel. You could have sound proofed your house when you knew it was an ongoing issue.

How judgmental can you get! Do you not appreciate that the complete focus on parents of a child who is crying for 50% of his life is on that child? What you can do to make him happy/better? And then the other two children as well? Of course we were worried about the neighbours - who were, as it happens, extremely supportive, having had a crying baby themselves some years before - but our prime concern was the baby - as would any caring parents! Add PND to this mix and most reasonable people would understand.

But I'm talking about 40 years ago - I still remember how helpless I felt - but maybe there was more compassion amongst neighbours then. I see little of it in the responses here today. Plenty about the rights of neighbours - sounds as if we are going back over 100 years, when people could be evicted because their children cried.

Takeaway_Addict

thorsoak wrote: »

How judgmental can you get! Do you not appreciate that the complete focus on parents of a child who is crying for 50% of his life is on that child? What you can do to make him happy/better? And then the other two children as well? Of course we were worried about the neighbours - who were, as it happens, extremely supportive, having had a crying baby themselves some years before - but our prime concern was the baby - as would any caring parents! Add PND to this mix and most reasonable people would understand.

But I'm talking about 40 years ago - I still remember how helpless I felt - but maybe there was more compassion amongst neighbours then. I see little of it in the responses here today. Plenty about the rights of neighbours - sounds as if we are going back over 100 years, when people could be evicted because their children cried.

So if you were worried about your neighbours did you look at sound proofing your house?

I'm not saying your prime concern shouldn't be your baby but you could have done something to help the neighbours out who didn't choose to have their nerves shredded to bits....hence the common misconception that neighbours just have to suck it up (bit in bold emphasises this).

balletshoes

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

Sound proof their house, the baby is their responsibility and is affecting other people.

they rent, so it would be up to the landlord to soundproof the house, wouldn't it?

Takeaway_Addict

balletshoes wrote: »

they rent, so it would be up to the landlord to soundproof the house, wouldn't it?

No, as long as they leave it in the same condition when they leave as when they got it they can do it themselves.

lulu_92

balletshoes wrote: »

they rent, so it would be up to the landlord to soundproof the house, wouldn't it?

I had considered talking to their landlord about it.

It is so difficult to know how to deal with it when it's not really my business what they do.

Take tonight for example. OH and I are sat in our living room with the football on. ALL we can hear is next door. We turn to TV up to an extent but we have neighbours on our other side who have a baby and don't want to disturb them.