I don't feel like i'm suited for relationships. your thoughts/any advice?

jaylee3

BrassicWoman wrote: »

because you ignore all the advice you are given and go your own sweet way.

because you drip feed stories making it impossible to give you advice on half the picture.

because what you are asking changes on a daily basis

because your posts are offensive to women, and to people who have seen the value of therapy

because your posts are about *you* and do not consider the impact on others

because you have not yet learned that the best thing to be in life, above all else, is kind

Look outside of your own world and perspective. All the answers you seek are there.

Go into the world. Be kind.

I agree. And furthermore, people are just bored stiff of hearing the same old same old coming from this poster.

Buzzybee90

Wait, it's not normal to fancy Alan Partridge? ... Oh.

VestanPance

kingslayer wrote: »

here's the thing. I met this girl about a year or so ago and things were going okay, but we weren't in a relationship and i never slept with her; we were just casually hanging out. I became distant as wasn't sure what i wanted, but on top of that my life was (and still is, somewhat) a bit messed up with not knowing where i'm heading etc. She met someone else, but it only lasted a short time (about 2 months) and she has been getting in touch with me again. I started texting her about a 2 months ago, but then stopped talking to her. She again has initiated the contact and about an hour ago i received a text from her out of the blue, just saying "hey" and that was it. I really don't know what to do about her; she is nice enough, but i'm just not sure about pursuing a relationship with her. I know it's what she wants, but i don't know if i want that with her specifically.

You met a girl over a year ago, she's keen and you're not. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that you make it clear to her that you'll never be anything but friends.

Simple relationship rule is that both people should want to be with each other, not just one of them.

Another simple life lesson. Women aren't creatures from another planet. They're just people.

Pollycat

kingslayer wrote: »

here's the thing. I met this girl about a year or so ago and things were going okay, but we weren't in a relationship and i never slept with her; we were just casually hanging out. I became distant as wasn't sure what i wanted, but on top of that my life was (and still is, somewhat) a bit messed up with not knowing where i'm heading etc. She met someone else, but it only lasted a short time (about 2 months) and she has been getting in touch with me again. I started texting her about a 2 months ago, but then stopped talking to her. She again has initiated the contact and about an hour ago i received a text from her out of the blue, just saying "hey" and that was it. I really don't know what to do about her; she is nice enough, but i'm just not sure about pursuing a relationship with her. I know it's what she wants, but i don't know if i want that with her specifically.

How do you know it's what she wants?
That's a big leap to make from a text saying' Hey'.

TBH, from the way you say you've treated this girl in the past - becoming distant, starting texting her then stopping - I would do her a huge favour and forget about a relationship with her.

Get your life 'unmessed-up' then see where you want to be heading.

tea_lover

So people say they're getting bored with your stories and suddenly another 'dilemma' occurs? Convincing.

getmore4less

Have you got any mates? (either gender).

Tropez

kingslayer wrote: »

I realise my head is f***** up! but that doesn't mean people need to lambast me and throw constant insults my way. I don't think i've ever been rude to fellow posters on here, yet posters seem to feel the need to be rude towards me.

When you get a puppy, it does stupid things. It doesn't know any better so the best thing you can do is try to correct its behaviour. Eventually, with constant correction over a period of time, the puppy will learn. Sometimes you get a particularly belligerent puppy who continues to do the things you don't want it to do and you get frustrated with the puppy. It becomes bothersome to keep telling the puppy again and again and again that what it is doing is wrong.

Of course, it's just a puppy. It doesn't understand the words you say and the message you're trying to convey.

You're similar to that belligerent puppy.

Myself and others have suggested you seek therapy, yet you dismiss it despite admitting that you're head is screwed up. It has been pointed out that you have made offensive remarks toward women on here, yet you dismiss them and claim the opposite. People have tried to help you and you have dismissed or even ignored their advice, instead complaining that it's other people. And that's the crux of your argument in general - everyone else is in the wrong, not you.

And like that belligerent puppy you continue to repeat the same negative behaviours over and over and over. Unlike that belligerent puppy, however, you understand English, you understand what people are trying to tell you but you refuse to listen so whereas most people might not bark at the belligerent puppy, they'll bark at you because at this point you refuse to help yourself by listening to people.

The puppy will eventually learn but you? I have my doubts.

Pippin12

Tropez wrote: »

When you get a puppy, it does stupid things. It doesn't know any better so the best thing you can do is try to correct its behaviour. Eventually, with constant correction over a period of time, the puppy will learn. Sometimes you get a particularly belligerent puppy who continues to do the things you don't want it to do and you get frustrated with the puppy. It becomes bothersome to keep telling the puppy again and again and again that what it is doing is wrong.

Of course, it's just a puppy. It doesn't understand the words you say and the message you're trying to convey.

You're similar to that belligerent puppy.

Myself and others have suggested you seek therapy, yet you dismiss it despite admitting that you're head is screwed up. It has been pointed out that you have made offensive remarks toward women on here, yet you dismiss them and claim the opposite. People have tried to help you and you have dismissed or even ignored their advice, instead complaining that it's other people. And that's the crux of your argument in general - everyone else is in the wrong, not you.

And like that belligerent puppy you continue to repeat the same negative behaviours over and over and over. Unlike that belligerent puppy, however, you understand English, you understand what people are trying to tell you but you refuse to listen so whereas most people might not bark at the belligerent puppy, they'll bark at you because at this point you refuse to help yourself by listening to people.

The puppy will eventually learn but you? I have my doubts.

Top post - got it in a nutshell.

Caroline_a

OP - forget relationships. Get a job. Learn about life outside your bedroom. You may think that you're attractive, but you'll be a lot more of a catch if you have some readies and something more to talk about than what's on the telly or what's out of the window...

ska_lover

I asked you how old you are, Kingslayer? You know that some people wait an awfully long time to meet ''the one''.

We don't naturally meet them as a young adult, they might arrive in our lives much later in life