I don't feel like i'm suited for relationships. your thoughts/any advice?

kingslayer

Gingernutty wrote: »

He lives at home with his parents, has no job and as Tropez has stated, goes "batpoo crazy" at the sign of any part of his somewhat limited life changing.

I'm hardly going crazy. I am trying to change my situation. There are a few people on here who seem overly judgemental.

picklekin

Probably because you see them as "these women" your never that into them, but sleep with them anyway... Its never come across like you actually liked and respected them.

I would start by trying to focus on being you, being happy and content in your own skin, get a house, job etc. Once you are happy with who you are you can start trying to find love, your trying to find someone to MAKE you happy, and you need to be happy first then love can follow.

I don't know what therapies are our there for this (maybe Psychotherapy?) but you could do with talking through you attitude towards women, it often comes across as pretty negative or as if we are another species.

tea_lover

It's definitely you.

Tropez

kingslayer wrote: »

I'm hardly going crazy. I am trying to change my situation. There are a few people on here who seem overly judgemental.

No, you're not going crazy, you already are crazy.

You blow someone off for three dates, one to watch boxing, and yet you still consider yourself a nice guy.

You sleep with that woman, eventually, then spend hours upon hours going through a selection of absurd theories on here, effectively calling her a tramp, suggesting she might be a prostitute, panicking about the "relationship" and what it means rather than just talking to someone like a sane person.

Your laptop is giving off a burning smell but you continue to use it, showing a complete lack of common sense.

You consistently post threads such as this with a "woe is me" tale, when in reality all you're doing is convincing everybody you're some sort of insecure mess and here's the secret, people don't want to be in a relationship with an insecure mess. They want someone who isn't going to start analysing every little thing while they let they mind concoct whackjob theories about every insignificant aspect of their life.

I'd imagine, based purely on your repeated insecure posts on here, women who date you for a while probably realise that actually being with you long term would be a chore.

If you want to change your situation you need to actually listen to what people are repeatedly telling you. You ignore all positive advice, preferring to continue languishing in your self-constructed pit of despair because it seems that having a whine on a message board about how women don't get you and you don't like your life is more comfortable for you than growing a pair of testicles, developing a backbone and actually working on becoming someone who isn't such a burden to date.

If all your potential relationships go south complaining that you're meeting the "wrong women" doesn't cut it anymore - there's one constant element of all those relationships and that is you.

spiritsfree

You`re not ready for a relationship yet !!! End of !!

kingslayer

BrassicWoman wrote: »

Listen to what you are constantly being told on here?

Refuse to shag before the 4th date?

I don't have sex with them for us to not speak again. I don't know where i'm going wrong tbh. I am nothing but respectful and take interest in the person, so i've no idea.

BrassicWoman

kingslayer wrote: »

I don't have sex with them for us to not speak again. I don't know where i'm going wrong tbh. I am nothing but respectful and take interest in the person, so i've no idea.

I just told you where. Stop shagging before you get to know them properly.

AND LISTEN,

kingslayer

picklekin wrote: »

Probably because you see them as "these women" your never that into them, but sleep with them anyway... Its never come across like you actually liked and respected them.

I would start by trying to focus on being you, being happy and content in your own skin, get a house, job etc. Once you are happy with who you are you can start trying to find love, your trying to find someone to MAKE you happy, and you need to be happy first then love can follow.

I don't know what therapies are our there for this (maybe Psychotherapy?) but you could do with talking through you attitude towards women, it often comes across as pretty negative or as if we are another species.

therapy sounds a bit extreme. i don't think i have a bad attitude towards women, and i am sometimes happy in myself (depending on my moods) i just need to have some kind of plan of action as at the moment i don't.

dandelionclock30

No decent woman would go out with someone like you I'm afraid. So you might as well just forget it. You come out with things that Alan Partridge would say and thats very unattractive to any woman.

Lily-Rose_3

Tropez wrote: »

Possibly because whenever you do meet someone soon after you go batpoo crazy and start assassinating their character on message boards with zany theories about why they may be a prostitute instead of talking to them like a sane person?

Just a thought...

Yes I agree. And there are quite a lot of posters joining lately too, with almost identical issues about 'relationship problems' as 'kingslayer.' All varying degrees but still very similar.

One just posted a few minutes ago. Same poo different day ...